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January 17th, 2013, 09:34 AM
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January 17th, 2013, 11:37 AM
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((hugs)) I'm a people pleaser, too, and it took me a long time to realize I didn't HAVE to play mediator. I finally just took myself out of the equation and concentrated on me and mine. It's hard, especially when you've spent your whole life stuck in the middle, but the burden that lifts when you realize you dn't have to keep/make everyone happy ... wow.

I say do what is best for you and yours, and if other people have a problem with it, they'll have to learn to deal with it on their own. You can't make everyone happy, and you definitely can't make yourself happy if you're trying to please everyone else. It's a big vicious circle, and a lot of stress that you definitely don't need right now.
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January 17th, 2013, 12:17 PM
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((hugs)) I'm a people pleaser, too, and it took me a long time to realize I didn't HAVE to play mediator. I finally just took myself out of the equation and concentrated on me and mine. It's hard, especially when you've spent your whole life stuck in the middle, but the burden that lifts when you realize you dn't have to keep/make everyone happy ... wow.

I say do what is best for you and yours, and if other people have a problem with it, they'll have to learn to deal with it on their own. You can't make everyone happy, and you definitely can't make yourself happy if you're trying to please everyone else. It's a big vicious circle, and a lot of stress that you definitely don't need right now.
Youre so right! Thanks reading your reply made me feel lots better! Trying to please everyone else all the time and making sure no ones mad at me because I try not to take any sides makes me miserable!!! Ive gotta stop for myself so Im not so dang miserable!
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January 17th, 2013, 12:34 PM
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I used to be terrified of having someone/anyone be mad at me. It took a long time to realize it wasn't the end of the world if someone was mad at me or didn't like how I handled something. You can do it
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January 17th, 2013, 12:44 PM
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Hugs hun. Speak your mind and dont worry about pleasing others so much.
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I have a hard time with this too! Huge hugs Hun!
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January 17th, 2013, 02:40 PM
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I am sorry. I often feel the same way in my family. I have been trying not to let other people's behaviors affect my happiness. It is hard.
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January 17th, 2013, 05:21 PM
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It's sad that your family cannot show support. The number of children you and dh decide to have is a personal decision. If you are taking good care of your children,that is what is important. There are terrible parents to solo children and great parents to large families.
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