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Seriously, pay very close attention to your instincts. Read up a little on optimal birth positions, even if you end up getting an epidural, the nurses and your DH can help you into a more favorable position. Don't be afraid to question things, this is your body, baby and birth experience, you deserve to know what plans are going to be put into action if complications arise. You really won't know what helps pain management wise for your own personal self until you're actually in labor. Bring what you think you might want. A birth plan isn't a bad idea, but just writing down a few birth preferences might work out better, you can post it up on your white board in your room and every nurse can just skim over it quick without having to read a page or more.
Know what kind of labor you want, but be prepared to be flexible, if need be. Sometimes things don't happen the way you would like and you have to go a different route than you had originally planned. Be used to the idea that just in case things can't happen the way you want, it's still ok. All you need to be focused on is the best way to get your baby into the world. (For ex, I had planned for NCB with DD, but since my water broke first and contractions weren't coming, they had to induce them, which led to really prolonged extreme pain, and I ended up getting an epidural bc I was worried that, as long as it was taking for me to dilate, I wouldn't have the strength to push when it was time and I would end up with a c-sec. So very much not my plan, but I made a sacrifice to at least ensure a vaginal delivery.)
As far as during labor, make sure you're breathing during contractions and not holding your breath and tensing up. That will actually make them more painful. Ask your DH to keep an eye on you and remind you to breathe if you need him to. Walk and move around during labor as much as you can to use gravity in your favor to shorten your labor. And, as someone else mentioned, try different positions. And trust yourself. Women have been having babies since Eve and childbirth classes are fairly new in the scheme of things. You'll do great.
I was dead set on a natural childbirth, but ended up getting an epidural after 24ish hours of induced labor. It was the best decision I made. Your body will guide you. We are made for this. I agree that relaxing is very important. Trust your body, and while it's important to be your own advocate regarding your wishes, realize the need to be flexible. Sometimes things don't go the way you planned (it didn't for me). Don't beat yourself up over things not going as planned.