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April 23rd, 2013, 08:03 PM
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I know this is only bugging me because of pregnancy hormones. BUT...

My friend just had a baby. SHE posted to HER Facebook page a picture of the baby and his birth stats.

Do you know who people are congratulating?

JUST the husband. ONLY him. I mean, not everyone. Some people are congratulation them both, but some are saying "congrats [insert ONLY his name here]"

And it's BUGGIN' THE CRAB OUT OF ME!

And it's not like he doesn't have his own facebook, ya know, for these bizarre people who apparently think only he deserves congrats about this. I'm sure they aren't doing it to be mean, but seriously, how inconsiderate can you be?! I mean, I was a little grumpy the first time I saw it, but now like 5 or more people have congratulated ONLY him and it's making me increasingly annoyed!

Knowing my friend, she won't care at all. She's cool like that.
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April 23rd, 2013, 08:05 PM
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Is he tagged and its his friends commenting? I always just say congrats, because I feel weird just saying it to mom, but I also feel weird saying it to dad when I don't know him.
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April 23rd, 2013, 08:16 PM
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His friends are commenting, so yeah, maybe that's it, but you'd think they would say congrats to both of them... or at least to the person POSTING!
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That is strange Lost. I find it easier to say congrats to the family in general. After all a baby is a celebration from big to small. Grands, aunts, siblings, heck even the family dog!
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If she tagged him, it will show up on his feed, so his friends will see it and may not even realize it's his wife's post. If they don't know her and only know about the baby through him, it makes perfect sense for them to congratulate him. I would expect the same of my husband's work buddies.
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April 24th, 2013, 08:17 AM
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Is he tagged and its his friends commenting? I always just say congrats, because I feel weird just saying it to mom, but I also feel weird saying it to dad when I don't know him.
Same here or I say "Congrats to you [name] and your hubby" if I don't know their name or anything.
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April 24th, 2013, 08:59 AM
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If she tagged him, it will show up on his feed, so his friends will see it and may not even realize it's his wife's post. If they don't know her and only know about the baby through him, it makes perfect sense for them to congratulate him. I would expect the same of my husband's work buddies.
I suppose this could happen, but I'm pretty sure they will know it was tagging him. When he tags her and her friends comment, they aren't saying congrats just to her
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^^ yes, but women are more aware of stuff like that LOL. If these are his guy friends posting...
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April 24th, 2013, 10:36 AM
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That's the thing. It's WOMEN! I just can't imagine, as a woman, congratulating JUST a father about the birth of a baby.

1 of the girls said congrats only to the mama and 1 of the guys said congrats only to the dad, but 5 other women said congrats only to the dad.

I'm not as bugged by it as I was initially, I understand the confusion with the post tagging, but it reminds me of people who don't every use manners. They just don't even realize how inconsiderate they are being. It's not malicious, but it's rude (IMO) and I'm glad that after 3 kids, we haven't had to deal with anyone that ignorant.
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April 24th, 2013, 11:59 AM
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I had the same issue when I announced our pregnancy on FB. I tagged my husband and one of his cousins said "Congrats Rich" while everyone else congratuled us both. I found it offensive and told my husband so. He thought I was overreacting.
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April 24th, 2013, 03:37 PM
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I'm pretty laid back so it wouldn't bother me, but I can see how it would annoy people (especially us pregnant women!!). I think there is definitely a big issue with lack of consideration and politeness these days. But then, it's no longer really taught in school and a lot of parents don't take the time to teach it at home...
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April 24th, 2013, 04:01 PM
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I'm pretty much a laid back person as well. When we announced, I had both. People only giving me congrats or only giving him congrats. I think for the most part it was because either people didn't know me or didn't know him. And yea FB can be tricky about who can see what, tagged, and all that jazz.
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April 24th, 2013, 05:10 PM
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I'm pretty laid back so it wouldn't bother me, but I can see how it would annoy people (especially us pregnant women!!). I think there is definitely a big issue with lack of consideration and politeness these days. But then, it's no longer really taught in school and a lot of parents don't take the time to teach it at home...
oh yeah, definitely. I'm glad no one my husband or I know is like this, though. it would bug me a lot more if it happened to us lol
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April 24th, 2013, 07:01 PM
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I am taking it this is their first boy? Folks did that when i had a son and maybe it was my new mom hormones but I told them he was an excellent fertilizer and good dad but i did the leg work and took the knife for the team and would appreciate the acknowledgement... a tad fiesty at 21 i was
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