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September 27th, 2011, 05:12 PM
BrittanyLBH's Avatar (Formerly DueFeb2012)
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I showed DH a couple pretty graphic ones on YouTube. To prepare him. A friend said her DF was freaking out over the whole process and I wanted to gauge his reaction. DH was surprisingly calm until 'a gallon of fluid burst out after the baby' lol.

Anyone else trying to prepare their SO's for the labor?

To BTDT mommies, how did your SO's react during your labors?

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September 27th, 2011, 05:17 PM
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he did pretty good with the whole thing! even tho after the 1st one he said he wasnt watching the next one be born and i was like ummm whatever
he was all up in the action with the 2nd one also and will be with this one as well lol

I have actually seen 2 babies be born was really crazy wasnt sure what to expect ( even tho i already had 2 at that point ) the 2nd baby was easier to watch be born bc i had seen one be born before

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September 27th, 2011, 05:25 PM
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Neither DH nor I have seen a delivery, and I think it's best it stays that way until it's me! LOL
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September 27th, 2011, 05:33 PM
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I made Hubby watch YouTube videos just like you did! And I was impressed that he actually did pretty well. I also had him watch some water birth videos since that's what we are hoping to do.
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September 27th, 2011, 05:45 PM
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Dh almost got sick seei g a dog give birth lol so I was sure he'd freak, but nope he did great he watched with both boys and said it was cool and tells me you may carry them for 9months but I get see them first as they come out lol I was shocked he did good but he thought it was pretty neat to get to see them actually come out lol
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September 27th, 2011, 05:49 PM
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My SO has seen his own birth (yep, his mother kept the video).. So he'll be fine

Although we were watching a documentary a few weeks back and as the babies head started crowning he let out an "oooh godddd". Haha, but I think he'll be fine and if he's not, I know he'll put on a brave face for me!
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September 27th, 2011, 05:54 PM
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my dh did great, he saw the whole thing. I threw up which made tyler's head come down a lot...he was trying to help clean me up and the dr said oh i see hair, you want to see? He saw it all, after birth and everything. I personally would be totally wigged out but he wasn't even phased. After i asked him if he'd ever be able to look at me the same after watching me push a baby out of my vagina. hahaa He said yep, not even a little weirded out. Guess it just depends on the guy though.

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September 27th, 2011, 06:12 PM
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DH watched me give birth, and he was pretty calm through it. We've both seen the birth video in high school so he wasn't shocked or anything. =) I think he'd probably looked them up on his own before he saw DD born. I watched one after, and was all, "Holy crap, honey, her privates got huge!" He said, "Well yeah..." Know-it-all.

My sister said the fluid gushed out of her while she was pushing. Sprayed this med student in the room. She was so happy the girl got hit because she didn't have permission to be there. lol
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September 27th, 2011, 06:21 PM
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Yeah this I'm worried about...my boyfriend is not the best with hospitals, doctors, needles, nurses...none of it. He was in a very bad bad car crash when he was younger and the hospital punctured his spleen when they were giving him x-rays...and than SENT HIM HOME...needless to say he had emergency surgery to remove the spleen.

than his mom was in the hospital for 18 days on life support after a stroke. Poor guy has been traumatized from hospitals...

So he doesn't do well at all, and really doesn't do well when they are doing things to me. I've already told him this is these people's jobs, they aren't trying to hurt me...and that I need him to not scream and not get angry....lol we'll see!! Maybe he will be to grossed out by what's going on to worry they will be poking me with needles.

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September 27th, 2011, 06:58 PM
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We were in nursing school and had ob rotations 3 months prior to my due date so he had been near and around the labor part and had seen one delivery. I had seen a vaginal and one c/s..... although with our kids DH was way less focused on the delivery as he was the actual baby. i'm not sure even paid attention to where the baby was coming from!!
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September 27th, 2011, 09:30 PM
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My DH is a little freaked out just by having to be in the room. He has "joked" about how to get out of it. Pretty sure if I showed him a birth video I would be dragging him in the room!!!
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September 27th, 2011, 09:55 PM
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I joked about not letting DH in the room b/c he has really bad ADHD and is constantly tapping and not just 'tap tap tap' like normal people, but full on 1,000,000bpm rhythmic tapping. I think he channels Keith Moon!!

