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January 3rd, 2013, 11:42 AM
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So when I had my first my DDC did a thread where btdt moms shared things with new moms that sometimes you dont hear or expect.Also they shared tips. I thought I would start one here for our new moms.

I was surprised that when your water breaks it is not a one time thing! You keep leaking large amounts the whole time you are in labor! No one told me that!

I found the mesh underwear and pads they give you are amazing after birth!

Have a supply of witch hazel pads in stock for after birth. They are awesome for soothing! The hospital will give you some probably but keep lots in stock!

You dont have to rush to the hospital after your water breaks. If you can take a shower first..do! You dont know when the next one will be!

I will try and think of more!
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January 3rd, 2013, 12:11 PM
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January 3rd, 2013, 12:12 PM
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Ask for stool softners as quickly after labor as possible. Trust me on this one. Even if you are not constipated, they help a lot. In my case, since I was a c-section I was on clear liquids until I passed gas or had a bowel movement. Between pregnancy and the tons of pain killers they were pumping into me, I was extremely constipated. I asked for one the next day and it was the best thing I ever did!

Get up and move around as soon as they let you and take a shower. It is rough, but it really makes you feel better and speeds the recovery.
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January 3rd, 2013, 12:25 PM
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Keep the tips coming!!
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January 3rd, 2013, 12:37 PM
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Be prepared for them to massage your uterus after birth. If you want to BF make it perfectly clear to everyone! They usually stock the carts with bottles ect also you can go with your baby wherever they take them, do not let them tell you otherwise! You can refuse any treatment (obviously in life or death situations it's different).

Don't worry about pooping while pushing you won't even notice. And they see it everyday.
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January 3rd, 2013, 12:40 PM
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Pooping while pushing is a big fear!
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January 3rd, 2013, 12:43 PM
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Sit up during labor...dont lay down...itll go quicker if you let gravity help. Also when pushing you may empty your bowels...its a space issue. (Haha i was warned of this and told to try and #2 before i reached the pushing stage) Also...you may strip when close to the pushing stage...its normal completely. And the worst part isnt the pushing...thats easy. The hard part is the contractions. By the time you start pushing your body naturally pumps itself with endorphins which makes the hurting lessen.
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January 3rd, 2013, 12:43 PM
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Your body really does its best before birth to clean itself out, it really is an amazing process!

In a natural labor you may completely loose control of your body. With Everett I laid down right before pushing and I had no control of it.
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January 3rd, 2013, 01:12 PM
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Shew, what have I gotten myself into?!? Haha just kidding.
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January 3rd, 2013, 01:25 PM
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Do not feel pressured into letting ANYONE in the delivery room you aren't 100% comfortable with. Without going into great details publicly ... you might think you'll be too out of it to notice but that isn't necessarily the truth.

Ditto the stool softeners. I cried the first time I had a bowel movement after delivery.

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Pooping while pushing is a big fear!
99% chance you won't even know you did

You might just get the shakes. I walked from my delivery room to recovery room, and had to have a nurse on each side of me because I felt fine until I stood up and my whole body just started shaking. Totally normal, but kinda freaky when it happens.

A shower will never feel so good, yet be so awkward.
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January 3rd, 2013, 01:31 PM
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You will likely be high and not able to sleep after delivery. It's the craziest feeling ever.
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January 3rd, 2013, 01:41 PM
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Oh wow. I'm already addicted to this thread! Please keep it coming ladies, you've all touched on stuff I have questions and fears about and I love hearing your input.
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January 3rd, 2013, 01:46 PM
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if you want skin-to-skin time with baby before they do anything, TELL THEM.. Otherwise, you may not get to hold baby for 10+ minutes. Also, if you plan to BF, I recommend asking them not to give baby a pacifier.
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January 3rd, 2013, 01:47 PM
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Know that no matter how your birth goes, all that you nee to remember is that you will have produced a beautiful little miracle. There is no perfect birth, sometimes complications happen that are out of your control! Do your best! All the gory details will be so worth it when baby Is in your arms!
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January 3rd, 2013, 01:58 PM
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Thanks ladies love this thread.
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January 3rd, 2013, 02:49 PM
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Also If you want DH/DF/SO to cut the cord...tell the doc first...otherwise they may not give him a chance. Also....episiotomys are not a necessity usually. They used to always do them....you can request they dont...you may or may not even tear down their...and often if you do tear its less stitches than an episiotomy.
Also....dont be upset if your birth plan doesnt go as you hoped it would.....In other words..Sh*t happens.
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January 3rd, 2013, 03:00 PM
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Also on the birth plan bit, it is also okay to be upset as well, let yourself grieve but not too much. If you feel you may have postpartum depression don't be ashamed ask for help!

Don't be afraid to tell the nurses to come back later, especially if you are resting!
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January 3rd, 2013, 03:02 PM
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Your birth will be like NO ONE else's ... my mom liked to tell me how fast her deliveries went and blah blah blah ... and mine have been NOTHING like her's.
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January 3rd, 2013, 03:41 PM
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Be prepared for them to massage your uterus after birth.
And by "massage" she means the nurse will push on your stomach with all her might several times. I thought it felt worse than labor.

Do your research on newborn procedures. My hospital will immediately put baby skin to skin on your chest (as long as baby is looking healthy), and will do the basic checks on baby and mom while baby is still there. They don't weigh or measure after at least an hour or two because that initial warmth and contact is way more important than how much they weigh. I would also recommend not bathing baby right away. It makes it harder for them to be able to regulate body temperature.
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January 3rd, 2013, 03:52 PM
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Don't forget flip flops or slippers to wear while walking around the hospital between your room and the nursery, etc. The floors in a hospital are gross and somehow the little dinky socks they give you never felt like enough lol
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