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November 30th, 2012, 01:36 PM
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Hiiii girls. I've been insanely busy and going through a lot, not been around much
I missed being around! Hopefully things are calm now and I can be active.

But I was just curious- anyone conflicted at this point about finding out the sex?
I'll be 14 weeks soon (whoa?) and we still have no idea if we're finding out or keeping it a surprise. It's getting frustrating for me, but we keep switching back and forth.

Anyone else undecided? Sigh.
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November 30th, 2012, 01:58 PM
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I definitely want to know! I don't have the patience to wait.

Glad you're back!
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November 30th, 2012, 02:32 PM
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I have thought it would be cool but wanting to know outweighs that for me. I would have much more fun preparing/buying if I know the sex. I can paint a name sign, buy outfits, and I want to know whether or not to sell/give away my dd's clothes or not, prepare my daughter by talking about him or her. I just find so many more positives about finding out.
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November 30th, 2012, 02:37 PM
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I've been getting hounded lately about whether we are going to find out, but it's never been a question for us that we weren't going to. We didn't find out with our first two, and I thought for sure the waiting would bug me. But it didn't, really. I had so many other things I was focused on, and honestly I kind of like that it bugged other people we weren't finding out lol

For this pregnancy in particular, it is our last, we we figured one last surprise.
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November 30th, 2012, 03:32 PM
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I'm not sure. We found out with our girls but it might be kind of fun waiting for the surprise. I doubt I can convince DH to wait
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November 30th, 2012, 03:43 PM
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Oh no way would I wait. Id rather know in advance. That way I can buy specific clothes and decorate the nursery in a theme and i am sooo not a fan or gender neutral on girls. Then I can also help prepare DD. Do a name wall hanging. All sorts of things
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November 30th, 2012, 04:21 PM
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We will definitely find out! I do not like surprises, and I HAVE to plan ahead!

Glad you are back. I was getting worried!
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November 30th, 2012, 04:48 PM
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We definatly want to find out! I found out with my daughter and loved decorating everything in pink.
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November 30th, 2012, 04:53 PM
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Yeah, I can't get the anatomy scan and not watch every second, and more often than not it is pretty obvious plus it is fun to know and be able to tell people!
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November 30th, 2012, 05:50 PM
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With my son, I was 100% on not finding out. Hubby wanted to, but I made him wait. I said we could find out with our second. Well, he ended up LOVING finding out in the delivery room that he wants to wait again. But I want to know! He said I could find out if I want...I'm just not allowed to tell him. I'd HAVE to tell family though!! And it'd get back to him at some point and he'd be mad that I told. So I guess we're gonna wait. Part of me wants to experience it in the delivery room again though. I'll admit it was pretty darn cool. Our nursery is gender neutral so it doesn't matter. I knew I didn't want to spend the money or time to decorate the same room twice if we had different genders.
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November 30th, 2012, 07:30 PM
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I went back and forth with my first, so I understand the confusion...
Although advice can be annoying, it was the one time I appreciated someone giving me some-- and the advice was that getting to know this little souls personality and spirit was the true gift, the gender was just the bow. So, we made a big deal about finding out the gender, and enjoyed that moment, and with each baby- that moment when they entered the universe and released their soul into was the true surprise.

Luckily, SO is ok with finding out the gender, and with an amnio, there will be no doubt about accuracy, so I am pretty lucky in that!

Good luck making the decision, it's the first of many tough parenting decisions!
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November 30th, 2012, 07:30 PM
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We have always found out. They have never been wrong. But I think it would be really awesome to wait until delivery.
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November 30th, 2012, 07:49 PM
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I went back and forth with my first, so I understand the confusion...
Although advice can be annoying, it was the one time I appreciated someone giving me some-- and the advice was that getting to know this little souls personality and spirit was the true gift, the gender was just the bow. So, we made a big deal about finding out the gender, and enjoyed that moment, and with each baby- that moment when they entered the universe and released their soul into was the true surprise.
This is so sweet and so true. For all you might think it will help you "get to know" the baby to know the gender in advance, NOTHING compares with the feeling of meeting them face to face... *sniff* ok now I'm getting all sentimental lol
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November 30th, 2012, 09:43 PM
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We're finding out for sure. I want to know so that I can decorate and buy pink or blue things. I think it's awesome that people have the will power and the patience to wait until they have it to find out, but I am already so impatient and wish I could find out now! I know that I would never make it the whole time!
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November 30th, 2012, 09:52 PM
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Since this is probably out last and we already have one of each, I wanted to wait. DF won't have it lol. So instead, we will probably wait to meet him/her before picking a name. We will probably narrow it down to a short list and see what fits best when we meet face to face.
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December 1st, 2012, 04:51 AM
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We really wanted to wait. We have been set on that for awhile but then when our first IVF failed and we knew the second time we would put back two we said then that if they both took and we had twins we would find out. For us it was more of a fincancial decision than anything at this point. We spent so much money on IVF that we know we will need all the help we can get. Bargain and consignment shopping ahead of time makes so much more sense now than going out later and getting clothes. There's only so much gender netrual things and they can't last but so long. If we are ever able to have a singleton (if we ever dig up the money to do IVF again) then we will be waiting until birth.
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December 1st, 2012, 05:12 AM
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Oh I will without a doubt be finding out. I imagine I will start hounding at my 15 week scan (I get them every week) to see if they know! You do what is best for you hunny girl. But I have to say I never for one second did not want to know. There is so much to take in during the delivery and it is just as much of a surprise to me when they tell me at the ultrasound as if they told me when the baby was born.
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December 1st, 2012, 06:25 AM
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I just gotta know! I have no patience!
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December 1st, 2012, 07:09 AM
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With my first pregnancy I was going to be surprised, but when I found out I was having twins I was like heck yeah I need to know...lol. I'm so ready to know the sex of this one, so excited to start buyingstuff. This is our last so I want it to be as special as possible.
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December 1st, 2012, 07:14 AM
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I sort of want to wait. It's my first, and possibly my last, so the idea of waiting until the very end to find out is very appealing to me. However, the baby's dad wants to know and of course so does everyone else. I thought about having the tech at the 20 week scan put the gender in an envelope and saving it without anyone knowing until I was ready to do a reveal. I was thinking about giving it to my best friend or my mom and having them prepare an easy reveal (probably a balloon reveal), that way it's a surprise for everyone involved except the person that prepared it. I personally prefer neutral colors over baby blue and pink, so that's not an issue for me. Good luck on the tough decision!
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