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Is anyone here doing (or has done previously) the Lamaze technique to give birth? My SO's mother has been pestering me the last few days over this....She thinks that this is the only way to make it through labor and wants to be my breathing coach. Which, I'm not totally against the lamaze stuff, I just don't know much about it other than it focuses on breathing as a distraction to ease pain during labor. Right? My other issue is that it's sweet of her to offer to be my coach, but come baby time, I don't want anyone other than my SO and the hospital staff in the delivery room...My SO told her this last night when she started pestering him about it again...So I don't really see the point in having a coach who isn't going to be in there with me during the birth. And there is absolutely no way I'll let her be there...I don't feel comfortable having her in there since SO and her get on each other's nerves and usually can't last an hour without fighting, plus if I let her in, I'd have to let my mom in...and my mom stresses me out beyond anything else.
But out of curiosity, is Lamaze helpful? I am doing a 5 wk childbirth childbirth class at my hospital in the next month, so I assume they'll cover that, but I don't know for sure.
I'm curious about this too. I haven't signed up for any classes so far, and I'm wondering if I should.. I've never really been around pregnant people or babies much. My brother and his wife live out of state, so I've only been around their kids for brief periods at a time.
Lamaze is a big joke in my opinion. When the time comes you soooo will not be thinking to breath all hee hee hoo thru each contraction. Its pointless and natural labor can be done without it. It works better to just have one person with you that's super supportive and willing to rub your back and hold your hand and tell ya to hang in there that your doing great. Lamaze is extremely outdated and was popular back in the 80s. Which is why she probably thinks you have to do it. Just kindly tell her that only SO will be allowed in during labor and that he will be all the support you need. And leave it at that. And remember they won't know your in labor unless you call or text to tell them....so don't
We contemplated doing Lamaze, but the only class offered here was $130, and we just don't have that kind of money. Instead we bought my DH a book (The Birth Partner) and he's reading it and learning all kinds of ways he can "coach" me through labor. It has a ton of different techniques, and ways he can help me prepare and relax during labor. And it was only $12, which is a big improvement over $130 to learn how to breath and relax. I would recommend the "Hermione" approach: Get a few books and have your SO learn how to coach you that way. It seems more convenient, because if breathing doesn't help, you would want to know other ways that could.
When I took childbirth classes with my first baby I think they taught us the Lamaze style breathing. It did not help me AT ALL. When I was pg with #2 I read a book that covered a more natural style of labor and taught slow, deep, calm, breathing and that totally made a difference for me.
I am doing Hypnobabies and the class specifically mentions Lamaze as something NOT to do, because the fast breathing both decreases your oxygen intake (not good esp during birthing waves) and can cause anxiety, since most people's minds associate fast breathing with anxiety, which can trigger a downward spiral of sorts. Deep slow belly breathing is much more oxygenating and calming. So at least in my opinion, your SO's mother is flat out wrong don't be afraid to just say no!
The childbirth classes at the hospital I'm delivering in focus on Lamaze I believe, which is one of many reasons why I won't be taking a class. I realize I'm a first-timer, but I don't see how fast, shallow breathing is helpful.
When I took a childbirth class for Connor they also taught the lamaze technique. I read a few different books and, at the time, preferred the bradley method. Now I bought a used, old edition of hypnobabies and hoping that will give me some insight to that method!
My husband and I read through "Husband-Coached Childbirth: Bradley Method" to prepare for Connor and it was really helpful and insightful for him as well!
I took a regular child birth class with our first. I am a fan of the epidural so I never really needed it. I suspect that it really helps some people. Our second child came very quickly (and I still wimped out and got an epidural. I say wimped out due to the fact that I dialated far without knowing I was in labor. Then while pain free I insisted on the epidural prior to letting then break my water. I knew that once they did, the labor would be fast and furious. I did not have far to go. I didn't want it to end up being too late - so got the epi prior to pain).