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  #1  
October 30th, 2011, 08:03 PM
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Not really sure where to ask this, but my sister in law has been trying to conceive for a year and 10 months and its not working. She has a pretty text booked cycle, 14 day luteal phase 28 day cycle with obvious ovulation confirmed by opk. She is wanting to try to add some stuff to her trying efforts but doesn't know where to start. My husband and I have been lucky enough to not have to use aids to get pregnant but she feels that she needs more help. I recommended pre-seed. Does anyone else have ideas of what she or her husband can take vitamin wise or other that may help?
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October 30th, 2011, 08:31 PM
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Look online for herbal supplements.
I've heard of people taking soy supplements
Vitex
Red Raspberry

For men there are a few too.

Also, recommend charting on a system like fertilityfriend.com . Many women do not ovulate when they think they do.

Having sex every other day to insure the egg is "caught"

If all else fails...
see a fertility specialist about trying Clomid and to check levels (his and hers) to make sure everything is functioning okay.
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October 30th, 2011, 08:40 PM
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Thank you. I already recommended the fertility friend as I used that when I was trying. But will let her know the rest of it.
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October 31st, 2011, 05:15 AM
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Before she starts taking a bunch of suppliments, I would say it's time to go to a Dr. The first thing for them to start with is a sperm analysis for her husband, mainly because it's the least invasive of any testing. A Dr. will probably order CD21 bloodwork. If she really does O on CD14, then CD21 bloodwork is perfect timing as it should be done 7 DPO. If she is Oing on a different day, then she'll want the bloodwork a different day. She might want to get an HSG. It's a very simple procedure, sort of like a pap, but a Dr. will insert die into her uterus and flush it up her tubes. An xray tech will be in the room and they will be able to see on a screen if the dye travels all the way up each tube. This will let her know if something is clogged. That's pretty much where most OBs and REs (reproductive endocronologists) will start. They may also want to do a post coital CM check to see if her CM is killing off her DH's sperm. Some will suggest clomid, but honestly I'd say not to do it until she's had the other testing done, especially since her cycle is so regular. If they don't find anything, then maybe she could move onto clomid. She could also then look into acupuncture. I did a bunch of clomid, trigger shots, IUI etc my first time trying to get prego and nothing worked. We were saving money for IVF and decided to try acupuncture instead. I did not have a textbook cycle and my luteal phase was very short. Within 3 months everything was fixed and I was prego. This time around I went back to the same acupuncturist. My LP was even shorter after having my girls and again within 3 cycles I was prego. Pretty awesome and way less expensive than other fertility treatments even at $55/visit and going once/week. If she does decide to do acupuncture, she'll want to call around and find out who focuses mainly on infertility and not just one who treats it amongst a ton of other things. Most acupuncturists will let her have a free consult over the phone that she can basically use as an interview. If she doesn't like the person then she shouldn't go to them. I talked to a bunch before I found who I was looking for. I have friends who have gone into a place, hated it and then switched and had success. She doesn't want to go anywhere that she's not comfortable. It would be an added bonus if the acupuncturist is also a naturopathy. That way they can give her food suggestions based on what is going on. I know that I have to avoid wheat and dairy to get prego and add a bunch of stuff into my diet.

Let me know if you have any other questions. I am full of knowledge about supplements and infertility since our path was so long ttc the first time around. Red raspberry leaf tea is a great suggestion. It's amazing what it can do for the uterus. Vitex does regulate hormones and can give some women a normal LP if they have a short one, but I wouldn't suggest she start taking it if her cycle is normal. I'd wait until she gets her bloodwork back. Vitex can really mess up a women's cycle. If she does decide to take it, then I highly suggest she gets Vitanica brand as it's very highly recommended by naturopathy's and many other brands can cause more issues than they fix.
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October 31st, 2011, 05:18 AM
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My BFF is also having the same problem. She has 2 little girls from a previous marriage and had no trouble concieving them but has been trying for almost 2 years with her new husband and its just not happening for them.

My sister has also been trying for almost 2 years and its not happening for her either.

I seem to have the opposite problem!

By the way what is preseed? I might mention that to my friend.
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October 31st, 2011, 05:33 AM
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Preseed is a sperm friendly lubricant. Most lubricants are not sperm friendly. It can be bought online or at some drugstores. Some drugstores will give a free sample of it and since it's not cheap a free sample or two is awesome!


