We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
I read everyone's posts, every day but I hardly ever comment. Either what I would say has already been said or I really don't have anything to say. Part of me feels pretty crappy about it, but, yes. Can I be the poster child lurker that only comes out when I want to rant? HAHA...
Anyways... my mother lives in MS, I live in Charleston SC. Pretty big distance, though not cross country. My ma was very controlling and yes, she's extremely selfish, but we love her regardless. She is insisting that I call her during my anatomy scan tomorrow so that she can know what the gender is at the same time as us (so that she can immediately post it on facebook so that she can get lots of attentions and likes, that's the type of person she is... perhaps that's why I'm so stand offish). I don't want to call her, even though I told her I would. Is it wrong of me to not call her and then tell a little white lie and say we didn't find out the gender? I just don't want everyone knowing yet. It's MY kid. It's MY news. It's my business to announce, you know... and I'd rather her find out with everyone else when I decide to tell.
She's also throwing fits because I don't want her in delivery with me. I'm doing hypnobabies and she doesn't understand that I will want peace and quiet (things she has no concept of) and I really just want this to be something that me and the husband have together. My first pregnancy, she worked at the hospital and everything was made about her and I already had a traumatic birth experience and then her selfishness on top of it just made it doubly as awful.
I feel like I'm being a selfish horrible daughter, but I also feel like I'm sick and tired of taking the back burner to her selfish ways. I don't know.