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BTDT moms as you know its sometimes hard to keep the spark with your guy alive after having a baby. (The first year after having baby is the hardest for most couples) What do you and your DH/DF/SO do to keep the spark alive?
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The first year after was a bit rough for DH and I as our parenting styles differ a bit. But now we make sure that every night once DD is in bed that we make sure to cuddle up together and watch a little of tv and destress together. We also talk about various things like we used to back when we first met. And I make it a point to laugh at his jokes...no matter how many times Ive heard them. We dont go to bed angry. And we make a point of holding hands. We had gotten out of alot after being married awhile then when DD came it was a bit rough til we made a point of reconnecting with eaach other every night.
Sounds like us - sex whenever/wherever you can get it, and chatting online when he's at work.
We don't have a set schedule for date nights, but we usually go out for dinner or a movie or something, at least once a month. And most evenings at home we spend watching tv and relaxing together once DD has gone to bed.
We try to make it a point to do nice dinners together and try new things. We are really into new and different foods and also trying new wines and cheeses (when I'm not pg, obv). Even if we can't make it out to try a new an interesting restaurant, I try to make something nice at home, like risotto or a killer homemade pasta sauce (he loves my vodka sauce) and we eat together just the two of us after DD goes to bed. On a daily basis, we try to take some time together after DD's bedtime to relax, although with our busy work schedules, that can be really tough.
Yep, sex works well. We'll do a date night in where we pick up a cheap RedBox rental and watch a movie after the kids go to bed. When Lily was a baby, we had season tickets to our local symphony. Once a month we'd have a nice dinner, go to the symphony concert, and then head home. When Abri was a baby, we couldn't go far because she wouldn't take a bottle. We'd head up to one of the local restaurants or the one bar and have a glass of wine or a quick dinner just the two of us. Now that the girls are a little older, date night consists of a random concert, basketball game, or a few glasses of wine for me at the local bar. It's hard to remember to fit that alone time into our schedule. DH works late, babysitters for 2 kids can be pricey if my parents or MIL are busy. But it is really important to make an effort.
Dont worry about where you are just worry about who you are with. Like watching a movie together on the couch with popcorn and candy. You dont have to be somewhere fancy or out to stay romantically connected.