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So last night my MIL emails me to ask me a bunch of questions about all the step kids for the family tree (as DH found his birth mother last year and they are still in the process of getting to know each other) (huge adjustment for me cause DHs mom who passed ten years ago was the best MIL ever...this one not so much and I have like noo tolerance for her cause I miss MIL 1) anyway at the end of the email she tells me to make sure to give DD LOTS of hugs for her cause she's SURE that my DD will be kind of pushed off to the side when lil man comes.
Seriously!?!? For one. How Rude?! Two. How mean to play on my fear that DD won't handle the adjustment of not being the baby anymore well. Three. Anyone who knows me knows how much I love DD and that me nor DH will let DD feel pushed off to the side at all! I've even given my mom orders to bring DD to the hospital right after lil man is born(provided she's not sleeping) so that all of us can bond together and that she's made a huge part of this whole change.
I just want to scream. I hate having a new MIL
Wow. That's awful. She obviously doesn't know you or your DH well enough yet to even THINK about saying things like that, let alone actually saying them. Especially since I think it's probably common knowledge that any mother having baby number two is already worried about baby number one feeling left out. I mean, I'm a first timer and I'm worried that my DOG is going to get left out! Come on. It's a completely natural and a completely obvious fear and for her to play on that was just plain ******.
I'm sorry. That really sucks. It seems like a cruel joke life is playing to have MIL round 2. Yikes. And it really doesn't sound like she's on her way to a cozy place in your heart. I hope things get better with her. Maybe she is trying to be super involved bc she has missed out on so much? Good luck with the whole situation!
Thanks ladies. Sorry to sound like a total whiner it just really hurt me what she said and I'm afraid to complain to DH about her cause I don't wanna seem insensitive. She's already done a few things that have upset him so when she does something else that's annoying I just need to vent about it without it getting back to him and people around me have big blab mouths so sometimes y'all are the only ones I can vent too and know it won't get back to him.