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April 5th, 2012, 03:27 PM
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So DH and I have not "done it" it in 21 days. OMG I feel like it's been forever The last time was the 15th. He had to drop off his "stuff" on the morning of the 17th for the egg retrieval and he had to abstain for 2 days prior. Then I was not feeling good that weekend so we never did it before the transfer. Now I'm almost 5 weeks(Saturday) and I'm going crazy. I want to be intimate with my DH but I'm not sure if it is safe yet. Should we hold off until u/s on 18th or go for it but be gentle?

What are your opinions?
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April 5th, 2012, 03:30 PM
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We've been DTD regularly. Is it not safe in early pregnancy? I hope I didn't hurt the little one
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April 5th, 2012, 03:41 PM
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It is COMPLETELY safe to DTD in early pregnancy..... in fact it is safe THROUGHOUT pregnancy. Do not worry - go and enjoy yourself!!!
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April 5th, 2012, 03:42 PM
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Ive been told its completely safe, but after my miscarriage in October my Hubby is scared to and I am kind of uneasy about it. We DTD a few times since finding out and I get cramps afterwards. Scary!
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April 5th, 2012, 03:43 PM
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I have always had it in early pregnancy before however this time i wont be until after 12 weeks (its going to kill me lol) on the advice of my doctor after my last pregnancy ending in mc.
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April 5th, 2012, 04:43 PM
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It is COMPLETELY safe to DTD in early pregnancy..... in fact it is safe THROUGHOUT pregnancy. Do not worry - go and enjoy yourself!!!
Phew! Thanks for telling us.
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April 5th, 2012, 07:08 PM
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I have always heard it's safe to. I'm just scared because of 2 previous m/c's and the fact that we did our 4th IVF and spent a boat load....make that ship load. I talk to DH about it tonight and he said NOOOO. He wants permission from doc. Plus he said he read somewhere about IVF and it said NO sex until a neg. test or you hear a heartbeat. I think I'm going to stick it out 2 more weeks for the u/s. I think it will make both of us feel better.

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April 5th, 2012, 09:26 PM
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We DTD nightly. Have fun! Its completely safe.
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April 5th, 2012, 10:26 PM
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as a matter of fact....i am doing the deed now ok just kidding but i have never heard that it was not safe but your circumstances may be different because of the IVF and although i dont see how it could hurt...i can see why you wouldnt want to risk it....so hang in there sis thats going to be a long 2 weeks
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April 6th, 2012, 06:52 AM
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We DTD regular as well but i understand why you are being precautious. Hope you get the go ahead from the doctor soon.
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April 6th, 2012, 07:02 AM
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That must be really rough, but with all you've gone through to get pregnant, I can certainly understand waiting. When is your apt with the doctor?
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April 6th, 2012, 07:07 AM
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It sounds like you already know just what to do here, Brynn. I think being cautious couldn't hurt, particularly since you've worked so hard to get that BFP. What's a little sexcrafice for the larger baby good?

But for the rest of us...we'd better enjoy DTD while our bodies are still "normal".
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April 6th, 2012, 08:10 AM
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That must be really rough, but with all you've gone through to get pregnant, I can certainly understand waiting. When is your apt with the doctor?
My u/s is the 18th....12 days away
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