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So I'm 26 weeks and I felt up there for the first time in a while and noticed that my cervix feels kinda flat and mushy and soft, and kind of like there's a raised ring around the edges and I can fit my fingertip inside the ring. It doesn't feel like it's open open, it was just so weird to feel it like that, so I don't know if it's still closed or if it's in the process of opening or something! I didn't want to push to see if it would go further. I haven't had contractions and at my 20 week appointment they said my cervix was long and normal looking, but it was just weird to feel it so different than earlier in my pregnancy or pre-pregnancy. Does your cervix normally feel that soft and flat like I described? I will bring it up to my doctor on my appointment Friday, cuz I'm not losing fluid or feeling uncomfortable in any way, it just freaked me out! I'm suddenly terrified of going into labor this early and losing the baby.
Last edited by Allie_SMg; May 11th, 2013 at 03:43 PM.
Not sure what normal is. I check mine (gently) about once a month because of my history, and last month it was normal (closed) but mushy, which I think is normal for pregnancy. This month it was a little open (1/2 a cm or 1 cm) but I know I will basically just dilate really slowly until I deliver. I do monitor though because once it gets past a certain point I know I need to really kick it up a gear with the bed rest.
FYI, this discussion has been had in pregnancy groups before, so just letting you know now some people might come in and tell you how dangerous it is to check your cervix, etc. And I respect that they feel that way. However, it's VERY different checking yourself gently and on rare occasion versus being checked by a doctor. AND if they think that is bad, they must not have sex ever, because sex is definitely rougher on the cervix than checking yourself gently (and sex is safe during sex unless you are told otherwise).
As long as your nails are very trim and smooth (so you don't irritate your cervix) and your hands are clean (so you don't risk infection) it's perfectly safe to do, and certainly a gentler method than being checked by a doctor.
For what it's worth, if I wasn't checking my own cervix, my daughter could have been born anywhere between 28 and 32 weeks. I wasn't having painful contractions so there was no reason I would have had to otherwise think I was risking premature birth. Instead, we found out I was dilating at 28 weeks and found out I was 4cm at 32 weeks, and I was able to manage bed rest until 35 weeks when my water broke and I had to deliver.
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Last edited by alittlelost; May 11th, 2013 at 05:43 PM.
I really don't know. I'll be interested to read the responses you get as well. I felt mine a while ago, I was used to checking mine a lot when TTC, and I was surprised that it felt really open! Like I could easily fit my fingertip inside, but like you said didn't push it or anything and did it gently. Ever since I haven't checked because it kind of freaked me out. I don't know about normal but it definitely didn't feel like that with DS.
Kelsey, that makes me feel better! And maybe it does change throughout the day or weeks on and off. I'll still bring it up in case, but my doctor isn't an OB, just a general practitioner, so I'm not very trusting of his opinion, even though that sounds bad. lol