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Is there a point where I should stop trying to carry my 2 year old? He weighs around 30lbs right now and still liked to be picked up and held a lot or sit in my lap when we are together. Is there a point where picking him up is going to be bad for the baby? If anything I need to pick him up in and out of his crib, onto the changing table, and sometimes into his careseat and high chair. Is this going to be a problem later on? I should ask my Dr I think right?
I don't worry about it. My son is 32 lbs and while I don't carry him as much as I used to, I do still pick him up when he wants hugs, is tired, or for the crib, changing table, brushing teeth, etc. I even still wear him sometimes for a couple of hours at a time. I plan to stop whenever it becomes too hard for me, but so far I'm fine.
Lisa, mom to Alie and Christian
If you were doing it frequently before pregnancy then they say it is safe to do it during pregnancy (while using common sense, of course). I have three boys, my oldest is almost thirteen, my middle son is ten, and my youngest is four. I carried my children all through out my pregnancies with no difficulties. If you begin to feel strain from carrying him then it's time to get in the practice of using a stroller or making him walk.
I still pick my son up just as I did before. I know they told me nothing more than 25 lbs but I think they understand with toddlers it's not always realistic. My son will be 3 in March and he's only 27 lbs, he's a little guy
Same here! Connor will be 3 in May and, although I haven't weight him recently, I'd guess he's around 30 lbs now. He also loves to sit in my lap, the bigger my belly gets the less lap there will be for him to sit in!
My 4 year old weighs 32lbs... yes my kids are bitty and my 2 year old around 21lbs. I life them both daily and will until I am told not to. With my second DS I lifted my first the whole time even when I was on restricted activity because I had no other choice...
Lots of 2010 babies in here I see Drake will be 3 in June. Ok good to know its ok since I do like holding him still, its the last time Ill have just one to snuggle
Is there a problem when he crawls on me? Like when Im on the couch he will climb up. I guess as long as he isnt stepping directly on where the baby is it should be ok? Like if he is laying on me his weight is better dispersed?
Last edited by enchantingdragon; November 24th, 2012 at 08:51 PM.
The fetus is pretty well protected in there so I really wouldn't worry about a kid in your lap hurting it. I think it is more about your own comfort. I am always telling DD that mommy's tummy hurts and be gentle, because it can really make me nauseous if she pushes on my stomach or whatever. But I am not worried about the baby!
I am trying not to lift and carry DD more than I have to, just because she is like a sack of bricks (almost 30 lb at around 18 months!!) And I am tired a lot I think like anything it's just about maintaining your comfort and not straining too much. When you are used to lugging around a big toddler it does not strain you like it would if you were not used to it. I know my arms and shoulders are soooo much stronger than they used to be before I had this huge girl to take care of!!!
I carried Isaac around all the time when I was pregnant with Gabriel. Even at 9 months pregnant! The belly was almost like a shelf that made it easier for me to carry him, I'd guess he was around 30lbs back then at almost 2 years old. Now he's 5 and 43lbs and Gabe is 3 and 35lbs and I still pick them both up. I just love a cuddle with my little guys and I won't stop picking them up until they really are too big, or just don't want me to!
Mommy to Isaac 8.1.07 Gabriel 7.2.09 and Samuel 6.15.13
Angel Babe 9-16-2012 5wks