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March 22nd, 2013, 09:41 AM
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I opted out of all the genetic testing when I went to my first OB appointment. Nothing with change how much I love this baby. And I don't want the stress, this is a hectic pregnancy already.

Problem is, my OB will not let it go. She said she could do the test and not give me the results, so they are more prepared. But how could I do it and not worry about the results? Then she is saying they'll do the blood work to check the placenta, which is pretty much the same testing, without the scan and will give the same results.

I actually broke down in the office today because she was making me feel like a giant jerk for not doing it. So here I am trying to decide whether or not she's right. I mean, I'm 24, so age isn't a factor. There is NO history of any of the disorders in my family. This is really all because I'm plus size. But let me tell you, I am not a massive woman. Since when did a size 14 waist make you morbidly obese?

A second OB came in to finish my appointment because mine had to run out to deliver a baby mid appointment. She seemed to be a little more understanding in my decision. Saying I really should't let anyone pressure me. But still, now I feel awful.

On the plus side, I got to hear baby's heartbeat today!! For the first time. Which was THE COOLEST thing ever. The doppler kept making this strange noise when the resident did it so the second OB gave it a shot. She told me my little one kept kicking the doppler and moving away, making the weird feedback noise. Took some effort but we heard it! I almost cried! Lol.
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March 22nd, 2013, 09:57 AM
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I hate that you feel pressured. Are you sure that this is the right OB for you? You dr should feel like they are on your side...not against you
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March 22nd, 2013, 10:15 AM
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I have declined all testing also. And yes, it seemed like my doctor and her assistant looked at me like I was cracked in the head. I was thinking, man is this really so odd? The tests they offer in my opinion have way too high of a rate of false results. Why would I want to do that to myself? I wouldn't even consider an amnio. The only test I would consider would be the Harmony or the MaterniT21, but those haven't even been offered to me.
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March 22nd, 2013, 10:19 AM
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I agree with ^^ on whether this is a good fit for you as far as ob care. I didn't want to do the scan either because I'm finally not scared and I would rather not add any stress! My dr actually had the blood draw without even asking if I wanted it but then through out the blood b/c he said it was too early. He had me resched to have it done but when I said for the 3rd time I didn't want it he said that was fine. I would have another chat with him at your next appointment and if it still doesn't go well I think I'd find a new dr.
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March 22nd, 2013, 10:21 AM
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I'm sorry, but that Dr. is just ridiculous for making you feel like this! There is absolutely NO reason you should feel pressured into taking any of these tests. With my other two pregnancies (ages 24 and 28) I did not do any of those tests and was never even asked about them. With this one, I had decided to do the tests just because of my age (35). Either way, my Dr. did not pressure me into any of it and I would have been livid if he had even tried to.

This is just my humble opinion, but I would not be comfortable having a Dr. like that. And by the way, your size is by no means a good enough reason in my opinion to warrant the extra testing.
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March 22nd, 2013, 10:21 AM
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If there are no real risk factors, I'm not sure why your OB is pushing you so hard. I would consider finding a new OB. I have big issues with doctors who are test-and-intervention happy for no reason because they can be, and even bigger issues with doctors who make their patients feel uncomfortable and pressured into decisions they've made clear that they don't want to make.

I'm sorry you're feeling that way, in any case.
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March 22nd, 2013, 10:22 AM
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I was also hesistant about doing the NT scan...mostly b/c i would have to pay out of pocket for it.

My doctor said at the end of the day it was my choice BUT........and he kinda made me feel like i would be scolded like a little school girl if I didn't do it.

So I did.....my preliminary results were fine...and i got to see baby moving all around.

I do wish i had stronger backbone.....
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March 22nd, 2013, 10:37 AM
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I hate all of this pressuring that Doctors seem to be doing. It has all come down to making money and or covering ***** from lawsuits etc. Ugh... Here's what I am doing. I am planning on getting the materniT21 (Similar to the Harmony) and be done with it. Its just one blood test and has a high rate of accuracy. It can't detect spina bi-fida which the NT scan can. But that can again be detected in the 20 week U/S and if it comes to in-utero surgery etc. finding out at 20 weeks is early enough. I just gave all of that info so that it can help you decide if you are on the fence.
But bottom line is, it should be your decision and you should not let your Dr. pressure you. They cannot force you to get the test.
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March 22nd, 2013, 11:19 AM
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I'm sorry that your doctor seems to be pressuring you I agree with the ladies above....are you sure that he/she is the right OB for you? Your OB should make you feel comfortable with your decisions...especially if there is no real concern for risk. My OB was actually very happy that I chose not to do the testing because there weren't any obvious risk factors. I know all docs are different but it makes me so sad that he/she is making you feel bad about your decision. I'm sorry, mama! Stick to your guns....you know what's best for you and your baby!
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March 22nd, 2013, 11:31 AM
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The only prenatal testing that I'm aware of that my OB does is a quad screen. I think it's looks for chances of spina bifida (sp?) and trisomy's

I tried to opt out with my first pregnancy. I was only 19. But they suggested I do so if there were a problem they could have me deliver at a big hospital with a NICU.
We have a tiny 3 floor hospital here.

