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March 25th, 2013, 10:56 AM
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When I went in for my ultrasound on Saturday, I left with a rather large "goodie bag" full of pamphlets, sample products, baby magazines, business cards, "Baby Boy" trinkets" and a very special story from the book, "Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul." I figured I would share this story with all of you....it brought me to tears reading it. Being a first time mommy, I am ecstatic to experience the "journey" that is Motherhood.

We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of starting a family. "We're taking a survey," she says half-joking. "Do you think I should have a baby?"

"It will change your life," I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.

"I know," she says, "no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations."

But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in a childbirth class.

I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.

I consider warning her that she will never again a newspaper without asking,"What if that had been MY child?" That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her.

That when she sees pictures of a starving child, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.

I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That urgent call of "Mommy!!" will cause her to drop a soufflé or her best crystal without a moment's hesitation.

I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her precious baby's sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is alright.

I want my daughter to know that every day decisions will no longer be routine. That a five year old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at McDonald's will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom.

However decisive she may be in the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother.

Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that she will eventually shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself.

That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has child. That she would give herself up in a moment to save her child but will also begin to to hope for more years, not to accomplish her own goals, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.

I want her to know that a cesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honor.

My daughter's relationship with her husband will change, but not in the way she thinks.

I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child.

I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reason she would have before found very unromantic.

I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop way, prejudice, and drunk driving.

I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike.

I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time.

I want her to taste the joy that is so real that it actually hurts.

My daughter's quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes.

"You'll never regret it," I finally say.

Then I reach across the table, squeeze my daughter's hand and offered a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of calling.



**Please excuse any typos...this took me awhile to retype up from the paper I was given!

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March 25th, 2013, 11:12 AM
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OMG Amber....

Since I'm a first time mom I think the part that got to me the most was the husband part. I already get mushy inside when DH reads to our baby. He scootches down in the bed so that his face is to my belly...he explains to me that he's reading to the baby, not me. It truly melts my heart! I cannot wait for more moments like that when he's playing with our child.

Thank you so much for sharing.
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March 25th, 2013, 12:02 PM
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I have read that before somewhere... can't remember where. Since I am at work I didn't read all of it again because I knew I would cry! I cried all the way through the first time I read it.

My DH has already been different. When he is at work he will ask how his baby is doing. May be the most simple thing, but I think its so sweet

Thanks for sharing again!
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March 25th, 2013, 12:25 PM
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Thanks for sharing, lady. Love it.
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March 25th, 2013, 12:38 PM
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I recently read that on my FB newsfeed. Teared me up again
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March 25th, 2013, 04:15 PM
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I had this on my fb!! It was sooo sweet!
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March 25th, 2013, 05:50 PM
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thanks for sharing
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