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With baby #1, I saw 3 different OBs. #2 had the nerve to tell me that I gained too much weight I'd need a c-section...needless to say, I never saw him again after that appointment. I liked the last one, OB #3. I went to go back to her for baby #2 and found out that she was moving, and thus not accepting any future OB patients. So, I tried out another doc elsewhere...I didn't like her. I switched to another OB, didn't feel comfortable with her either. Then I thought..hmm..maybe I should try a midwife...found one who came highly regarded (did online research). I loved her! I'm going to her for #3 and all future babies. She is very rooted here, so not much chance of her moving and she's young enough that she'll still be in practice when I'm still in my babymaking years.
If you want the best chance to go natural, or to not be subjected to a cascade of interventions, a midwife is your best bet. Oh, and if you want to be able to birth without lying flat on your back, go with a midwife. But do your research, all midwives are not created equal.
The other difference I noticed is...they will spend more time with you...during appointments and during birth. I wasn't the type to have a million questions (btdt), so I didn't need to make use of that...but I think a first timer might like the extra attention during appointments. Mine took the time to get to know me, and during my m/c last year, even called randomly to check up on me. She knew me and didn't have to consult my files to remember everything.
I have had an OB for all my pregnancies but I think I would really prefer a midwife. I was going to use a midwife last time but then chickened out changing and stuck with the OB. This time I have the appointment set with the OB but that is only because we will very likely be moving in the next couple months and I didn't want to have to have my records transferred to a new place then move and have to transfer them again so I'm sticking with the OB at least for the beginning of the pregnancy.
Ruth - Wife to Scott, Mommy to Will (12/2007), James (3/2009), Ellie (11/2010), & Faith (9/2012)
Unless something drastic happens I will be going to the same OB who ended up delivering Boogie. I started with one dr in a certain practice at first and then got shuffled to the other dr and then finally at like 32 weeks i switched to OB#3 because I was too upset about the thought of delivering at the "knife-happy baby factory" that my first two OBs delivered at. I love everything about the 3rd doctor and am happy to drive farther out of the way to see her and deliver at the hospital I had Boogie at ((because that hospital ROCKED!))
Thank you GraysMama for my gorgeous siggy!
I had a cut happy OB the first who induced me before I was ready with out explaining the risks, ended up in a c/s 2 hours after my induction started. Went to a midwife for my second and had the VBAC my heart desired.
I wish I was able to see my m/w from last time, but we have moved and she isn't an option. But I am confident I will be having a second VBAC.
Missing Our Angels gone too soon 6/5/10 (9wks) & 3/1/14 (9wks)
Chemical Pregnancy 5/31/15 Adam Michael 9/22/06 (c-section)~Nathan Joseph 9/4/08 (VBAC)~Lincoln Thomas 9/5/12 (VBAC)