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  #21  
December 30th, 2012, 12:42 AM
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Congrats to you. Gender disappointment happens. You'll be so happy when you hold your newest son .
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December 30th, 2012, 09:20 AM
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Congrats!!! So jealous that you know already!

As far as gender disappointment goes, I had it bad with DS. I guess I had always envisioned DD having a little sister to play with so it took me some time to envision the reality of our family having a little boy instead. I was feeling super guilty about my feelings until someone in my DDC posted a thread regarding gender disappointment. I was shocked to see just how many mamas were having similar feelings.
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December 30th, 2012, 09:33 AM
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I appreciate all the support ladies, it means a lot. Thank you for sharing your stories with me, it's nice to know I am not alone.
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December 30th, 2012, 09:40 AM
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Congratulations!! Your little girl will be an extra special (more than she is now) daddy's little girl. I have 2 brothers and used to always want a sister. But I never had to share my clothes or get hand-me-downs, so yay!
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December 30th, 2012, 09:45 AM
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I think a lot of it is I have a sister and we don't have a good relationship at all and I always wanted my future daughter to have a different relationship with a sister that I will never have. I know there is no guarantee that they would but that is the dream in my head.
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December 30th, 2012, 10:52 AM
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Congrats!
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December 30th, 2012, 02:13 PM
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Congrats i understand what you are going through- i actually cried when i found out mason was a boy. i felt like the worst mother in the world. That little boy will be so precious
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December 30th, 2012, 02:42 PM
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Aw congrats!!
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December 30th, 2012, 02:53 PM
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Congrats! Just try to remember that the teenage drama will be a little less with a boy!
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December 30th, 2012, 03:51 PM
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It has been hard for me! My daughter is going to be the only girl I think and that is hard on me. I was always really close with my sister. I am also soooo tired of looking at boy stuff after having a boy and lots of nephews.

I was reading articles on gender disappointment and one statement really stood out to me. It said that it can be a grief process! You have to let go of a dream you had for your future (or your daughters future), and you have to let yourself mourn over that. I may never have another little girl, and I am going to mourn that. And it is normal, and it is okay! And you are so NOT ALONE.

Hang in there.
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December 30th, 2012, 04:12 PM
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We must have read the same article

See I'm not close to my sister, in fact I have her blocked on fb if that tells you anything. I wanted for my daughter what I didn't have. I wasn't a drama filled teenager growing up. In fact I loved going places with my parents. My mom was and still is my best friend.

Seriously ladies thank you so much for sharing your stories, and being open with me! It has helped so much!
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December 30th, 2012, 06:58 PM
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Congrats on your sweet boy!
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December 30th, 2012, 10:45 PM
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I completely understand. I'm on the fence about finding out because I have two daughters and a son. I would LOVE to have another boy. But I KNOW I will be disappointed if its not. Like really disappointed!! So maybe I keep telling myself it's better for me to wait??? Then I can't be upset when baby is here! But what if it's worse? Now you have time to deal with those feelings at least just want you to know you're not alone
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December 30th, 2012, 10:54 PM
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Thanks very much ladies! I had a rough morning, but I got it all out. I put it together as to why I feel this way and now I can work on it bond with this little boy, choose his name ect.

Thank you so much for not making me feel horrible for feeling this way,'it really means the world!
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December 31st, 2012, 06:22 AM
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Your little girl will get to be the little princess!! And she will be so well protected with three brothers!

I REALLY want a girl. But I'm pretty convinced this baby is a boy. Being that it's my first, I feel like I should be happy with either, but I've always wanted a little girl. And I think I'm afraid I may never get that if this is a boy. (Like will I have another kid or if future kids are boys, etc). I think part of me is convincing myself this is a boy so that I won't be upset if it isn't a girl. But based on how bummed I was when intelligender said boy, I really need to start working harder to convince myself! I want to be happy if it's a boy and then if it turns out to be a girl, I will be super excited. And I'm sure I will be happy no matter what because I just want to know! This next month is going to drag by!

I think it is normal for some people to have a preference one way or the other, though not everyone does, and totally normal to be disappointed if it turns out differently than what you had hoped. But either way, you will be so in love with that little guy when you see his face and this disappointment will be long gone by then! Don't feel bad or guilty for feeling this way, you aren't the only one!
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December 31st, 2012, 06:40 AM
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I feel the same way. I have a little girl and so people naturally think I want a boy to have one of each, but I can only picture and imagine having a girl. I think I will be happy if it's a boy because it will be new and different but I also really would be excited for my daughter to have a sister. I am already getting annoyed by family members sharing their opinion about how they hope it's a boy. I think I am overly being pushed towards "pro-girl" because I do not want people to think I am disappointed with another girl because I wouldn't be! I will smack anyone who says a rude comment if it's a girl. I honestly think that I would be happy either way but I am imagining a girl. When I tell people I want her to have a sister (I am very close to my sister and not close to my brother) they remind me that they have a brother they are very close to or that they have a sister they are not close to, so it makes me realize that gender has nothing to do with it, it is just my experience. Anyway, I understand totally where you are coming from.

If I had had a boy first, I know I would be really wishing for a girl and would probably have gender disappointment if it was another boy.
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