He insists upon being there, so I gave him permission to play the PS3 and the DS until the pushing starts. lol

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September 27th, 2011, 10:38 PM
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DH does really good. I don't think it bothers him at all. He said seeing me in pain is the worst part.
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September 27th, 2011, 11:11 PM
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My DH would freak! He can't handle anything thats bloody or gross! When I was laboring with dd we had decided that he would stay by my head and let the pro's handle the rest! We ended up with a c/s and he had a hard time knowing that on the other end of the curtain they were cutting me open. If I were to give him the option he would wait outside when I'm having this baby!
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September 27th, 2011, 11:20 PM
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Dh did great. Helped me push etc. We ended up in a section though but he saw when they pulled Ethan out. I see births all the time cause I work in labor/delivery :-) and I love every minute!
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September 28th, 2011, 06:23 AM
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In the class we took, they showed us a video and my reaction was worse than Dh's. Nothing seems to rattle him. Afterwards I was like, "WHAT? That's what it looks like? The human body is amazing to be able to do that, but NOT THIS HUMAN BODY!!!" I knew how the process worked in general, but had never seen it. I ended up having a c-section anyway, but I'm glad that even if I had experienced a vaginal birth that I wouldn't have had to look at it. The outcome of the process and the way that everything works together when naturally done is amazing and beautiful, but I don't know anyone that looks at the actual process itself and doesn't think it's kinda gross, even if it is natural. (I'm sure I'll have at least one person who claims they think it isn't gross...)

The fact is that even if he is present, he doesn't have to stand down there and watch the whole thing unless he wants to. He can sit up by your head and be a help up there comforting instead of down where the action is. Even though nothing SEEMS to rattle Dh, he is a fainter so I had a rule that he had to stay up by me and sitting the whole time. They even made him sit in the operating room during the c-section since he was a little pale
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September 28th, 2011, 08:16 AM
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My DH did really well with the whole thing - but not too much bothers him. He and I both got to touch Jojo's head while she was crowning - that was weird. But he watched the whole thing. Now months later, he says the only thing he will definitely not forget (as in a bad way) was the smell of everything. I didn't notice anything, but yeah, I guess if your vajayjay is hanging out 'airing out' so to speak, and the amniotic fluid and blood, I guess that would be a weird smell. (I didn't poop, so I know that's not what he was talking about ) I didn't notice anything.
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September 28th, 2011, 09:31 AM
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I'm not sure if dh had ever seen a delivery before dd, but he did fine. Then again he stayed near my head the whole time. This time it will be a little more in his face since it will be at a birth center in a tub instead of at a hospital. If your SO gets queasy at that sort of thing then have him stay by your head -- if you are at a hospital and in the usual hospital birthing position he won't see much.

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September 28th, 2011, 10:47 AM
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My DH wants to stay by my head, he doesn't do well with blood and stuff like that. I have a feeling once he's there he might want to watch, but we'll see. I wish I could watch!
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September 28th, 2011, 11:20 AM
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Originally Posted by JTsquared View Post
My DH wants to stay by my head, he doesn't do well with blood and stuff like that. I have a feeling once he's there he might want to watch, but we'll see. I wish I could watch!
. DH doesnt do well AT ALL with blood. They had to learn how to stop put an IV in at work before deployment and DH had to be escorted out because he turned green and almost passed out. Legit (hate to be TMI) but when I have my period I have to wrap all my panty liners in TONS of toilet paper and shove them in the bottom of the garbage because he will legit vomit at the site of blood. I hope the videos at lamaze class help a little bit. I already have friends on standby for when the baby comes so incase he does pass out I have a fill in DH lol

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