Log In Sign Up

Live Far From family


Forum: July 2013 Playroom

Notices

Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to boards@justmommies.com.

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To July 2013 Playroom LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
  #1  
November 8th, 2012, 06:04 PM
Member
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: New Orleans, LA
Posts: 26
Is there anyone who lives far from their family? I'm at least an 8 hour drive from all family and close friends. I'm a little nervous that I won't have enough support because everyone is in a different state than I am. Sadly,i'm not that close to SO family, so i'm not sure how they will be during the pregnancy. Anyone have experience with this situation? Your input is much appreciated.
__________________
Me:30
Him:29
TTC #1



Reply With Quote
  #2  
November 8th, 2012, 06:17 PM
BeachMum's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 4,219
I am close to family now but with my first, we lived in Florida, they lived in Texas. It was hard, but I had AMAZING friends and really they were there for me more than family (now). I MISS my friends.
__________________
Mom of 2 girls and 3 boys
Missing my 4 angels too precious for this earth: 2/22/04, 12/13/06, 4/22/08, 11/16/12

Reply With Quote
  #3  
November 8th, 2012, 06:23 PM
Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 567
I would check meetup.com for a moms group (or Google, for that matter). I should have done that when I had my first child and we lived far from everyone. You might also consider a prenatal yoga class or something like that to meet other mothers to be. I didn't really connect with other moms ahead of time and was pretty isolated once DS was born and I was staying home.

I think things will be different this time because I am part of 2 moms groups, and we live only a few hours away from my parents now.

Hope things go well!
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #4  
November 8th, 2012, 07:46 PM
slmehaffey's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 1,795
I have never lived close to my family since getting married, (dh was military) and the birth of my first child was states away 14-16 hrs by car from my family, but I did have an awesome group of friends that made things much easier to deal with. I suggest going to church if you attend and asking about any mom groups, perhaps MOPS, they will probably accept you even if you dont' have a preschooler because you are going to be a mom to one younger than school age. That probably depends on their chapter size though. You can also get involved at a La Leche League, which will give you great friendships, awesome support in breastfeeding and some information before you even start breastfeeding. If the local preschools know of any playgroups you could also attend one of them.
Also if those ideas don't work for you you could find a doula in your area, and even if you don't plan to use a doula she may be able to point you in the right direction to find the support you need. Doulas are required to have a list of resources availible that include support groups of all kinds. I hope this helps!
Reply With Quote
  #5  
November 9th, 2012, 09:19 AM
Shea131's Avatar Peyton Rylee's Mommy!!
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Illinois
Posts: 4,636
I live close to all my family and friends so unfortunately I don't have any advice for you! I'm sorry that you are in that situation. I don't know how I would manage without a great support system so I would take some of the other ladies suggestions and try and find some mommy groups in your area!!
__________________

Thank you Quantum_Leap for my fabulous signature!!!
Reply With Quote
  #6  
November 9th, 2012, 10:15 AM
Expecting #1 July 2013 <3
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Iowa
Posts: 132
My whole family is in Cali and I just recently moved to Iowa which is where my husband is from and all of his family is here. I' am totally going to be missing my family being here when the baby arrives
__________________




Reply With Quote
  #7  
November 9th, 2012, 10:23 AM
MissesDavis's Avatar Army Girl
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Fort Bliss, TX
Posts: 89
My family is in Michigan and my Hubby's family is in Idaho/California and we live in Texas. It's gonna be tough not having family here but at least I'll have my hubby.
__________________

"I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. "
Reply With Quote
  #8  
November 9th, 2012, 11:44 AM
TerriLF's Avatar Super Mommy
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 566
I don't have family here. My closest is in Tennessee (my sister) and my parents are in Ohio. This is how it has been since we have had kids so its nothing new but still sucks! My husbands family is close by, but I don't feel as comfortable asking them for help. I will probably be a SAHM after this so I will probably look for some groups to meet up with.

I hope your SOs family steps up and offers support and a helping hand.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
November 9th, 2012, 02:37 PM
Regular
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Austin, TX
Posts: 69
DH and I live in Texas. His brother + sister in law live here too, but the rest of our family is ALL in Pittsburgh, PA. We're both from there originally. I'm a little worried about doing this without family here, but my mom doesn't work and I know she'd be here ASAP if I needed her.
Reply With Quote
  #10  
November 10th, 2012, 12:45 PM
sethsgirl's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: SC
Posts: 9,652
We live in South Carolina and my parents and sister live in California :/ my mom will hopefully be able to fly out for the birth to watch our boys , and we've been blessed that she was able to be here for the birth of both of the boys as well. My MIL lives about 6 hours from us and my SIL lives about 5 hours away.
__________________

Colleen proud mommy to DS (8/2009), DS (6/2011), and DD (7/2013)


Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
distance , family , friends , home , support

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 03:46 PM.



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0