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November 20th, 2011, 06:28 PM
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I had my first appointment with my old OB a couple weeks ago. I wasn't 100% comfortable. She was amazing for my twin pregnancy, but if I wasn't having twins I wouldn't have gone to her. She's the only one in the practice, so I know that she would be the one to deliver. She's always running late though and I'm never comfortable during our conversations. She provides way too much personal information that I don't agree with. Like, I believe everyone should be able to decide to circumcise or not without criticism either way. Before we knew we were having girls, I mentioned we would not be circumcising and I got a huge lecture about how awful that is. That conversation has really stuck in my mind. Fast forward to my ultrasound appointment. She talked about how her grandson knows he can't pull anything when she's around because she'll just spank him. The poor kid isn't even one! I don't agree with violence to stop a child from doing a particular behavior, but think it's appalling for a child that young.

Did you make it through all of that? If so That's really a shortened version of everything that went on. Anyway, I woke up in the middle of the night last week and couldn't sleep. DH was gone for work and I just couldn't shake the feeling that I had to change doctors. So, I cancelled my ultrasound appointment with her this week and made my first OB appointment at another office. I really hope I like it there since it's so different. There are 6 doctors at this location, so I don't know who will deliver. All do VBACs though, so that's good.

Has anyone else switched OBs this pregnancy or in a past pregnancy? Were you happy you did it if you did?
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November 20th, 2011, 06:46 PM
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Oh my goodness an OB who spanks babies!? Yikes. I dont blame you. I could never imagine spanking my 10 month old she wouldnt have a clue.

With my DS2 I started with a new woman doctor in town and I didnt care for her much because she was foreign and I couldnt undersand her most of the time but I stuck with her and then she moved out of town so I had to switch at 5 months. The only doctor that had any openings was an older doctor so I went with him. Didnt have any problems he just had NO bedside manner whatsoever.

So with DD, again no one had any openings so I was stuck with the old doctor. Again he had NO bedside manner, never even looked at me once, wrote off my concerns quickly, wrong diagnosed me with PUPPPS when really it was just excema, never remembered who I was or what my name was, told me my baby was 2 weeks behind but was WRONG and she was right on schedule so had me worried to death for nothing, Would ask me the same question like 3 times in a row, seriously. IN A ROW. He was like 90 though so maybe that explains it.

But anyway to my point. I was never comfortable with him, he was dimissive and didnt seem like he really cared and also very forgettful. And after I had my baby he discharged me from the hospital not even 24 hours after she was born and didnt even tell me which forced me to become a "visitor" instead of a patient and they werent allowed to treat me or give me meds but I was allowed to eat and sleep there until she was discharged too. I have NO idea why he did this and it was so rude! Not to mention 2 weeks post partum I passed part of the placenta that he must have "forgot" even though they are supposed to check for that because it can be very very dangerous. And when I called him about it he wrote me off and said its NORMAL. Like hell!

So yeah, I really wish I had switched. I just didnt have anyone else to go to. And this time I got into the same doctor that delivered my DS1 and I am so thankful he wasnt full this time! I would rather have no prenatal care than go back to that 90 year old crazy man again.
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November 20th, 2011, 09:03 PM
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That is awesome that you went with your gut!!! It sounds like she would have pushed for a repeat c-section, and that does not sound like what you want. You won't regret listening to that little voice. It always leads up to the right place.


I did not switch OB's during a pregnancy, but I did leave my OBGYN that I have used for my last three pregnancies and decided to use a birthing center this time. I felt, like you, very rushed and I feel like they were too pro induction and c-section happy. Everything was an hour waiting, see the doctor for 2 minutes, schedule next month. I felt like I could never ask questions or that I was somehow bothering them if I did.
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November 20th, 2011, 11:27 PM
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I've switched OBs with each pregnancy, but it wasn't really by choice.. I have moved between each of my babies. None of my kids will be born in the same state.. and this one won't even be born in the same country!

