We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
Yep. EVERYTHING. Being a first time mom...I'm freaking out all the time about it all. What if I'm a bad mother? What if I can't handle the constant crying? What if I can't even master diapering? Then of course there's the silly ones like...what if I forget my baby in the car? What if I put the baby on the couch and he/she rolls off? What if I drop him/her?! .... I have three much younger siblings and a young niece and nephew...I've been around babies and kids a long time. I know these fears are normal and things will be fine, but some days it's really overwhelming.
I am mainly worried about going from 1 to 2. I want M to be happy about her sibling and not feel abandoned or less loved, and I want the new baby to get all their needs met even though M still has lots of needs too. I am hopeful too though. M is very interested in babies and starting to care more for her stuffed animals and dolls so I am hoping she will be a good helper and have a little doll baby of her own to imitate me with
Oddly, not yet. Obviously the whole "when am I ever going to sleep again?" concern, but I'm trying to hard to just remain zen about this pregnancy that I haven't allowed myself to get too worked up over the fact that there's a baby at the end of this whole ordeal. Later on, I'm sure I'll turn into a mess like usual.
09/03 - 09/06 - 06/13
"Would I rather be feared or loved? Um ... easy, both. I want people to be afraid of how much they love me." - Michael Scott
I am worried about DD....she has had my undivided attention and she hasnt had to share me. She is also a bit rough sometimes still with the dogs and cats when excited...she will start off gentle then get excited and grab onto fur. I am also worried what will happen if they both need me at once...that sort of thing.
Like shen, my biggest worry is going from 1 to 2. But since dd already has a younger sib (on her dad's side), I also think she'll do great with the baby. Plus, she'll be almost 4 (her bday is in July) so she'll be a little more mature and I just know she'll be a great helper.
Another worry is that BF won't let me have ME time with the baby. lol I'm silly, I know.
I'm definitely worried about being pulled in a bunch of directions, too. My boys are already so demanding of my attention. Though my oldest is definitely getting better about being more independent, but he's also still learning about that independence and it results in a lot of messes. I worry about sleep. I'm usually a night owl and I like to stay up till 11pm or later, but my boys wake up 6-7am and I know I can't be going to bed that late AND waking up with a newborn and expect to wake up early in the morning and not be a complete bear all day. I just pray this little one is like my first and works into a good sleep routine early in life, that would be so wonderful!
Mommy to Isaac 8.1.07 Gabriel 7.2.09 and Samuel 6.15.13
Angel Babe 9-16-2012 5wks
I'm already fearing what happens with work after having the baby. Not sure if we can swing me being at home again, but I am already worried about not being able to leave my baby with someone else. Seriously wishing I had won the powerball last night
Tons! Im worried about splitting my time between the 2 babies (my son is always going to be my baby too) I worry about sleep I worry about energy I worry about patience I worry about juggling work I worry about my marriage I worry if my son will get jealous, upstet, sad I worry I wont have time with my son the way I do now I worry about so much but mostly I worry I wont be able to bond with this one the way I have with my son
I think my biggest concern is the massive amount of transition that everyone around us is going to go through. My SO, me, his son, my kids, his parents (if they ever come around), my mom, his ex, my ex.... the list is endless. With everyone having such negative reactions... is there ever going to be room to have joy?
Melissa, Mom to DS Zeke (10/12/2001) and DD Paxton (05/29/2003)
I am worried about my husband working the crappy shift he works that basically leaves me a single mom all week long (he works overtime on the weekends) to 3 kids, and I'm afraid...really afraid...that I'm going to run out of gas with the lack of sleep.
He has been trying to get moved to first shift which would make my life so much easier.