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Hi ladies - I'm sort of at my wits' end and I'm hoping that someone has some suggestions that might help my situation. DD is EBF and doing great with nursing. My supply is great - I've got about 42 oz of BM frozen and can pump anywhere from 2-7 oz at a time depending on time of day and when I've last nursed her. A few weeks ago, with the blessing of a lactation consltant, we started trying to do one bottle feed a day. I go back to work on August 18 and I'll be doing 14 hour shifts so she NEEDS to be able to take a bottle while I'm at work.
Problem is, she WON'T take one. A few times we've managed to get her to drink a good amount, but most of the time she only takes a little bit (.5-1 oz) and then starts to freak out. She'll dribble half the milk out or pull away and scream. We've tried nine different types of bottles - NINE. And no luck. We've tried Dr. Brown, Como tomo, Playtex, Avent, Medela, Medela Calma, Nuk, Tommee Tippee, and Lansinoh. No luck. ALL low flow nipples. We heat the milk, we've tried different positions, and I've made a point of staying out of sight while DF feeds her so she doesn't try to reject the bottle for the "real thing". So far the Nuk is the only one we've had ANY luck with, but that's rare and lately even he Nuk has been rejected. I'm so stressed about going back to work and now I'm stressed that she can't take a bottle. Plus it means that I am ALWAYS the one to get up with her at night and I can't even get a break for one feeding.
Don't get me wrong, I'm very grateful that she apparently prefers boob over bottle and not the other way around, but she's going to need to start taking a bottle soon and I have NO idea what else to try.
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I know it's a little pricey but I've read some great reviews. I have not personally tried it because I've had luck with Tommee tippee with my youngest daughter.
I would try offering a bottle more frequently and I would use the Nuk since you have had at least some luck with that one. Also, when someone else is giving the bottle, have that person have a shirt or something that smells like you draped over themselves while they give the bottle. I don't know if it would work, but it's probably worth a shot. (I would suggest the comotomo, but I see it's on your list of things you've tried. That is what is working for us with Lena. Anna did great with Tommee Tippee, but of course, Lena did not do well with that one.)
I had this problem with my first son. We eventually did the breast nurser. I am not readily finding it online - but it looks like a silicon breast implant. We were able to squirt it in. Also, I would try more often per day. I also tried taking the baby to a public place so there is another distraction.
This is going to sound mean, but if she gets hungry enough, she'll eventually take something. My last dd was ebf and the only bottle she'd take was the breastflow by the first years. I know everyone says to have someone else give the bottle but I had more luck at first if I nursed a little bit, then gave a bottle. When I had to leave her with my mom, she wouldn't take the bottle at first but she just kept working with her until she took it. After that first day, we were able to switch back and fotth without a ptoblem. I hope something works for you.
One other thing that worked for us (and the lactation consultant would say no - but it worked so I did it). My second son would only take a bottle with 50% formula and 50% bm. Although he loved to nurse, there was no way he would take a bottle of 100% bm. Put more than 50% in there and he rejected it. (I used formula as he originally rejected the bottle and I was running out of pumped milk while trying. I took him to a busy grocery store with lots of lights. While he was watching the lights, I put a bottle of formula in his mouth. Had to do this every day for like a week. It worked though. I then got to the 50/50 of formula bm and he took the bottle anywhere). He loved nursing as well.
We use Breastflow by first years. Someone else mentioned this brand as well and it's not on your list of the ones you've tried. Other than that, I have no real advice since Anna had to be bottle fed starting on the day after coming home from the hospital. Good luck. She'll get the hang of it.
My first was like this. She just has to learn that she HAD to take one. Also I couldn't be in the same BUILDING at first, she would know. Be prepared for her to eat way less when you are away from her. My dd would barely eat while I was gone and then marathon nurse when I got out of work and all night, so she was still getting enough.
My DS#2 was like this. We had the best success with the breastflow at first, then eventually settled with the playtex. But really, it was just hunger that won him over. The first week he was at daycare, he took MAYBE 2 oz the whole day. By the second week, he would take 1 oz a couple of times. The teachers and I were both crying for him, he was so hungry. And of course, he nursed all night to make up for it. But then he got the hang of it. He was also super picky about pacifiers.