Log In Sign Up

I am scared and nobody understands


Forum: July 2013 Playroom

Notices

Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to boards@justmommies.com.

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Like Tree4Likes

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To July 2013 Playroom LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
  #1  
February 12th, 2013, 10:08 AM
captivate's Avatar Sticky thoughts please...
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Stockport UK
Posts: 7,473
I am scared for the heart echo in 2 weeks.

Everyone says, you have heard the heart, how can that heart be poorly... it was a fluke NT thats all.

But I have been crying so much about it.. I should be now organising the house and stuff and stuff like I did with Serenity but I feel until this scan is done I can't do anything.

Nobody understands my fears and it makes it all the worse.
__________________
Charlie born18th July 8lb8oz 50cm
TTC for 2 years. I never gave up thanks to the girls of TTC

I have 2 miracles on earth and 5 angels in heaven

Reply With Quote
  #2  
February 12th, 2013, 10:15 AM
MamaLemonade's Avatar ~~Whitney~~
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Somewhere in CA
Posts: 2,858
Clare, im sorry you are having to go through this. But you are strong and i have faith that everything Will be fine. I understand the nerves and the emotion, we are here for you !
__________________
Whitney
SAHM,EBF,ERF,CDing,non-vaxxing
Mommy to:C(5), M(4), T(1), awaiting #4
Married to my <3 since 8/09


Reply With Quote
  #3  
February 12th, 2013, 10:52 AM
captivate's Avatar Sticky thoughts please...
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Stockport UK
Posts: 7,473
Thanks sweetie x
__________________
Charlie born18th July 8lb8oz 50cm
TTC for 2 years. I never gave up thanks to the girls of TTC

I have 2 miracles on earth and 5 angels in heaven

Reply With Quote
  #4  
February 12th, 2013, 11:07 AM
doodoosmom's Avatar 4 kids?! Who's counting!
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: California
Posts: 8,008
I've never been in your position but I know I'd be worried too, it's natural to worry & be emotional when you've had bad news. Hopefully it WAS a fluke & baby will look perfect, but you have every right to feel the way you do.
__________________
Ashley - Wife to Derrick, mommy to Owen-8, Rylan-6 & Addison-3. Baby Nolan is here, born 6/13/13 @ 34 weeks.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
February 12th, 2013, 11:35 AM
momto3brazils's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Arkansas
Posts: 1,938
Its frustrating when people try to brush off your feelings, its what your feeling and who can blame you, and yes positive thinking is nice but you also have to be realistic and right now thats where your at, you need support not people discounting your feelings. I would feel no differently than you do, once you get the results of the echo then you can process everything from there. sending warm hugs.
__________________
Mommy to Casey 14 Cody 13 and TR babies Isabella 4 and Elizabeth




.

Reply With Quote
  #6  
February 12th, 2013, 12:03 PM
Veteran
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: VT
Posts: 352
Your reaction to this sounds spot on to me.

It was a really, really crappy NT scan result. Just think about how happy you would have been that day to know that you'd be in a position several weeks later having heard regular heartbeats and at low risk for genetic defects! But it's scary to think about possible problems, especially when there's nothing you can do about them. And for the next couple of weeks you have to live with that uncertainty. It totally sucks. Don't feel guilty about worrying about it and being upset... you will know more soon and you will move forward from there. If ttc and pregnancy have taught you nothing else it's that you can wait two weeks for news

But, please, enough bad news for you. Only positive things from here out, okay? Even if you have to wait for them.
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #7  
February 12th, 2013, 12:43 PM
Veteran
Join Date: Jun 2012
Posts: 495
{{Hugs}}

I hate uncertainty so I know this must be hard on you. I'll keep you in my prayers.
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #8  
February 12th, 2013, 02:08 PM
ninja_mommy's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Oahu
Posts: 7,227
I haven't been in this position, but I can somewhat sympathize. Now after seeing the baby on u/s 3 times I finally feel a little more like, "Hey, this might just work out." The worrying never goes away. If it's not one thing it's another.
I'm with the others, hopefully it was a fluke NT scan and if it wasn't you've already been told that most any heart problem is fixable. Not that it makes the situation "ok" but at least you can deal with it. Keep your chin up
__________________

Oct '11 June '12
Reply With Quote
  #9  
February 12th, 2013, 02:33 PM
captivate's Avatar Sticky thoughts please...
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Stockport UK
Posts: 7,473
Thanks guys.. I have been crying so much over it. xxx
__________________
Charlie born18th July 8lb8oz 50cm
TTC for 2 years. I never gave up thanks to the girls of TTC

I have 2 miracles on earth and 5 angels in heaven

Reply With Quote
  #10  
February 12th, 2013, 04:41 PM
Super Mommy
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Canada
Posts: 794
Your situation is a lot different than mine, but know what hearing bad NT results is like and I know what it's like to be scared every time you go in for an ultrasound or appointment.

