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  #21  
March 5th, 2013, 11:13 PM
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For my first kid, my push present was a .38 S&W revolver. Not exactly a shiny knick knack to occupy me in the hospital.

My husband's sentiment was: I want you to be able to defend yourself and our babies with force if necessary.

I loved it.
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March 6th, 2013, 04:44 AM
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Never heard of it--but then again I live in Canada and I don't know many other Mom's other than my online friends lol

We just give people flowers or gift baskets for the baby. People gave me cards.
My DH gave me a necklace that said "Mom" on it but a month later and on my birthday. I guess that would be the closest thing! lol
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March 6th, 2013, 05:42 AM
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I think everyone's version or definition of a "push" gift or a delivery gift for mommy is different! My friend's husband got her one and he didn't give it to her to occupy her when the baby was getting tested in fact I think he gave it to her the day she left the hospital. He said it was just a little something extra that he wanted to give her because they finally had the child they never thought they would have she has PCOS and was told she couldn't have kids, she had a very hard pregnancy, and she kept everything going never complaining along the way...he appreciates her, loves her, and is so excited that she is the mother of their child. I think that is sweet....to each it's own if my husband wants to give me a gift i will gladly accept it, we already know our healthy baby will be the biggest blessing ever and nothing could overshadow that so it wouldn't be an issue for me.
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March 6th, 2013, 06:22 AM
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For my first kid, my push present was a .38 S&W revolver. Not exactly a shiny knick knack to occupy me in the hospital.
No offense, it's just something you don't hear about every day.

I am wondering when this whole idea came about? And I'm trying to remember if I even knew about the concept when I was pregnant with DD. Then I would have wanted my "push gift" to be my husband to be there. In some instances I can understand where a gift to commemorate a hard time getting pregnant or staying pregnant. I guess it's the term I have an issue with and Kiam kind of hit the nail on the head. Plus, if you are intentionally getting pregnant you know that it's your job to get the baby out, yes? Just like I tell DH to start thinking about the birth just a little. Because sorry FTM and well I'm sure I'll have that moment of panic towards the end.... "You mean the baby has to come out? Are you sure?"
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March 6th, 2013, 06:51 AM
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I'm not expecting anything, and quite frankly, hope he doesn't go to the trouble.

It's not that I wouldn't enjoy something like a trip to the spa (what I wouldn't give for a massage and facial right about now), but my DH has learned from his father that the easy way out of any gift-buying occasion is jewelry and I'm just not big on that. It works for FIL because MIL loves sparkly stuff, but I'd rather have something a bit more practical (not that a spa day is all that practical, but still).
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March 6th, 2013, 09:27 AM
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I have not recieved any 'push gifts' ive had too many c-sections..lool.. but my sweet caring Dh does buy me special things either before I have the baby or after. Ilove it. He is always buying things for the new babies and children but when he buys me something special, Ilove it too.

Diamonds and designer purses are my favorite!!
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March 6th, 2013, 10:57 AM
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I've never gotten a "push gift" and I don't expect to get one ever. The baby is more than enough reward for "pushing". Honestly, if DH ever did get me one, I'd probably have a few words with him just because I feel like it's not something I need or should get a gift for doing.
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March 6th, 2013, 01:39 PM
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lol lovely way of putting it but its not like that here.

Here its like a holiday when you have recovered from the birth. A post par spa visit or a massage. A friend of mine got a ring from her husband with 3 stones to signal her, her hubby and their first child. Another friend of mine her boyfriend paid for her tattoo of babys name and birth. Its a special thing between the couple to symbol their child like a ring for a marriage which I see as claiming someone..
^^This is how I viewed it. More as a recognition and pampering of the mom for all she has been through. I find it very honoring and respectful, not at all derogatory! But personally I do not believe these gifts should be materialistic. Rather they should be of service to the mom and her healing body. Massages, Pedicures, warm meals, house work, and lots of love and attention to her emotions.

Other cultures have upheld this practice of honoring and pampering the mother, and they have fewer cases of "baby-blues"/PPD, breastfeeding problems, etc.. than the US. Mothering the Mother - Mothering Community

I think a gift given to the mother--who often gets overlooked as people come to see her baby--is a kind gesture, but if it replaces the acts of service she will so desperately need, we have completely missed the point...

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I'm not expecting anything, and quite frankly, hope he doesn't go to the trouble.

It's not that I wouldn't enjoy something like a trip to the spa (what I wouldn't give for a massage and facial right about now), but my DH has learned from his father that the easy way out of any gift-buying occasion is jewelry and I'm just not big on that. It works for FIL because MIL loves sparkly stuff, but I'd rather have something a bit more practical (not that a spa day is all that practical, but still).
I think a Spa day is COMPLETELY appropriate and practical after you go through labor and birth. Your body has been through a lot! Far more fitting than jewelry, imo...
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March 6th, 2013, 03:07 PM
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I had never heard of this concept before now. Seems a bit silly to me, but then I'm very uncomfortable accepting gifts. To each their own I guess!
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March 6th, 2013, 04:58 PM
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I'm good with just the gift of the baby!
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March 6th, 2013, 05:24 PM
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No offense, it's just something you don't hear about every day.
LOL None taken! I know it's an unusual "Hey, you just had my baby so here's something to commemorate the event" gift.

I never heard of a push present until I was preggers with my first, then someone mentioned it to me. I don't wear a lot of jewelry and can't stand strangers touching me (so a spa day was out lol).

I actually think it is a very strange term. "Push Present." It sounds... weird. And besides, c-section mommies deserve just as much attention/adoration/love/whatever as vaginal birth mommies! (Although I didn't get a push present for my second, which was a c-section, but that's because our arsenal was complete! lol kidding.)

I think if it had another name, like "Appreciation Present" or "New Mommy Gift" or whatever then people might accept it more. Around here, it's very common to give new mommies--preggers or just having had their babies--something just for the mom, even if it's just a bottle of stretch mark lotion. lol I think a push present is the same thing, just with a terrible name attached to it.
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