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August 4th, 2013, 03:56 PM
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...is that I hear so much of it I don't even know what to listen to anymore! I got advice from my nurses while at the hospital that tell me to do this a certain way. Then I go home to hear all kinds of advice from my SO's family that contradicts what the nurses say. And then there is my family who also has a list of advice I should take. It's hard to listen to any of them because they don't like what I am doing but insist I do something the way they think is right.

She's my daughter, I know how to take care of her and how I want to take care of her. she may be my first but I think I have it covered. If I want/need your help with something I'll ask and THEN you can give me your advice. Ugh.

Sorry for the rant but I needed it off my chest. Anyone else in the same situation?
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August 4th, 2013, 06:12 PM
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I'd be surprised if there is someone who isn't.

For me, there's advice and there's 'advice'.

Advice:
- I tried this and it worked for me, just an idea
- I see you are struggling with abc, I had the same issue and tried xyz and the outcome was pretty good

'Advice':
- THIS IS HOW YOU SHOULD DO THIS BECAUSE I DID IT AND IM RIGHT ALSO I AM AN EXPERT ON THIS BECAUSE I JUST AM!
- I have a 'parenting philosophy' for how I raise my children and you aren't following it and you should because me.
- I don't understand why you are doing what you are doing but you are wrong (because me me me).

I like advice and I actually enjoy 'advice' because it gives me giggles. But that's probably more to do with my sense of humour than anything else.
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August 5th, 2013, 02:35 PM
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This is my fifth baby and people still try to give me advice. Especially my mom. I try to just let it go in one ear and out the other because my mom and I parent very differently. It does get a little annoying though.
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August 5th, 2013, 08:46 PM
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Thankfully people know how strong willed I am and do not try to takr the reins. I have been taking care of kids for years and know what I am doing. I do what I do and they do not do without asking. That is the way I like it. Before I stopped being nice, easy going, quiet me though, I was very much bombarded too. I definitely know how frustrating that is. They still do try to undermine me by getting in BF's ear but I make sure he knows the logic or proof behind why I do what I do since he won't help or even support me. Sometimes you have to step on toes to wake people up.
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