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April 8th, 2013, 04:32 AM
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With everything that happened on Friday, Kev and I seem to be the only ones who are not holding a grudge against my doctor. That being said, even Kev is worried about her abilities. My whole family thinks I need to find a new OB, but I'm just not sure on what to do.

My mom is angry because she thinks my doc should've kept her mouth closed until after we had seen the specialist. She also feels that Jace's life was put at risk because the stress could've sent me into pre-term labor :/ My MIL doesnt feel like doc has enough drive/motivation to get things done (she's a very soft spoken woman), my dad says that she should've ordered another ultrasound before assuming everything was wrong and then shouldnt have become so doom and gloom until we saw the specialist (questioning her mentality), and Kev is worried about any emergencies popping up during birth and her not handling them appropriately. Everybody has legit concerns.

My point of view? It wasn't her fault. She wasnt there for either ultrasound and based on the pictures/measurements given to her by the tech, she made the only diagnosis she could see. I also asked her for honesty regarding my chances of miscarriage and she gave it to me. I didnt think about what the stress of hearing that news could do to Jace, so thats my fault, but I feel like the doctor is innocent. I feel like God answered our prayers that day and made almost everything okay with my baby, so why should the doctor be punished?

What do you ladies think? If you were in the same position, what would you do?
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April 8th, 2013, 04:55 AM
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I do have to actually agree with them... when I read your post updating that Jace was good (thank goodness!) the first thing I thought was that your doctor shouldn't have scared you so badly before having a specialist look at you/him first. Honestly, chances are just sending you to a specialist would have scared you enough so I'm not sure why she felt the need to overdo it. Especially when you mentioned that she "wasn't optimistic" because of the heart rate/doppler issue... that's actually why I asked if you were sure it was the baby and not operator error (ie: the doctor).

If I were in your shoes, I would definitely be switching doctors. DH has a very valid point... if there is an emergency, can you trust this woman to handle it appropriately?

And yes, I do agree that your prayers were answered and of course be grateful for that... but at the same time, I don't believe that your doctor did anything to make the situation better for you...

:\ Hope you figure it out soon!
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April 8th, 2013, 07:12 AM
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Switching is probably what I'll end up doing, especially since Kev has concerns. If it was just my parents I dont think I would pay much attention to it but Jace is his concern too so we've got to be on the same page. I have a feeling its going to be a hassel though, I dont know what this hospital's policy is on switching physicians :/

Thank you for your opinion Jamie, it definitely helps make the decision easier
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April 8th, 2013, 07:26 AM
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Good luck!!

Does your doctor have other Obs in her practice or is she alone?

Make sure you call your insurance company before you switch - I've heard some of them won't cover you if you move because they must pre-pay fees or something to the original doctor's office
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April 8th, 2013, 07:31 AM
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I agree. Any doctor that would make that kind of assumption without truly knowing all the facts wouldn't be the doctor that I'd choose to handle the rest of my pregnancy. I'm glad your little guy is ok!
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Definitely call your insurance company, but I think you would be happier if you did switch. I hope you can find a doctor that you trust!
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April 8th, 2013, 07:45 AM
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If I was in your position I would switch. I feel that an OB has to be that one person that you trust without a shadow of a doubt. Check insurance to make sure that the new one that you select is covered. The hospital shouldn't be an issue unless the new OB doesn't deliver at your chosen hospital.

With my first pregnancy, my company switched insurance companies and I had to find a new Dr at nearly 30 weeks pregnant. Stressful to say the least but my OB now is amazing and not just another Dr...shes a friend. She delivered my daughter Maddie and probably saved her life by talking me out of the extraversion that we were planning to do.

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April 8th, 2013, 07:49 AM
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Also, if you call your insurance company, they should be able to give you a list of doctors you can visit and interview before choosing. Good luck, hon!
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April 8th, 2013, 11:22 AM
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A doctor gave me a scare with my first child. I switched providers. Best thing I ever did and probably had a positive impact not only on the birth of that child but every birth to coming, bringing me to where I am at now.

Also, this is no judgment against your beliefs, but a baby's "fate" is sealed at conception. If you believe in God, you will believe he made your baby healthy from day one or that if the baby wasn't healthy that he had a plan for that baby. So, I don't think any prayers were answered--Jace was always healthy, whether you believe it's because God was looking after him or not. I don't say this as any kind of debate towards your beliefs; the contrary, actually. I say it because it may help you, as one who believes in God, to keep in mind that he's ALWAYS been looking out for Jace. That might give you peace, if you can fully lean on your faith right now and your trust in God. It may even help you make this decision regarding what to do about your OBGYN care.

I know what I would do, but I'm just trying to respect this from your head-space/point of view. I can't say what I would do in YOUR shoes with YOUR beliefs, though, because that is such a spiritual and personal thing, and you have to do what feels right to you in respect to that, which may be different than what someone else would do.

So glad Jace is okay, either way, and I hope you can come to a decision you and your husband feel confident about soon
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April 8th, 2013, 11:40 AM
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If it were me, I would change doctors as long as insurance would cooperate. Best of luck which ever route you go.
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April 8th, 2013, 12:10 PM
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I would switch! Even if it is a hassle now, it will make you more comfortable in the long run!
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