I would definitely opt out of the amnio because the quad screen does produce false positives sometimes.
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March 22nd, 2013, 11:53 AM
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I have never done any genetic testing and my OB and midwives ask at the first visit and if you say "No" they do not bring it up again. Same thing with BC. If you tell them you aren't interested they make a note in your chart and don't harass you about it. If I were you I would tell that OB you have already made up your mind and it is quite offensive that it keeps getting brought up. No means No.
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March 22nd, 2013, 12:30 PM
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I have never done any genetic testing and my OB and midwives ask at the first visit and if you say "No" they do not bring it up again. Same thing with BC. If you tell them you aren't interested they make a note in your chart and don't harass you about it. If I were you I would tell that OB you have already made up your mind and it is quite offensive that it keeps getting brought up. No means No.
Im sorry you felt pressured. I pressured myself along with the specialist this testing wise. My ob did not pressure me, infact he got upset with me when I said no to him about the cvs then called back again and said I may. He said no you said no, you should not take that back, you may regret it cus you originally said no. He doesn't pressure, which is nice.
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March 22nd, 2013, 02:17 PM
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I think you need to do what's best for you. These are OPTIONAL testing. What I am most concerned about is "Past performance is a indicator of future performance". If the DR is so pushy now with testing, how will he be when your in labor and intervention or medicines? You want your Dr on your team, supporting your choices!
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March 22nd, 2013, 02:22 PM
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I think you need to do what's best for you. These are OPTIONAL testing. What I am most concerned about is "Past performance is a indicator of future performance". If the DR is so pushy now with testing, how will he be when your in labor and intervention or medicines? You want your Dr on your team, supporting your choices!

A huge ditto to the above.. If they are not on your team now they will likely pressure you during labor and delivery when they have a lot of clout since it is all so new and can be difficult road to travel.. You need an OB you feel 100% comfortable with!!

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March 22nd, 2013, 02:29 PM
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I would look in to finding a new OB if he's pressuring you already. That sounds like the kind of doctor who is going to get you in labor and delivery and completely ignore your wishes.

For the record, I'm 24 and just the obese side of fat. That said, my doctor has made it very clear to me that my weight alone is not a reason to consider me higher risk than anyone else. I'm eating healthy foods, moving at least a little every day, and the baby's fine so far. He offered me the testing and specifically said that I'm not at any kind of increased risk, but that he's required to offer the testing to everybody.

DH and I decided not to do any of the testing for Down's or chromosomal abnormalities because like you said, it wouldn't change anything. If our child is born with special needs, then we will develop the skills to meet them. Our child is our child.

These are optional tests and your OB should be someone with whom you feel comfortable and supported.
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March 22nd, 2013, 02:32 PM
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I agree with the ladies above. Your Dr should make you aware of the choices once and let you decide. Not keep trying to force them on you. My Dr asked me at my last pregnancies if I wanted it done, BUT actually said that I probably didn't need it as there when no risk factors and he knew I wouldn't abort. So this pregnancy he didn't even ask sense he knew the answer was no.
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March 22nd, 2013, 08:32 PM
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I'll be forty years old in May, I just had a still birth that may have been a trisomial issue.

Even with all that going on my doctor recommends not doing the quad screening and I have never had a nt screen even though this is my fifth pregnancy over 35. He agreed to do the MaterniT21 test because it is accurate enough for him.

When I hear things like what you described I cannot help but to think,"would you like fried with that?" I wonder if she gets a good kick back for every screening she sells.
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March 22nd, 2013, 09:22 PM
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Not at all! I'm 25.and pregnant with #4 and none of them had those things done. Too many false positives in my family.
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March 22nd, 2013, 10:17 PM
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I have NEVER gotten the amnio, etc.. done and have never been given a problem about it. I also am/was a size 14 and was never given a hard time about my weight. I would find a new OB. Sorry they are giving you a hard time. HUGS :-)
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March 22nd, 2013, 10:35 PM
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Oh and i am a size 20...
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