I'm glad you went with your gut and switched, I hope your first appt with your new OB goes great!
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November 21st, 2011, 06:12 AM
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Good Luck! Can't wait to hear about your new ob!!
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November 21st, 2011, 06:20 AM
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That is awesome that you went with your gut!!! It sounds like she would have pushed for a repeat c-section, and that does not sound like what you want. You won't regret listening to that little voice. It always leads up to the right place.
She's actually pretty good for VBACs and does a lot of VBACs after twin csections. She used to make comments though about how she had someone push for 3 hours and she couldn't believe they called her in and then she had to wait so long. I totally forgot about her comments like that until just now. I think I overlooked a ton of that stuff the first time around because she has an amazing track record with twins and has never had a pair born super early. She takes precautions that other Drs. might not, but has amazing results because of it.
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November 21st, 2011, 06:26 AM
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I switched early in my pregnancy.
Because the place I was going to kept rescheduling my appointments. I was so scared that I wouldn't even see a MW before I miscarried... So I switched to a place walking distance from my house.. The midwife there is crass and abrasive, but in a nice way.. lol.. She just gets things done. She doesnt dawdle around.. And I honestly like that about her. From the first visit I got an ultrasound and a reference to a high risk specialist/consultant! (Which is absolutely phenominal!) So I am extremely happy with my choice to switch OBs!
Its not that I didnt LOVE my original.. I actually really did.. But they just kept putting me off.. I was in too much of a rush. Its unfortuante but, things worked out!

How are things with the new office?

Oh p.s.
If someone told me not circumsizing was bad I'd really give it to them. Im Jewish and we dont circumsize til the 8th day... And we have a moil do it.. (Most hopsitals arent supportive.) However your OB should of known that its none of her buisness!
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November 21st, 2011, 06:33 AM
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How are things with the new office?

Oh p.s.
If someone told me not circumsizing was bad I'd really give it to them. Im Jewish and we dont circumsize til the 8th day... And we have a moil do it.. (Most hopsitals arent supportive.) However your OB should of known that its none of her buisness!
My first appointment is this Wednesday. I'll try to remember to update after it.


You're right that it is none of her business. She does circumcisions, so I'm sure she makes a lot of money from them every year. That's probably partly why she's so for them. She gave me all sorts of skewed stats about penal cancer and all these things that I knew weren't true because I've done my research. She has no idea what religion I am. Can you imagine a doctor telling you how bad circumcision is and trying to make you feel horrible when you do it for religious reasons? Totally not their place to do that. Helping educate a patient is one thing. Blatantly telling them that they are wrong on something that's a personal decision is totally different.
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November 21st, 2011, 06:34 AM
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I switched OB's with my first.
Since I didn't really know what to expect, and a friend got me in with a super-duper research scientist OB from McGill (kinda like the Harvard of Canada) I thought she would be awesome. WRONG!
She was the coldest witch ever.
On our first appt at 8 weeks she really pushed us for the NT scan (we just wanted to u/s to see baby) and went on and on about abortion if they were to find anything on the baby
She kept saying I had to understand that an embryo with an anomaly was just a faulty egg and there is no reason to bring that embryo to the world, knowing the same woman can go on to have healthy babies. WHAT?!
I was FURIOUS!

I kept her for a while thinking it may be just cultural differences, you know?
But I was never able to shake that off my mind so I switched at 30 weeks and was soooo happy.
Now I'm seeing the same OB I delivered with and couldn't be happier.

I think it's great you went with your gut! Hope you love the new office!
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November 21st, 2011, 09:50 AM
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You're right that it is none of her business. She does circumcisions, so I'm sure she makes a lot of money from them every year. That's probably partly why she's so for them. She gave me all sorts of skewed stats about penal cancer and all these things that I knew weren't true because I've done my research. She has no idea what religion I am. Can you imagine a doctor telling you how bad circumcision is and trying to make you feel horrible when you do it for religious reasons? Totally not their place to do that. Helping educate a patient is one thing. Blatantly telling them that they are wrong on something that's a personal decision is totally different.

there are just as many risks in either direction there is a risk of not getting all the skin and it causing problems just as there are risks in the foreskin not growing properly but both are slim and any doctor who places personal before professional acceptance is asking to be dropped great track record or not its not cool to scare your patients to "your way of thinking".

And i think my doctors office asks for payment of circumcisions 2 weeks prior to due date if you know for sure your having a boy and wanting it done.... kinda stupid if you ask me but i know they ask for some stupid amount too like a grand .... talk about nickel and dime ya.

I had to switch doctors right before i went in for my first appt i hated repeating myself a million times to 4 different doctors and getting misinformation on things that wasn't even on my chart i lucked out with the one lady i felt comfortable enough with is the one who helped my husband deliver the baby.
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November 21st, 2011, 10:17 AM
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I have never had to switch, the doc I have is phenomenal and everyone should be given the opportunity to have an awesome doc! She has great bedside manner, knows my history, even after 3 years! She listens to me, lets me ask questions and most of the other docs in her practice are great - there will always be that one, but I just try to avoid him...lol! She is not c-section or induction happy and I feel I get the best care out there!

