I hate what some people say!!

x.xJOANNEx.x · #1 January 28th, 2006, 08:06 PM

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Elisabeth · #2 January 29th, 2006, 01:19 AM

Just like mah boyfriend tells me all the time, "it will happen and people will say and do mean things, but you just have to ignore them" There is nothing you can do or say to stop it! And yes it's very sad.

Momo · #3 January 29th, 2006, 09:02 AM

Yeah, you have to kind of develop a thick skin about it and also don't try to see it everywhere you go. I know sometimes I can be sensitive to it some days and if anyone even glances at us I'm like, YOu got a problem? haha.
It's not so bad where I live but it was hard for his family to accept me.
All you can do is be a loving and kind person so no one has any legitimate reasons to treat you badly. If they still want to judge that is their problem and they are going to have to deal with their own prejudices for the rest of their life.

CocoHunny · #4 January 29th, 2006, 11:29 AM

Well it's just as bad as when I'm walking on the street with Hubby and people would just stare...I even build up a complex from that (thank God I'm over it). People can be so rude and disgusting.

TT Mom · #5 January 30th, 2006, 11:44 AM

You for sure have to develop thick skin for it. I have been with my now hubby for 10 years. He is black and I am white. I could go on and on but just recently at my husbands X-MAS party on December we had a group of white guys saying I can't beleive that white girl is with that guy... etc... etc..

Viktoriasbabies · #6 February 1st, 2006, 10:21 AM

I know exactly how you feel. We get looks and whispers under their breath about my DH, he's white and I am black. I have always been in interracial relationships so I have learned to develop a thick skin, but when comments are made about my children I get really upset. When my daughter was about 18 months old (She is 6 now) I was in the drugstore and the woman working there asked me what her name was and I told her Genevieve. She came right out and said "That isn't a black name." I was very hurt at the time but I don't look at names or people in terms of color and I love her name so I guess it is just her problem.

Keep your head up and know that if you are in love with someone who cares what others think.

Kellee77 · #7 February 1st, 2006, 06:27 PM

people can be extremely rude!! I def agree tough skin!!! I just smile in there face and keep walking gets to them even more to see that you are happy!!!

tigra · #8 February 6th, 2006, 12:08 PM

i agree with all the ladies. you need tough skin. the sad thing is that some people today are still teaching there kids to think that way. all we can really do is teach our own family that every one is equal. life would be very boring is everyone looked the same. to love everyone and to except them for who they are, not look down on they for what they look like.

beckii · #9 February 6th, 2006, 01:02 PM

I agree, the only thing you can really do is ignore them. But its harder when its your own family. I'm white and my BF is black, my dad told my sister that he hopes we don't name our child any black names and that he was happy she was so light. *rolls eyes* Me and my dad aren't that close.

x.xJOANNEx.x · #10 February 6th, 2006, 02:58 PM

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I agree, the only thing you can really do is ignore them. But its harder when its your own family. I'm white and my BF is black, my dad told my sister that he hopes we don't name our child any black names and that he was happy she was so light. *rolls eyes* Me and my dad aren't that close.[/b]

We never had any trouble with our family's!

aprildc · #11 February 7th, 2006, 07:36 PM

I just found this board, and I'll be checking in periodically. I am white and DH is black...so yes, we too get stares, comments, snickers etc. I don't mind it anymore though. I don't feel bad, he doesn't feel bad. People who are racist are ignorant. When I notice someone staring, I feel proud to be with my man. I feel like "look at what they are missing" . We are people, not just a color. I've been with him for almost 10 years now, and I don't even notice a difference between our skin colors. I don't look at it that way. I look at him for who he is.

cpjames · #12 February 7th, 2006, 09:38 PM

I am so sorry for you, i am not in an interracial relationship. but when i see interacial couples i always try my best to be respectful because i know that when they see me as a black female they probably think i think negative things. but i don't i think it is nice. i don't think any relationship is better than the other. as long as that person makes you happy that is what matters. i am really hoping this something new movie will help with that.