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Quick recap: Husband has been paying brother in laws rent for the last years. He was supposed to split it with my husband (my husband was paying my father in law's half) but he never did and my husband had to keep paying or my FIL would be homeless. My BIL kept saying he would pay next time and my husband (against my advisement) kept trusting that and never looked for a cheaper place for just my FIL to live. It got to the point when business wasn't doing well so we are still paying for them (eventhough they could afford to pay for themselves, which pisses me off. We paid their rent while they went to the movies all the time and ate out 3 meals a DAY!) anyway, because of this, we ended up paying out of pocket not out of our income, and all of our savings for a house are gone now. Can't change that, it's "our" own fault, though really I blame my husband because I had no part in it and told him to stop a long time ago and just have FIL live with us until we found him a place.
Anyway, finally my husband decides to buy my FIL a boat to live on. (To keep this story short, let me just say, this solution works even if it sounds crazy). That's not the problem. In fact, that's the good thing! Now we aren't paying for BIL and miraculously now BIL can afford to pay for himself (now that he HAS to) even though before he made MORE money and "couldn't" afford to pay for himself. So, yeah, I'm already cross with him!
Here's what my vent is about: For my BIL's birthday, my husband bought him a kayak as a gift. He never uses it, so he agreed to let my FIL use it to get to and from shore from hit boat (anchored in the bay). I've used this canoe, and even in my weakened state, it was EASY and FUN to use. Practical for it's intended purpose. Well, FIL wants a gas-powered dingy. My husband said no, use the kayak. It's more practical, costs no money for gas, and it's good exercise. Plus when we pick him up, we can put his kayak on the kayak racks we have on top of our car. We can't do that with a dingy. (Not to mention dingys cost a lot of money and the kayak was free, and we already spent $7000 we couldn't really afford getting him the boat--because as much as we couldn't afford that, it was cheaper than 14,000 a year rent!) Anyway, so FIL goes and whines about this to BIL and BIL decide to sell his Kayak to get FIL a dingy.
Why does this piss me off? Oh, let me count the ways!
1) Now all of a sudden my BIL is a hero for getting him the dingy that our meanie family wouldn't get him. (You know, cuz we're so mean and drew the line at spending 7000 on a boat for him after paying his rent for 2 years!)
2) BIL handled it SO ignorantly. He was literally just here telling my husband how he sold the kayak to get a dingy. HELLO! YOU ARE TELLING THE PERSON WHO GAVE YOU A GIFT THAT YOU SOLD THEIR GIFT TO BUY SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE THAT GIFT-GIVER DOESN'T WANT THAT SOMEONE TO HAVE! Which prints me to point #3...
3) My FIL is going to use this GAS POWERED dingy way more than he would have used the kayak . . . and guess who he is going to be trying to get money from to refill the gas tank? US. And for once my husband says, "and I'm not going to give it to him!" I hope that's true!
I should probably be pissed at FIL, too, but he's just dumb and his his age is affecting his brain. My BIL on the other hand, is just being ignorant. He's not going to pay for the gas in that dingy. And when we don't, that leaves FIL stuck because they sold the kayak! And BIL was actually just over here BRAGGING about how he sold the kayak (a gift we gave him!) for a dingy (that would only cost my husband more money, if he didn't already decide he wouldn't get sucked into their stupid BS this time!).
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