We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
The realization that I'm pregnant keeps coming to me in waves and I go between almost freaking out and near elation.
This is quite literally starting over for me. I have a kid who will be a senior in high school this fall and another who is 14. It's like my first pregnancy.
Not to be a downer:
I got pregnant with my first son from a rape so I was depressed and in denial the whole time. I was in my junior year of high school.
Three years later, I got pregnant from someone I couldn't stand (still wasn't emotionally stable from the rape and made a really stupid mistake) so I wasn't thrilled at all, even researched abortions before ultimately deciding against it due to funds. I was in my sophomore year of college.
So this is my first time being excited about having a baby and will be the first time I ever paid attention to the whole pregnancy experience. And the "OMG, I'm pregnant" wave just keeps hitting me. And I'm freaking out thinking about bottles and diapers, wondering if I'll get assigned as a full-time virtual school teacher or if I would have to stay in a regular classroom just for the insurance. And then I have moments where I can't wait to hold my baby, to read to her, to watch her grow and learn. I've already promised to learn how to cook so that she's not exposed to fast food (like my other kids). Think I will keep chicken and regular milk out of her diet as well because of the hormones.
This time I won't be a full-time worker and a full-time student at the same time; I'll have time to read stories at bedtime. I know so much of what I want to do differently but that "OMG" wave keeps rolling.
Shana, mom to DS1 (17), DS2 (14), DD (0) and DS3 (0)
Joining and in November 2013
Twinkies! Theeeeeeey're heeeeeere!
I am so sorry to hear about the horrible things that happened to you when you were younger but I am glad you are excited about this baby!
This is my first and I go from excited to freaking out atleast a couple times a day hehe.
I hope this pregnancy has a healing effect on you! I'm about the same age as you, but started after I graduated with my babies. I've enjoyed the babies I've had in my 30's a bit more. Life isn't as stressful and you are more established. We bought our first home when I was pg with my fourth. I'm more relaxed feeling like I can do a good job and I'm more confident in baby rearing. I have a 6 yrs gap between my girls and boys. It was fun to start over and have older kids. My oldest will nearly be 12 when this baby is born. She loves babies and I may have to fight for my right to this one.
I'm sorry your first 2 pregnacies weren't exactly good experiences- mine weren't either. My X was a total jerk, we were young and things were just really hard because he had some major issues and needed to grow up. In fact, it was so hard that I never wanted to have another baby (with him) and eventually I divorced him. We can be civil now but I still feel like he robbed me of what should have been a happy part of my life.
This time around I am 30, not so young and in a far better situation so I am really looking forward to getting to do it again- my guy is pretty darn amazing and I am excited to experience pregnancy and parenthood with him. He is so good to me and takes such good care of me even before I was pregnant- I know this time its going to be totally different. I think my OMG moment came when we got to see the HB on u/s this wk- it feels so good to know everything is going as it should be. The only thing I am anxious about is complications- miscarriage, pre eclampsia, both of which I have experienced but rather than worry about things that are out of my control, I am trying to focus on taking care of myself, resting, and growing this little baby!