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Aww is that a picture of the twins in your signature? Im truely very sorry for your loss. I dont know why your thread was locked but for what its worth I believe you. It would take a pretty sick person to fake what you have been thru. Hugs sweetie
Since it's happened before fairly recently on another board, I think people tend to be really cautious. What you've been through is so unreal, tramatic, awful, horrible, and heart breaking, people sometimes look for the Troll since it fits the storyline of trolling. JMO...
I'm really, really sorry again for your loss, I can't even begin to imagine the pain you're going through.
Posts are locked for numerous reasons, not just trolling. We have no power to lock threads, however the admins and the mods of JM do have the ability to do so. If they get numerous reports of the post the post then gets investigated, it is at the discretion of the mods of JM if they feel a post should or should not continue. They felt it was in our boards best interest as well as your own to lock the thread.
For more support on your loss please visit JMs grief boards, they have been truly supportive to those in the JM community who have suffered a loss.
sorry but I will not be stopping posting on June 2013. My babies are as much a part of this board as everyone elses.
No one told you to stop posting here. However, this is also not a loss support board, and speaking from my own experience, you will have much more support from people who understand, on a loss support board. Every mom suffering a loss I ever knew found it difficult to read DDC posts, you are not sharing in the preparations for birth and baby anymore and it hurts to be reminded of what should have been. But if and when you do feel okay with it, it's obviously fine to post whenever you want to, if there is something you want to chime in on. I hope you are getting the help you need hun. Hugs!
Actually MamaSkunk very rudely told me by PM not to post here again because my babies photos are disturbing. Apparently.
I am on my phone and can't see siggies. Anyone who is disturbed by your siggy can ignore you or turn off all siggies. You should be prepared to be ignored by lots of people in a DDC if you make posts with a siggy turned on that has still babies pictured... you can also turn off your siggy in any particular post you want to make if you want to avoid making people uncomfortable. I would consider using that option in DDC posts. I believe this may be covered in JM's community rules as well.
On loss boards, siggy pics of still babies are not at all strange. Please consider finding a loss support group of some kind, regardless of what happens in the DDC.
I agree that the DDC board is a place for sharing in the preparations for birth and baby, and although we are sorry for your loss, this is not a grief & loss support board. We don't post threads about how to cope, or what it's like to lose, and I would hate to be reminded of what could have been, or what could happen, every day. I don't mean to sound rude or harsh, but I don't want a reminder of the horrible things that could happen to my baby, which is why I don't read the grief and loss boards. I come here to talk about the life growing inside of me and to talk about the future birth of my baby. Usually when a member has suffered a loss, they move on to those boards that will support them, instead of continuing on a board they no longer really fit in to. I hope you are able to find the support you are looking for.
I can't speak for everyone but I know the whole thing just seems suspicious partly because you've been a member of the due date club for a little over 3 weeks. You joined us Jan 18th and it has been post after post of incredible things. Automatically that sends off warning flags to people considering your low overall total post count and everything else. People do get defensive because on these forums people open up themselves to others and hope/pray it is done in the most honest way possible.
Whether you decide to stay or not - whether you feel comfortable or not will really depend on you and I do not blame anyone for being cautious. I wasn't even going to post on this because if you are in fact a troll the only thing that makes them happier is to respond and feed into it. A way to help people believe you is to post a photo of you with all of your kids then post a photo with you holding the babies or even from that original ultrasound you had - that way there is absolutely no doubt that the stories have happened the way you said. If you feel there is nothing to prove then you will have to also acknowledge that even if you do stay there will be many that will be wary of you the entire time. It is not a matter of trying to be mean, attack you or anything of that nature but rather a way to protect ourselves. It is not fun at all to open up your heart to someone to find out that person is not real. The internet is a pretty crappy place to be sometimes.
You were kindly asked to post on the grief and support boards by both hosts of this due date club and you refused to both Navywifey and myself. I simply explained to you that your sig pic was disturbing to many as many of us do not want to be reminded of what could happen
Nor do we have any posts about grief and loss. This is a board meant for women to celebrate their pregnancies and upcoming births.
There are regularly posts on this board from women who are concerned about the well being of their babies. Posts about your loss can really be upsetting to people already struggling with worry. There are also several women who have experienced loss. Posts that discuss loss make other women relive their own. That just isn't fair and certainly not considerate. I am sorry for what you're going through, but it can definitely be felt that you are trying to hurt others here by continuing to post these kinds of things. If you need the support of others, the grief board is really the best place to be for everyone's sake.