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My parents have been separated for 6 years. My dad recently got remarried to a wonderful woman. Obviously my mom will be called grandma and my dad would be grandpa. I don't want my step mom to feel left out considering that her grand kids call my dad something (don't remember what off the top of my head). What would be something my son could call her that won't upset my mom (she is easily upset). I know if my son were to call both of them grandma my mom would be very upset at that. Any ideas or advice would be great.
My kids have step grandparents as well. I don't know. Maybe call them different names. Maybe one can be grandma and the other one nana? There are lots of different grandparent names. My kids call DH mom "Abuela" (spanish for grandma) and my mom is "Nana". My grandma is called grandma, mimi and granny.
My dad's parents were divorced and I had a step grandma. I called my mom and dad's mothers 'Grandma' and my dads step mom 'Grandma Lois,' some of my cousins just called her 'Lois.' I'm not sure if any of them minded or how it started but that's how we did it.
My husbands parents are divorced, each with new significant others. I will probably just call them all grandma and grandpa and they can all just get over it if they don't like it. But then again, his parents split when my husband was 1, so it's been 25 years and I think they are over it.
My kids call my mom "grandma," my dad "gpa" and my stepmom "gma." They call dh's mom "grammy" or "honey"...long story, but it was started by my second oldest nephew years and years ago, and now she more or less insists upon it. LOL Anywho, I think that there are lots of options for grandparent names...granddaddy, papa, mamaw, nana, memaw....etc. You have the choice of either deciding on one and teaching your child how to refer to each person, or to wait it out and see what your child starts to refer to them as. Either way, I think the fact that you are putting so much thought into it now is very considerate!
First of all, sorry you're having to worry about people's feelings so early on. Having a parent that hasn't moved on makes everything more complicated and sensitive. I would talk to your step mom about it. You could address it as a way to make it easier to distinguish among grandparents. My mom asked to be called Nana with my nephew 17 years ago. It makes it easier when we talk to niece and nephew because when they say nana, I always know they mean my mom. DH's mom is Grandma and we haven't addressed it with his step mom Candy yet because Emily doesn't talk. Whatever she tells us she wants to be called, we'll go with it. When DH was little, his mom punished him for calling Candy his "step-mom" because she wasn't his mother (crazy much?). I swear if she so much as thinks about telling my kids they can't call Candy grandma, I'll lose it on her. It's been 25 years since their divorce (she even remarried and divorced again) and she's still bitter about it.
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all of my kids grandparents have different names. my Dh's parents are divorced and we call his mom Mimi, his dad is grampy, step mom is nana. My mom is grammy and dad is grampa. I always just had grandma and grandpa (two sets) but really only saw one set of my grandparents. My DH's dad and step mom have been married since before any of the grand kids were born so she's always been one of their grandparents.
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Lurker here but my kids call my 34 year old stepmom "Mimi" because she doesn't want to be called grandma (considering she's only two years older than DH...lol) They call my stepdad "Pop", just because I kind of reserved the "Grandma" and "Grandpa" titles for my actual parents.
You could ask your step mom if she has a preference of what she would like to be called. That's what we did. DH's parents ended up being Nina and Poppy. It just came out that way when the first grandchild tried to say grandma and grandpa and it stuck. I would try to reassure your mom that she will always be baby's grandma, no matter what name you use for your step mom. Hope it works out for you.
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