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I've never been the type to worry much about my weight or my figure, but I'm in a stage of pregnancy right now where my body is changing rapidly. I definitely have a bump, but I'm tall and I think anyone who didn't know would just assume I'd gained weight. Does this bother anyone else? What do you do about it? This wasn't bothering me much before, but I'm at a conference this week with a bunch of people I know professionally that I only see once or twice a year. I feel like I want to tell people I have a good excuse for having a belly, but then on the other hand it also seems silly to care.
Honestly, yes, it bugs me a lot. My waist is usually my favorite asset and I carry my weight in my thighs and hips. So, once my waist starts thickening, I just look heavy. Even now, I can see a huge difference in my body but the people around me can't. For example, I went into Destination Maternity the other day because I couldn't button my pants anymore and the store clerk asked me, "So, are you shopping for a gift today?" It gets pretty depressing in that 'in between' stage that seems to last forever. During my last pregnancy, I bought a bunch of t-shirts with obvious pregnancy sayings like "baby on board" or "Due in December", etc. These seemed to get the message across pretty quickly. I'll probably buy some this time too. Also, I try to just dress my new assets the best I can until my belly starts to really pop. Also, I try to remember that the people around me don't view me as 'fat' even though I may feel that way.
yes, i very much felt that way in my 1st pregnancy. i have self-image issues from years of eating disorders, so that contributes greatly to my insecurities. people who knew me could tell i was pregnant by about 5 months. but no one else would have known until closer to 7 months. this time i'm huge already, so i only dealt with that "fat" feeling for the first couple months. i've found that certain styles of shirts work best for that stage. the flowy stuff just makes you look big, imo. so i try to go for more form-fitting styles that show off the actual bump. as hard as it is, try not to let it get you down. you ARE pregnant. and these weird body changes will be totally worth it. as far as the conference, will there be evening happy hours where you can blatantly have water as an easy segue into the pregnancy announcement? i was at a wedding recently and turned down champagne. everyone at the table stared at my kinda funny and i laughed and said it's no fun to be pregnant at a wedding! at least that way it can come up in a nonchalant manner so people know but you won't have to awkwardly bring attention to it.
I was already feeling fat before getting pregnant (Hey, metabolism...thanks for shutting down at 30). So now I still feel fat, but at least it's winter and I can hide under an oversized hoodie until it's a little more obvious that I'm pregnant and not just fat. What's suprised me is that I'm carrying weight in my thighs. I've never carried weight there before.
"Shake it up now, Sugaree. I'll meet you at the Jubilee. And if that Jubilee don't come. Maybe I'll meet you on the run."
Yes I can relate.
Just enjoy it while you can--this is the one time that you don't have to worry about body image and gaining weight is a good thing.
When my sister was preggers, she got a shirt that said 'I'm not fat. I'm knocked up". It was great.
I'm thinking of borrowing it. LOL
I can TOTALLY relate. I am just now starting to show, but I still run into people at work from my old team who just sort of stare. I can tell they notice I've gained weight. Another place that has been a struggle for me to look chunky is at the gym so I bought a couple shirts that say, "Bun in the Oven" and "Team Baby" that I wear to the gym to let people know I'm pregnant. I know this stage isn't going to last long and before we know it, we'll look way pregnant and it will remove any doubt from their minds. Hang in there!
I just got the slightest bit of a bump, but I'm too ashamed to show anyone. I definitely know what you mean; it bothers me a lot. I hate the 'perfect female body' image our society holds on to, so much.