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Ok, I know there was a topic posted similar to this but i am just so annoyed! i've learned that when people ask if we have a name picked out not to say anything anymore...but today at church a lady asked me and i said 'oh not really, it changes every day' so of course my mom adds in 'oh no i thought you were thinking these names' and lists a couple. (mind you she means well) but then the lady was like 'uh really?? for a girl?? nooo. don't do that!"
seriously! and someone asked my husband the other day and she said the name we were thinking of sounded horrible with our last name.
i know at the end of the day it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks but it's just hurtful when they say things like that. i don't expect everyone to like every name we think of but i'd rather people just don't say anything than put their two scents in. it's MY baby, i can name her whatever i want!
ugh. people can just be so rude sometimes i have the worst time picking out names too so when i do like a name it's a big deal and then to have people just shoot it down really irritates me. grrr
Hugs! I know exactly how you feel! For that reason alone, I don't tell anyone the names we pick out. I always tell people we do t have one yet (we really don't right now). Eventually people get annoyed and say things like, "we'll eventually that baby will need a name". It gives me joy to annoy people.
I've just found that people feel its ok to voice their opinions on names before baby is born, after they tend to keep it to themselves.
exactly, from this point on my lips are sealed. we don't have a name set in stone, were just throwing some names around and already people have an opinion. definitely waiting until after baby comes to reveal her name! ((i may share it on here though lol, i know you ladies are much more thoughtful!))
We are still deciding and will nail it down I am sure after our ultrasound Thursday. We didn't tell anyone DD's name until we already 100% decided. That way when I told people they knew it was a done deal and so I didn't get any comments. I don't want to tell anyone our ideas until we are 100% decided because I think that if I do they will take the liberty to offer their opinion "to help us decide" which I really don't want.
you have a point, i think when people give their opinion they think they are 'helping' me pick a name. heaven forbid i pick a name that they don't like! geesh lol. and yes it probably helps if i had just one name that i was definitely going with rather than just thinking of names...it definitely gives people that opportunity to share their views.
My mother in law did that the first time I said Axel. She wrinkled up her nose and literally went "Eww." Then started suggesting different names! My blood boiled. Then she did the Axel Rose question. Which made me want to punch her. But don't worry about what other people think it is YOUR child ! I'm sure whatever you pick you will love and it will be perfect.
i'm sorry to hear that people need to keep their opinions to themselves!! two weeks after i gave birth to my son, my MIL told me that my SIL said that my son's name was stupid. i cried my eyes out for two hours. well, honestly i dont even know if my sil said that or not..my mil loves to stir the pot :-/
People haven't liked the name we picked For different reasons--its too popular right now, it doesn't match my other kids names, blah blah blah. It does get under my skin but I try my best to ignore it. I am sorry you are going through it too!
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