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November 23rd, 2011, 08:10 AM
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So I am madly in love with my DF!! I truly am..

However hes driving me bananas!

For the last 2 weeks hes been bugging me to apply him to MTA jobs and to call then and try to get him an interview. Which I as the dutiful house fiance have been doing.. So he finally gets a call back for an entry position I applied him to. Its a crappy position and a crappy commute.. But he'd be making double what he makes now and theres alot of room for improvement in the MTA.. Your guaranteed a better job in at least 5 years! Well the lady from the MTA calls him (before the job went off the website.) That is so uncommon! If he goes hes going to get this job..

Now all the sudden hes like," I dont know if this is a good job.. I dont want to clean.. Umm how would I get there.. Its gonna be like 20$/a day in gas to commute to the train station.. Then a commute to work via the train.. I mean I have to do it for us but I dont know how Im going to."

I EXPLAINED THE JOB TO HIM BEFORE I APPLIED!!
THE WHOLE JOB!!
And he was like apply to everything, I need to get my foot in the door!

Hes being like eeyor and totally ruining this fantastic opportunity for him!
Im just pissed because I worked my tail off making his resume and applying to like a thousand jobs...

Grrrrrr Grrrrrrr Grrrrrr

Woo had to get that out!
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November 23rd, 2011, 08:16 AM
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Sorry hun, men can be such brats sometimes.
What´s MTA?
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November 23rd, 2011, 08:19 AM
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Metro-North Transit Association.
Its the railroads and buses in New York City.
Its a state position and a great job.
Great pay, great benefits, and great pension!
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November 23rd, 2011, 08:41 AM
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You better tell him to put on his big boy pants and deal with it! That's definitely a great opportunity for him! Sorry he's being a butt.
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November 23rd, 2011, 09:24 AM
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what is it with men and jobs? Mine currently doesn't have one because he thinks applying is too much work and he doesn't want a crappy unrelated job (we're students...crappy unrelated jobs are kind of what there is for us) -

Sigh, it sucks that you put in all that work and he's grumbling - hopefully he comes around, it sounds like a great opportunity. You def. deserve at least a thank you
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November 23rd, 2011, 09:40 AM
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Sorry he is being such a pain in the butt...i had a similiar problem with my df HR was out of work for 3yrs because he only wanted to take certain kinds pf jobs which didn't have openings...thankfully he now has a really good job, it just took a lot of time...so I totally understand your frustration.
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November 23rd, 2011, 09:52 AM
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I can totally understand your frustration too. My DH has been out of work for quite some time now, he is finally realizing that he just needs something for now until he finishes school and gets a permanent job, even if it is part time or whatever.

tell him to suck it up and get out there! LOL!
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November 23rd, 2011, 10:02 AM
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Yea and the worst part is his FAMILY ISNT HELPing!!

All theyre saying is the commute sucks and hes gonna quit...

Its not helping... -__-

And now hes saying its gonna eat up "us" time and he should just get a part time job and work 2 jobs...

I told him that whatever he decides ill still support him and love him but I think in a couple years he'll regret just taking a part time job and giving up this opportunity.

At least he agrees, but he says hes "just scared."
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November 23rd, 2011, 11:21 AM
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It is always scary with something new, that won't be any different for him whether he has a 2 minute commute or a 2 hour commute. You can tell him I said that...lol! He has to take a leap of faith and know that eventually it will lead to much better things for everyone! My DH was working 2 jobs and we hardly ever saw each other, one was full time, one was PT, but we made due with the time we did have together. The job isn't a 7 day a week job right?
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November 23rd, 2011, 11:44 AM
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It is always scary with something new, that won't be any different for him whether he has a 2 minute commute or a 2 hour commute. You can tell him I said that...lol! He has to take a leap of faith and know that eventually it will lead to much better things for everyone! My DH was working 2 jobs and we hardly ever saw each other, one was full time, one was PT, but we made due with the time we did have together. The job isn't a 7 day a week job right?
No he gets 2 days a week off..
Thats my silver lining
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November 23rd, 2011, 11:48 AM
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I feel you. The commute for my hubby into Houston is just over an hour with traffic. He drives the whole way too.

On the other hand, a state job is awesome! I worked for the county in las Vegas for years. Great retirement benefits. He needs to get his foot in the door and suck it up. They always pick from within first.
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November 23rd, 2011, 08:38 PM
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On the other hand, a state job is awesome! I worked for the county in las Vegas for years. Great retirement benefits. He needs to get his foot in the door and suck it up. They always pick from within first.
This. is. SO. true!!!! Do they tell you up front how long it would take to be considered for a transfer? Are there places closer to you where he can transfer? Maybe he will be happier if he looks at it as temporary?
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November 23rd, 2011, 09:43 PM
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I feel your pain.My man had been unemployeed for a long time when we found out baby was on its way he started looking but only for jobs that you had to be part of the company for a while but last week he put his big boy panties on and applied for everything he went to a blowing ally and jot a interview on the spot and the job the next day it's not glamouris but it brings in money I tell him I am proud of him everyday for not having to much pride to do a crapy job.
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November 23rd, 2011, 10:10 PM
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He better take that job! double what he's earning and you have a baby on the way?! I can understand his fears, I felt the same way before I started my state job about a year and a half ago. Even though I wasn't working I was hesitant b/c it was $20k less than I was making at my prior job and going in I was thinking of it as a "temporary stop", now I'm so grateful I took it. Flexible schedule (I work 10 hour days 4days a week instead of 8 hours 5 days a week) and I came in soon enough to be able to take the next promotion exam which I tied for 1st place on so the next available promotion should be mine and that would put me back to what I was making before. DH was more hesitant about me taking it than I was and now he says it's the best thing for us since I need a relatively hassle-free job. Unlike my private sector job where I only came home to sleep and change clothes for half the year (unpaid overtime at a Big 4 accounting firm), I get to leave when I'm supposed to, no one really bothers me, the benefits are great (I think I paid less than $2000 out of pocket for both my IVF cycles combined), and there is room to grow (most of the upper management will be retiring within the next 5-10 years).

Tell him he should think about what's best for your family and take it, the schedule may be rough for a little while but within 2 years he can probably transfer to a better position or a location closer to home. If he does two part time jobs that probably means no benefits and definitely no pension, not worth it in the long run.
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