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So, I know there's already a topic about announcing your pregnancy, but I didn't want to hijack that one.
I'm sure I'm not the only one who's scared of telling, just looking for some advice or experiences, I guess.
I had decided I was going to tell my co-workers at 10 weeks. I figured I'd rather they knew already, because if the worst did happen, I'd want them to know instead of asking why I was gone, why I was sad, etc.
Then I got scared and decided to just wait till my 12 week appointment and then if everything was ok I'd tell them, tell our friends, actually get a sig and ticker on here, etc.
Well, I had my appointment yesterday, heard the hb, everything was good. This morning, though, I got cold feet all over again and now have told myself I should wait until I get an ultrasound in 3 weeks and then tell people.
I'm starting to wonder at this point if I'll ever tell people. I know that if everything's ok at my ultrasound, I'll tell myself to wait until my 16 week appointment... just to be sure!
So, anyone have any advice? Should I just wait and hope I get to a point where I do feel comfortable? Should I just suck it up and tell now because I'll NEVER feel ready?
If you think that you will continue second guessing over and over, I would just tell people and get it over with! Be EXCITED!!!
Maybe telling your close friends and family will make you feel better. I bet you will be relieved when you get great support from them.
Maybe try to identify what it is that you are afraid of? Are you scared that something will go wrong? If that is your worry, after 12 weeks your chance of miscarriage greatly decreases. That is not to say that something could not happen, but you can't live in fear of that. And it something does happen, you will want the support of those close to you.
GL and KUP!
__________________ Thank you, tasha_mae, for my very special siggy!
Last edited by -Anna-; July 6th, 2011 at 06:17 PM.
I don't think there is anything wrong with keeping it to yourself if you are doing so because you want to savor the joy of being pregnant without any outside opinions. But based on what you said, it seems like you are more nervous about something going wrong. In that case, I do think you should tell people. Sometimes telling other people makes it seem a little more real and can actually make you feel more confident.
I say shout it from the rooftops, throw a party, celebrate that growing little miracle! (Okay, maybe no rooftops or parties, but definitely celebrate.)
Thank you so much .:Shortcake:. for my beautiful siggy!
we dont tell the family until waaay later because for one its none of their business and two they are all such negative people that we dont care to hear their remarks. we dont really see them often either so we wait until closer to the third trimester usually. we told them around 11 weeks with dd and everyone threw abortion at us, told them with ds and hubbys phyco mother went off the deep end saying horrible nasty things to us about ds and myself. i really couldnt care less what they think but i want to ENJOY my pregnancy not be told to give my child up for adoption or have death wished upon us. so we just dont say anything
Nessa proud married working mother of three kids in Washington state. Trying to raise our family of five as LDS. Taking life one day at a time. Jordan - 6 yr; Stan - 4 yr; & Tyler - 2 yr.