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July 20th, 2013, 05:05 PM
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I know people mean well.. BUT, STILL !!! ugh.. was at the store today and ran into two ladies I know who asked me when I am due.. I said "5 weeks, well, 35 days sounds better" and they both laughed and said , "oh my gosh, 35 LONG days!! "... I laughed and said , "your not making it any better"... I tried to be lighthearted but, it really bothers me when people say stuff like that!! I mean- I am already REALLY struggling with the fact that I have to go 5 more weeks and I already feel so bad, but I DONT need other people saying stuff like that to me!!!

When I see women at the end of their pregnancy and I ask them when they are due, even if they are HUGE and say they have 3 months left, I calmly respond with something like, "oh, that's just around the corner" or, "you don't have long now"....

I WISH PEOPLE WOULD GET A CLUE!!!!!!

I seriously want to lock myself in my house until she's born. I've already gotten two phone calls asking if the baby was born and I know it gets worse as it gets closer. I don't even answer the phone!!!
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July 20th, 2013, 05:50 PM
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Ugh. People really can be pretty ridiculous and unhelpful. It drives me crazy when people assume how you are feeling.
I really try to have a positive attitude when people ask about my pregnancy/ how I'm feeling/etc, because we really are VERY grateful for these little lives coming to our family. But it's like people have to throw a negative spin on everything I say. A couple weeks ago, after an acquaintance asked how I was feeling and I told her I was doing really well, she actually responded with, "So, in other words, you're feeling totally horrible and just don't want to say it."
Thanks. Thanks for all your understanding. Do I really look that horrible? :/
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July 20th, 2013, 05:51 PM
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I have 2-4 weeks left and people are driving me crazy too with stupid comments. Some people really don't have a clue.

I just saw a lady at the store tonight that I know through my husband and she says "Oh you got HUGE!" I wanted to say "yeah, but still not as huge as you" since she is a rather large lady and she's NOT pregnant. Really I am not even that big, I have only gained 14 pounds!!!
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July 20th, 2013, 06:12 PM
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People just don't get it. Some people don't think before they speak.
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July 20th, 2013, 07:21 PM
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Awwww I'm so sorry!! That was so rude of them and they don't even realize it! Seriously I say this all the time that people do NOT have social skills when it comes to talking to pregnant women... think before you speak! I would have been rude to them if it were me but that's bc I have NO filter anymore lol I haven't gotten any phone calls yet but I have had a few people on my Facebook asking if baby was here yet or geez have that baby already.. that one was my favorite. I know them mean well but it bothers me so much too! Like people think we would have our babies and not tell anyone.. come on now what the heck!
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July 20th, 2013, 07:22 PM
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Ugh. People really can be pretty ridiculous and unhelpful. It drives me crazy when people assume how you are feeling.
I really try to have a positive attitude when people ask about my pregnancy/ how I'm feeling/etc, because we really are VERY grateful for these little lives coming to our family. But it's like people have to throw a negative spin on everything I say. A couple weeks ago, after an acquaintance asked how I was feeling and I told her I was doing really well, she actually responded with, "So, in other words, you're feeling totally horrible and just don't want to say it."
Thanks. Thanks for all your understanding. Do I really look that horrible? :/
Yeah.. I think sometimes it doesn't matter what people say, it can still irritate me. Even when people comment on how "good" I look- I don't believe them! I think they are saying it just to be nice.

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Awwww I'm so sorry!! That was so rude of them and they don't even realize it! Seriously I say this all the time that people do NOT have social skills when it comes to talking to pregnant women... think before you speak! I would have been rude to them if it were me but that's bc I have NO filter anymore lol I haven't gotten any phone calls yet but I have had a few people on my Facebook asking if baby was here yet or geez have that baby already.. that one was my favorite. I know them mean well but it bothers me so much too! Like people think we would have our babies and not tell anyone.. come on now what the heck!
Well, I think they meant well. They are also ladies from my church.. lol A woman I know and she has ZERO tact. She came up to me and said that SHE wished I was having a boy. Really??? It was when I was really struggling with having a girl. Another women asked when I was due and then asked if I was sure I wasn't having twins. I just said I didn't think I was that big.

This is such a tough part of pregnancy. Especially for those of us who aren't blessed with tiny little bodies with tiny little bumps.
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July 20th, 2013, 09:18 PM
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I'm getting comments "oh you're so tiny, are you sure you're due in 3 weeks?".

Well duh yes I'm positive since I'm fertile myrtle and know the date I conceived, since there's no trying involved!!
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July 20th, 2013, 09:55 PM
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I'm getting comments "oh you're so tiny, are you sure you're due in 3 weeks?".

Well duh yes I'm positive since I'm fertile myrtle and know the date I conceived, since there's no trying involved!!
I guess it can be frustrating for you, but I wish I had that problem
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July 21st, 2013, 12:22 AM
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I have had a few my entire pregnancy and right now i pick and choose who I respond to because i have such verbal diarrhea right now it takes too much energy for me to stop it from coming out lol! When it does come out i let them have it lol and walk away !
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July 21st, 2013, 12:31 AM
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I'm due next week and no one asks me when I'm due. I guess I don't look huge enough.
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