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With my last pregnancy I used to check my cervix to see if it was changing towards the end of my pregnancy. I checked a week ago and could not find it at all, and then the same thing a few days later. I checked again last night and I could feel the very very end of it and it was sooooo soft, but I couldn't feel enough of it to tell if I am dilating. Does it mean anything when it's so soft? And what does it mean if I'm not able to find my cervix?
If you cannot feel your cervix, it means it is high up and your more than likely not going to go into labor right now (though obviously these things can change very quickly). However when I was in the hospital in preterm labor at 30/31 weeks they said it was very good that my cervix was high, though I was 50% effaced (effacement is the thinning of the cervix, it is also generally the "soft" and weakness that you feel) and starting to funnel from the inside.
All of that sounds normal for this stage in pregnancy The cervix generally starts to efface and then as you get closer to delivery with lower and dilate.
ETA: Just because you feel softness, does not necessarily mean you are effacing because effacing is the thinning of the cervix. The cervix will soften, then efface. The way they judge effacement from my understanding is how thin the cervix feels (my doctor described it to me as like if you push on a wall, you can tell it is thick, versus pushing on plastic, or paper that is straight up where you will feel a weakness and "give" to it), not how soft. But softness is the beginning of effacement from what I understand.