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January 25th, 2013, 12:31 PM
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I feel a tad guilty being my son lives with my ex husband and this baby is going to be with me full time. I feel guilty that this baby will get more time with mommy than he does. I don't know how not to feel this way
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January 25th, 2013, 12:38 PM
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Aw, I can relate. I share custody of my daughter with her father and my son and this baby are with me full time. It is hard. I cry alot because I miss her and it seems like not enough time with us. It just doesn't seem fair sometimes. I just try to make the most of the time we have all together and take her to do alot of things.. so at least even though it is less time, it is good quality time.

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January 25th, 2013, 12:54 PM
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I only get my son every other weekend as well as some holidays and days he's out of school yet it still equals to Max about 12 days a month of seeing him
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January 25th, 2013, 12:56 PM
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oh that is tough. I don't really have any advice but wanted to say I am sorry you are going through this
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January 25th, 2013, 12:59 PM
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I'm sorry Hun! I don't have any advice but wanted to offer hugs!
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January 25th, 2013, 01:48 PM
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No advice here either but it must be very difficult. When DH and I weren't together I had full custody of DD and he never got her overnight so i've never had to deal with that. Are you wanting your son with you more often? Or are you just having trouble dealing with the emotions your feelings with having a baby fulltime and feeling guilty that your son isn't getting that time with you?
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January 25th, 2013, 03:47 PM
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Well when we divorced he was midway through school and I moved a county away but judge would not allow me to take him out of school nor have him full custody unless I stayed in same city and lived close to school. At that point I had no job so no money to get a house/apartment near him. I feel I was backed into a corner. I would have to go to court in a full blown custody case for custody of him and I don't have funds for lawyer as im the only one bringing home a paycheck since fiancé still has no job and now with a wedding march 30 and baby.....im drained of extra money. I feel real guilty this baby will have more time with me than my son will have had within the last year and half.
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January 25th, 2013, 03:57 PM
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So sorry you are feeling that way. I think every blended family home feels the same way. I know my DH feels that way even though SS's time is split 50/50. Its hard to make sure every one on each side of the family is included.
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January 25th, 2013, 05:50 PM
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I am sorry. I have no insights ino this. I do see a lot of friends struggle with and they just make the most of the time they have.
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January 25th, 2013, 07:25 PM
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Oh we always have every Night is movie night and we go to the park, festivals, etc every time we have him. I'll get him possibly the month he'S out of school which is June and that makes me feel more guilty because I'll have a brand new baby and he's been my only baby for the past 6 years And I'm afraid with a new baby, attempting to breastfeed (didn't with him) and lack of sleep I'll be more separated from him
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January 25th, 2013, 07:27 PM
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January 25th, 2013, 07:34 PM
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Awww thanks. It could also just be a mix of emotions...wedding in march, baby in June, making space for a nursery, buying baby furniture for nursery, living on one income, and all at the same time being so behind at work. I work at a call center yet I'm part of a select amount of people to call for payments, refill reminders (its a pharmacy mail order), set up blind people in a drug program, along with normal calls and 2 other types of calls..its like a giant stack of papers but they're calls I have to make. And to say the least I'm stressed and tired
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