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So, today is the day that SO and I will tell my mom about the baby. To say I am nervous is an understatement. We wanted to wait until after Thanksgiving, as it was my mom's first holiday without my dad.
She is going to be upset and disappointed, because even though we are older and established, 36 and 43, our relationship is pretty new, we are both recently divorced, and we are not married.
Could use all the prayers you can spare!!
Melissa, Mom to DS Zeke (10/12/2001) and DD Paxton (05/29/2003)
we didn't do it!! and not because we are total chickens.
Here's the story. SO and I went out to breakfast and were talking about how we were going to tell her, etc... When we started talking about the amnio and the possible results from that, the impact on the kids, the families, etc, and all the questions that were sure to come up from that. We both kind of looked at each other and said- let's wait until after the amnio.
My mom is still heavily grieving the loss of my dad, and her health isn't the best at all. We decided that putting the stress of the amnio on top of the stress of finding out we were pregnant probably wasn't the most fair thing in the world, so we are going to wait until after the amnio results.
Of course, my belly is POPPING out, so that is a little awkward!! But I feel comfortable that it was the right decision.
I was conceived mere weeks after my great-grandfather passed away. My great grandmother was CONVINCED that I carry my great grandfather's soul and it made us really really close. I was lucky enough to have my great-grandmother in my life until I was 15 years old and I probably spend at least one day a week at her house until i moved away and then we became penpals and would write letters to each other. I lived in northern virginia and she was still in connecticut.
I think, with my new life, she was able to channel her grief into something positive. As silly as it may seem, I really do think I house my great grandfather's spirit, because I loved that woman to the moon and back.
You might be surprised how telling her about this baby, might be the blessing she needs.