You deserve the same, we all do! I hope your new OB appt is great and you love the office! My doc suggested that I have an appt with each of the other OBs and midwife throughout my pg, just to get to know them, you may try doing that too if they allow it. I found it more comfroting that I had seen almost all of them in the practice before having my baby, of course, my doc ended up delivering DD because I did have to be induced...although I went into labor the night they were going to induce, so she would have delivered her anyways
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November 21st, 2011, 11:40 AM
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I have an awesome doc too!! I switched once to a dr closer to where I live and he was OK, but didn't know me. My current dr although I have to drive over an hr to New Orleans to see him has been treating me since my teens. He knows my history ether than I do! When I call he always calls right back the same day! Him, not his nurse, and at one time I even had his home phone number b/c I was having issues and he wanted to make sure I could reach him. Even though he's at a big practice I never have to worry about someone else delivering me unless it's New Years and he's out of town on his annual ski trip. Hence me laboring for 2 days w/ my last holding out until he got home. He came straight from the airport to do my c-section!!!! I love him. Too bad there are so many doc's out there w/ such horrible bedside manner and those that have such little regard for pt's concerns. It's really sad. That's why the good ones are so over run and have to turn pt's away.
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November 21st, 2011, 12:49 PM
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my 1st pregnancy i hated where i went. i stuck it out though cause i didnt know any better. it was my first pregnancy i thought all drs were like that. this time i went to a dr my friend reccomended and they got me in early cause i have had a miscarriage and they were great. my main concern with my first dr was that there were like 7 or 8 drs in the practice and my dr told me i couldnt have more than 2 ppl in the room when i had 3 ppl i NEEDED there (my mom my twin sister and daughters father) how could i choose between them? i couldnt. thank god she did not deliver my daughter. the dr who did was great but i didnt even know her! so this time i wanted to have 1 or 2 drs that would be delivering. the new dr has the dr and a midwife. they were very nice to me and i got an ultrasound the first appointment which i loved! also my husband and sister went with me and they were ok with 3 ppl in the room at the appointment. they are laid back and the hospital where i will be delivering is one of the best in the area. i couldnt be happier with my decision to switch drs. there was just no way i could have some dr delivering my baby who i didnt know again.
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November 21st, 2011, 12:58 PM
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That's too bad that you started off with such a bad OB and you had to switch, but very good to listen to your gut. I wish I could refer you to mine, but she's in Hartford so I doubt you want to drive that far!
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i'm not switching although my OB didnt actually deliver Victoria since he wasnt at the hospital at the time its the Doc on call! but i had no problem with that! as for appts i loved him!

but i totally understand why your OB didnt make u comfortable! switching for YOU i think is important! i would if i wasnt comfortable with mine!! hope u like the new one!
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November 21st, 2011, 10:58 PM
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I had to switch OB's after DS#1 because the doc who delivered him closed his practice to take an administrative position in the hospital. I was so sad because I loved him.

I really didn't know where to start when I got pregnant with DS#2. My SIL was working at the hospital where I wanted to deliver at the time, so I asked her to ask around the maternity ward and see who the nurses there recommended (how a doc treats the nurses and support staff he/she works with says A LOT about them). There were 2 docs that came highly recommended, and I got in with one of them. The nurses were right - he was amazing with my second pregnancy and he is going to deliver this one too. He's an awesome doctor and totally puts my mind at ease which is so important during a pregnancy, especially when you've suffered multiple losses.
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November 22nd, 2011, 06:46 AM
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^^^That's sort of how I found my new Dr. I started with an internet search of who in my area does VBACs. I then asked a bunch of friends who are involved in LLL and the same name kept popping up. I finished by asking a LC at the hospital I'll deliver at. She asked a bunch of the L&D nurses and they all kept saying the same person that my friends suggested, so I went with her.
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November 22nd, 2011, 07:02 AM
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In the military I hardly ever have the same doctor, and the one who delivers just happens to be on there that night. So I am never able to grow that bond that so many do.
With my son I had the same doc maybe 4 times, and that was a complete surprise and I am glad that I had her that many times. It was nice not having to re-explain everything every time you went in.
But this time around. I am already having another doctor on my second visit.
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