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April 13th, 2012, 09:46 AM
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I am having a hard time keeping this little secret!! LOL Anyone else?? I want to blurt it out to everyone. Trying to wait until the 12 week mark. When are you waiting to tell everyone?
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April 13th, 2012, 09:50 AM
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Well my work knows and my mom nos, i havent told the kids yet or my inlaws, trying to wait as long as possible for that.
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April 13th, 2012, 09:53 AM
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I told my SIL, my Mom, my friend, my dad, and my FIL. I feel like that is way too many already lol! I couldn't help it!
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April 13th, 2012, 10:07 AM
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Ach, the secret part is so hard! Sorry to be Debbie the Downer, but I've had a few miscarriages and I just think about if I told early again and the aftermath and I'd rather just wait until we are into the 2nd tri. Untelling is so painful, especially when you have to do it over and over again. Especially with my mother, my last miscarriage in 2007 was especially hard on her because it was after we saw the heartbeat. I would sometimes call her up and she would already be crying, I just can't put her through heartbreak like that again. So, we wait! We are going up there for a visit the first week of June and I'll be around 14 weeks and we'll be letting the cat out of the bag then. So far, my husband, my dr, my best friend and two other friends know. I have a group of really close friends and we go to dinner once or twice a month and I do plan on telling them the next time I see them. I figure that I would want their support if I had another miscarriage, plus we tell each other everything, but the news spreading stops there until my mom knows. It was really hard keeping the secret - she stayed with us for the past few days and I have morning sickness so it was really tricky hiding it from her, esp because she is nosy!
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April 13th, 2012, 10:21 AM
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We've told immediate family and I told my boss and 1 co-worker. We are aiming to hold off on telling anyone else until we hear the heartbeat at my first OB appointment.
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April 13th, 2012, 10:28 AM
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I am pretty good at keeping things, but the DH on the other hand is not..... so far we have told:

DH best friend
mom
dad
grandparents
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brother

I really want to tell my best friend but i will prob hold out a couple more days... she will figure it out too!
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April 13th, 2012, 10:36 AM
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We have told everyone we can think of and anyone that pops up lol... I can't keep this to myself for very long
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April 13th, 2012, 10:42 AM
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We’ve told my best friend, my sister and my parents. Also, one co-worker knows too,but I don’t plan on telling work in general yet. We’re off to a fancy gala in a couple of weeks, so it’ll be interesting to see how many people guess when I decline my usual prerequisite glasses of wine. I plan on making a big deal of being the designated driver if anyone asks. We probably won’t tell our DD until we know this one is for sure sticky. And then I want to give her as much notice as possible to wrap her head around this new situation. Being 2 ˝ is just so hard. We did ask her if she wanted a sibling, and she said yes, and proceeded to tell us all about her friends at daycare that have a little brother or sister. But still…thinking you want a sibling and then actually knowing what to do once you have one = entirely different things.
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April 13th, 2012, 01:18 PM
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A few people know. But its horrible not being able to tell my mom and sister. I know its best to wait for a heartbeat which is what were doing but I want to tell them so bad.

Most people we are going to try to wait till after 12 weeks but that'll be hard too.

But you all make it easier being able to talk to someone about it
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April 13th, 2012, 01:22 PM
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So agree with Katie, it makes it so much easier to stay mum because of this DDC!
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April 13th, 2012, 01:31 PM
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Totally agree Katie!! Thankful for the group!! )))
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April 13th, 2012, 01:37 PM
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I have told only a couple girlfriends... and my sister found out (I was making my announcement... and she stopped by unexpectedly... part of it was in the living room and she noticed right away) ... I didnt want family to find out yet - not until we tell our Moms...


Were trying to wait until my first appt.
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April 13th, 2012, 03:41 PM
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I am in the same boat! We just found out that we are expecting #2 and are waiting to tell family until Father's Day. I will be almost 15 weeks by then. I haven't told anyone because DF and I agreed to wait until at least the 12 weeks mark. But DF has a big mouth lol. He has told his best friend, his other friend, another friend, his lawyer/accountant, two guys he knows from a store he delivers to, another bread vendor and who knows who else. I think it's kinda funny. We are telling his grandparents first for Father's Day since we surprised everyone on Father's Day with being pregnant with DD. It's hard to keep a secret because I want EVERYONE TO KNOW, LOL!
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April 13th, 2012, 04:08 PM
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I have told my work family. I'm an Occupational Therapist in LTC facilities so we normally do a lot of heavy lifting. I've told two friends. I haven't told my Dad yet, DH is solid that he wants to wait until after we see the heartbeat. Everyone else we are waiting until after 12w!

I agree though, keeping the secret it sooooo hard!!
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April 13th, 2012, 06:03 PM
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I've told my parents, my sister and my best friend....we're waiting till June to tell everyone else too. SOOO hard, plus I don't think my belly is going to stay hidden for that long.
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April 13th, 2012, 08:53 PM
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I am waiting until at least my first U/S which wont be until after 10 weeks. I do find myself telling a few people here and there ...then saying shhh dont tell anyone....come to think of it.....a few people know lolol NO FB announcements until probably 12-18 weeks
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April 14th, 2012, 05:35 AM
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I've only told my sister, my little guy (he's 2 1/2) and obviously my DH.
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April 14th, 2012, 06:23 PM
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I've pretty much told everyone. I am so bad at keeping secrets! My work knows, my students know, my family knows...lol...Facebook knows...
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April 15th, 2012, 08:50 AM
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I'm trying to keep it off FB until 12 weeks. I plan to post a photo of a "Bun in the Oven" that I found on google. lol
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