I was really upset before our last ultrasound, but DH told me "What ever happens, happens. We can't change anything. It might not be what we want, but we'll deal with it. Don't worry until we have to worry."

It's good advice, and someone should take it since I sure didn't! It was hard that things didn't seem to affect him like they did me.

Remember, we always imagine the worst case scenario. You've been through a lot already, and you've gotten through it! It's okay to be upset. It's okay to cry...there's nothing like a good cry in the shower. No one knows what you are going through, and they most certainly can't telling how to feel.

Even if the echo has good results, you'll probably still worry until baby is safe in your arms...which isn't too far away!
captivate likes this.
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #11  
February 12th, 2013, 05:36 PM
Veteran
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Bronx, NY
Posts: 301
I am so sorry....I believe that people say things like that thinking it will make you feel better when in fact just listening...really listening would be more helpful.....I wish you only the best!!!
captivate likes this.
__________________

Kaylee

Tommy
Reply With Quote
  #12  
February 13th, 2013, 10:17 PM
NinjaCakes's Avatar Awesomesauce
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Illinois
Posts: 2,331
It is so frustrating how people do that - they don't want to think about the negative possibilities and will do anything they can to keep you from talking about it. You are entitled to all of your feelings, whatever they may be. These days people just don't realize that it's not healthy to keep those things inside. You need to express your fears, not have them written off. They have no right and I'm angry at them for you.

I'm really glad you came here to talk about it. I think it's perfectly reasonable that you're concerned! What mother wouldn't be????
captivate likes this.
__________________



Thanks so much Claire for my awesome siggy
Reply With Quote
  #13  
February 18th, 2013, 01:17 AM
Veteran
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Australia
Posts: 240
I will be sending thoughts you way
captivate likes this.
Reply With Quote
  #14  
February 18th, 2013, 07:11 AM
captivate's Avatar Sticky thoughts please...
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Stockport UK
Posts: 7,473
Thanks girls.

The closer it gets ( 7 days now ) the more scared I am...

With Serenity do you know I had EVERYTHING I needed by now.. I was very premature but again it took 4 losses to get her but that pregnancy was so different.. my losses has a reason and they did not do NT back then

I hate technology.. but then I love it at the same time. If I had not had a NT I would be buying bits and sorting the houses out..

urrgh when will this all end? When baby is in my arms.. no way I am a paranoid mother to a new born lol. I poke babies to make them stir to make sure they are ok. LMAO! xxxxx
__________________
Charlie born18th July 8lb8oz 50cm
TTC for 2 years. I never gave up thanks to the girls of TTC

I have 2 miracles on earth and 5 angels in heaven

Reply With Quote
  #15  
February 18th, 2013, 07:26 AM
Veteran
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Bronx, NY
Posts: 301
Huggs and Prayers and Positive thoughts your way!
__________________

Kaylee

Tommy
Reply With Quote
  #16  
February 18th, 2013, 12:28 PM
marriedtoamountie's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 4,170
Sending prayers your way!!!
__________________
Nicole married to T.
Mom to Abby (09-20-09) and Bennett (03-19-11)


Reply With Quote
  #17  
February 18th, 2013, 03:33 PM
captivate's Avatar Sticky thoughts please...
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Stockport UK
Posts: 7,473
xxx
__________________
Charlie born18th July 8lb8oz 50cm
TTC for 2 years. I never gave up thanks to the girls of TTC

I have 2 miracles on earth and 5 angels in heaven

Reply With Quote
  #18  
February 18th, 2013, 04:08 PM
LilSunshine's Avatar ♥ Super Moderator ♥
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: USA
Posts: 32,177
I'm sorry people aren't understanding!! I hope all goes well and that the next few days are less anxious for you.

__________________


September 2009 @ 6 weeks May 2011 @ 11 weeks
Reply With Quote
  #19  
February 18th, 2013, 08:43 PM
Super Mommy
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 572
*Lurking from the March ddc

Just wanted to let you know Im still keeping you in my thoughts and sending tonnes of positive energy your way. I would say its perfectly normal to be scared, I would be terrified. Hoping so much for you to have a positive outcome!
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #20  
February 18th, 2013, 10:14 PM
getnthere's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: San Diego, CA
Posts: 3,030
Im keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
__________________
Leslie

Reply With Quote
Reply

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 01:26 AM.



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0