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February 23rd, 2013, 10:01 AM
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We have found a name that we both sort of like (we aren't sold yet but it's a start). The problem is, I have a cousin with a daughter who has this same name. The middle name would be different though. I think that makes it off limits. DF disagrees. My cousin lives 400 miles away and we only see her every couple of years so he thinks that makes it ok.

What is your opinion?
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February 23rd, 2013, 10:03 AM
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If you're not super close, I'd say it's definitely ok. If it was like, your sister's kid or something, I'd say that's too close to share a name. But a cousin you hardly see? Go for it!
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February 23rd, 2013, 10:05 AM
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If you're not super close, I'd say it's definitely ok. If it was like, your sister's kid or something, I'd say that's too close to share a name. But a cousin you hardly see? Go for it!
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February 23rd, 2013, 10:19 AM
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If you're not super close, I'd say it's definitely ok. If it was like, your sister's kid or something, I'd say that's too close to share a name. But a cousin you hardly see? Go for it!
That's what DF says. We saw her at thanksgiving for the first time in almost 6 years. Her 6 year old was an infant the last time I saw her but for some reason, I feel like it would be weird to have two babies in the same family with that name...maybe it's just me being too picky
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February 23rd, 2013, 10:57 AM
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In this situation, meh I'd say you're fine.
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February 23rd, 2013, 11:03 AM
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In this situation, meh I'd say you're fine.
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February 23rd, 2013, 11:04 AM
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It seems like you barely see her so it would be okay. Maybe keep looking but if you keep coming back to that name it was meant to be.
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February 23rd, 2013, 11:09 AM
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i'd say it'd be okay to use the same name too. i understand your dilemma though!
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February 23rd, 2013, 11:58 AM
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Eh, go for it.
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February 23rd, 2013, 12:06 PM
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i wouldn't use the name, but thats just me
my cousin that i see at least every couple of months her sons gf is having a baby and naming it the same as my son, not happy about that at all
though i see them a couple times a year if not more
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February 23rd, 2013, 12:20 PM
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My friend knew what we were going to name my son if we were having a boy and proceeded to name his CAT that. LOL JD thinks the cat is his and that the cats name isn't James Dean (J.D.) but it's JD's cat as his name. So it works out


I think it all depends on how unique the name is - just cause you name your kid or your dog or whatever something doesn't mean the name is scratched out of baby books forever so it's a silly thing to get upset about in my opinion. It just shows they have good taste too!
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February 23rd, 2013, 12:36 PM
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I gotta know the name to make a decision
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February 23rd, 2013, 01:24 PM
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I dont think its off limits at all. When my friend was pregnant with her youngest she considered giving the baby up for adoption to DH and I and she asked what name I would chose for a girl and boy. So I told her both my fave names and she went and named her youngest my fave boy name...and also kept him. I dont see her anymore but we are using the same name as i like sooo few boy names. And was one of the factors on why i had such a meltdown upon finding it was a boy. But it was the main name Ive loved for a boy for years so DH felt it was not off limits and he knew that us choosing the name is what really helped me be happy about having a boy. So go for it!
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February 23rd, 2013, 02:22 PM
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Our son is Aleksander and our nephew is Alexander. DH has 6 siblings. As they are older a lot of names have gotten used. This child is Ellianna even if someone has a child and grabs the name prior to her arrival.
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February 23rd, 2013, 02:51 PM
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I do not think it is a big deal at all since she lives 400 miles away. When I was pregnant with dd we could not agree on a girls name for the life of us, I was 8 or 9 months along before we agreed. The name we agreed on Kiley is dh's cousins kids name who lives across the country so we said screw it and used the name anyways. Thank god we did or dd would have been nameless seriously. I mean I don't know how big your family is but dh has 23 living 1st cousins so if we picked a name that no one else had pickins would be slim!
If you both love the name go for it. It's not like they will have the same 1st, middle & last name. however if you are on fence use the same name as an excuse to go with something else
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February 23rd, 2013, 05:26 PM
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My first cousin is Alexander. They don't live far away but we hardly see them so I don't mind that baby's name is the same just spelled differently
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February 23rd, 2013, 06:38 PM
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I'm thinking the name will go on our "maybe" list. It's a little too popular for me and I don't feel that it fits perfectly with our other kids name but I still like it and I'm not willing to toss the only name we have agreed on so far just because a distant relative has the same name.

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February 23rd, 2013, 07:20 PM
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I personally wouldn't do it, but I'm super picky. My middle name is Ryan and I have a younger cousin named Ryan. We used to see each other every summer.
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February 23rd, 2013, 07:31 PM
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In our family, there are like 4 cousins named Anthony, 2 Zachary and my brother and nephew are both Michael. They see each other all the time. I have too many cousins to even know what they have named all their kids. I really like a name of one of my cousins and I rarely see her so we may use it.
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February 23rd, 2013, 07:41 PM
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I think it is ok if you like the name. But I think just knowing that he had the same name would make me not want to use it.
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