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February 26th, 2013, 09:14 AM
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Do you trust people easily?
Is it hard for people to regain your trust after its been broken?
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February 26th, 2013, 10:02 AM
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No =\ I used to be a very trusting person, and that has come back to bite me many times. So now it takes a lot longer for me to trust someone new. I do try to give people a chance, and I'm sure my hesitation in opening up to new people can be off putting, but that's just how it is
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February 26th, 2013, 10:14 AM
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No I am not a person who trusts easily. I was when I was younger but after being hurt to often I have become the hardest person to EARN trust from. I dont give my trust away now it has to be earned. And its difficult to earn that trust now.

And IF you gain my trust after my lengthy trust earning process and then you do something to break my trust....you wont get my trust back at all. And in all likelyhood if you break my trust I will stop being your friend.
Id rather have a friend who is honest and trustworthy than one who would break that sacred trust in the first place. But if you do earn my trust and dont do anything to break it then you pretty much have a very loyal friend for life with me
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February 26th, 2013, 10:39 AM
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I honestly trust people too easily. I'm not sure why because I have been burned so many times before...I guess I just really want to see the good in people, even when it sometimes really isn't there.

Likewise, I forgive people way too easily. A lot of times, it has worked to my advantage and things turned out ok. Many times it has backfired only for me to get burned again. I just hate holding grudges and I feel like if I somehow spend all this energy being mad at someone, they are somehow winning. I like being the better person and brushing things off. It's both a blessing and a curse
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February 26th, 2013, 10:59 AM
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Do you trust people easily? I don't know? I give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they mean well. But I also have no illusions about how flakey people can be and I know they have their own goals and priorities. Overall I wouldn't say I overly trust people I guess.

Is it hard for people to regain your trust after its been broken? Not if they really make a change. But once I've noticed a pattern, it will take some strong evidence for me to not just assume their old pattern will continue.

I don't really think of it in terms of my trust being broken or not trusting people. I just know that so-and-so breaks plans a lot, shows up late, doesn't show at all sometimes, doesn't do what they said they would, or whatever. Some people are more reliable than others and some people just have personal or mental issues that make them someone who you can't take at face value.
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February 26th, 2013, 12:43 PM
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I don't think I trust people as easily anymore, but I am still always surprised and hurt when someone lets me down. I think over the years I have become less trusting. I try to get a feel from someone if they can be trusted or not.
If someone breaks my trust I think I do not forget easily. It would definately depend on what it was, or who it was. If it is someone that is not very close to me to begin with, I think the chances of earning trust back are close to none.
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February 26th, 2013, 12:46 PM
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I tend to trust people to easy and then get burned. After that it will always be in the back of my mind and the trust just isn't the same.
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February 26th, 2013, 01:29 PM
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Well, for me the answer to the first question is yes and no. I tend to trust and forgive people very easily at least in a superficial way, but I tend to keep almost everyone at arm's length. I'm just not a social, extroverted type of person.
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February 26th, 2013, 03:09 PM
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I tend to trust very easily. I forgive and trust again pretty easily. Yeah, sometimes I have been burned by it.. but I am just that way
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