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Who is left to find out the sex of the baby before birth?
I'm feeling rather alone right now that I still don't know. I cried to DH tonight about it that I want to start the connection to the babies and to feel like this is real and envision our children. But I can't, I know i have 2 healthy babies growing inside me, but I want to buy for them, name them, think about what they are going to be like and think about seeing DH with them ect. At this point I can't, without sex my brain is like blank. IDK why. I really wish they would have cooperated and now I have anxiety that they wont at the next u/s and I'll be stuck not knowing until birth. Being a FTM to twins, I cannot do that!
I felt like that for a while. I've felt very behind this entire pregnancy, since I'm at the end of the month. It felt very isolating. I'm really sorry you feel this way. I "what-if" picked names waiting to find out. Have you guys been tossing out ideas at all? I can't wait to hear what your twinsies are
I would be upset too. I had to know the gender for it all to seem real and start that connection. I am also a planner so when I didn't know I felt extremely behind. I am sure at your next appointment they will be bearing all... slam a Mt. Dew before you go!
Thank you ladies, I got all upset about it again this morning. I feel pathetic that I can't just be patient like DH, he doesn't understand how hard this is. We agreed after the 22nd if they dont give it up we go get an elective but I'm afraid my DR wont even try or will pull out the dopler instead of the u/s machine. I guess I need to be firm at my appt. The elective is going to be $100 though which just adds to the stress, that could be several cloth diapers!
What also gets me is because I'm having twins there is a VERY real possibility of premature birth. I know 2 people who had their twins at 32 weeks so mentally I'm thinking OK after 30 weeks anything is possible. That's 9 weeks from now and all I have are 2 onesies and some socks right now. Waiting 2 more weeks seems like soooo much time. We have to order the stroller, furniture, and anything else the one baby store close to us doesn't have, will it be here in time? Arg!
My baby was also stubborn at my 18 week appointment.
So far no one has mentioned giving me another ultrasound so I'm debating paying for a 3D one. However those aren't worth it until baby is at least 28 weeks.
Because I have another child though and I'm not a FTM, I am a little more patient. Good luck!!