As for your friend that has been trying for 2 years and already has 2 kids with another man, I'd say her very first place to start would be a sperm analysis for her SO.
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October 31st, 2011, 05:47 AM
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I have been to a RE, had a failed IVF, had testing done, and we tried for 3 1/2 years with 2 losses. I also have your textbook cycle, but we found out that my progesterone is low and I do not have a strong "O". Also, my hubby has low motility with his sperm. He started taking Fertility Blend for men, and I tried Soy Isoflavones (what many call the natural clomid). His sperm motility went from 15%-40% to 95%. Also, I got pregnant on my first cycle with Soy. I was shocked after so long and nothing. I took it days 5-9 of my cycle and got a super strong O. Good luck to your friend, and I hope they find and fix the problem.
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October 31st, 2011, 05:47 AM
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Thank you all so very much. I know she will love all the suggestions. She said she was going to trying for another 2 months and if it doesn't work then they will be going to the RE. I think the acupuncture may be a great idea for her. I feel so bad talking to her about babies half the time since I know how badly she wants a baby and I am now pregnant for the 5th time. The only one that took us a while was the first and that was 18 months after coming off depo. The rest of them I got pregnant in less than 3 months each. Since me and my husband are the only one with kids on both sides of our family, it would be great if someone else could have some too. My sister can't have kids since her husband had a vasectomy after his first marriage and my sister in law is trying desperately but they are having trouble. Neither his brother or my brother are trying for kids.
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October 31st, 2011, 05:52 AM
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Just an aside, the OPK saying she is oing is actually not accurate, she isn't necessarily oing because she is getting a positive OPK. They tell you when your body is getting ready to O, but sometimes, your body tries and isn't successful, your LH still could spike, may dip and then spike again in another attempt, but it doesn't always mean that you are Oing. I would definitely suggest she talk to her doc.

GL to her! And why can't your sister's husband try a v-reversal?
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October 31st, 2011, 06:22 AM
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My sisters husband is in the navy and he is not even home enough for them to really try if he did get the reversal. That doesn't stop her from wanting them but because of there situation they find it better to wait until hes out of the navy before trying for the reversal. That won't be for another 5 years though. Which I am concerned as that will put her at around 30 years old. A late start but not unheard of, my aunt was 42 when she had her first after years of infertility and had her 2nd 2 years later at 44. She is content with adopting if they can't have kids naturally.
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October 31st, 2011, 06:40 AM
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I am 31, 30 is still actually young Well, I hope she gets her baby too when they are able to try! My aunt was 30 when she started and had 3 kids - all 3 years apart, so not really a late start, especially these days!
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October 31st, 2011, 08:20 AM
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I would definitely recommend seeing a doctor. I also have textbook, regular cycles and tracked my ovulation through FF for years and years. But after seeing the doc, we found out we had a minor male factor problem. I also don't produce much EWCM. Doc said we were perfect candidates for IUI, we tried it and it worked the first time.
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October 31st, 2011, 08:35 AM
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my hubby and I tried with no sucess until we tried soy isoflavones we did it cycle 5-9 with the same results we got pregant our first month on it! I would recommend it to anyone! Our doc said there was no reason we couldnt get pregnant my cycles are textbook, everything checked out. Soy worked for us
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October 31st, 2011, 11:22 AM
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The soy stuff is sounding promising. Sorry I dont think 30 is old by any means I am just so used to having my kids young and I worry about potential complications the longer they wait. I had my kids so close together. I am 26 now and pregnant with my 5th. We lost our first when I was 20 at 20 weeks, my first son was born when I was 21, My second son I was 23, and my third son I was 24. My goal is to be done having kids by the time I am 30. Hoping desperately for a girl this time but love my boys that I would be just as happy with another boy. Also I know if they get the reversal that the success chance is lower and it may take them a while still to get pregnant.

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October 31st, 2011, 11:56 AM
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I'm a fan of welcome womb, as can be seen by my siggy, lol. The problem was with me, DH's sperm count was great. I could get pregnant, I just couldn't stay pregnant. I used it with my second IVF cycle and even though I missed the first two days of my progesterone suppositories, I've made it further than I've ever made it before and I think it's b/c I started taking welcome womb the day after my egg retrieval. I plan on taking it until the end of my first trimester.
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