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May 7th, 2012, 10:19 AM
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So I think I found a gorgeous apartment in the right neighborhood at the right price. The downside is they renovated both bathrooms to have full size, walk-in showers. No tub!

Is this a total deal breaker? Do I need a tub for the baby? The DH said no, that we could get a baby tub at first and just shower later. I thought older babies/toddlers loved bath time?!?!? There is a pool in the building, so I guess we would still be able to play & splash around...

What's your opinions, girls?

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May 7th, 2012, 10:24 AM
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Me personally would consider it a deal breaker but I had a tub from the start with DS and when I attempted to give him a shower he freaked out. My DS loves bath time. If the apartment is amazing aside from that (and taking into consideration that you live in NYC) it may be worth it for you to go for it. Would you be able to change one of them back?
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May 7th, 2012, 10:25 AM
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Hmm, I think you could definitely work around this for the first 2 years or so with a baby bath. After that, showers could work or you could try to find some type of baby pool or wash tub that could work - or just go straight to showers. I don't think this is a deal breaker, but bath tubs are definitely nice to have when you have kids!

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May 7th, 2012, 10:25 AM
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I forgot to add. My DS was 9lbs 4oz at birth and only fit in one of the baby tubs until he was 3 months old.
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May 7th, 2012, 11:17 AM
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it would be a deal breaker for me as bathtime is our wind down time here before bedtime. Both kids get in the bathtub together and splash, play and get clean before bed time. A shower......a little bit more invigorating then relaxing........my son is still scared of the shower so we haven't even tried it yet with him.
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May 7th, 2012, 11:26 AM
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Not sure it would be a deal breaker but definitely a down fall for me. You could definitely get away with it for the first couple of years for sure with a baby bath or even a big plastic container (sounds funny but was a lifesaver for us). If it's an amazing apartment then I think I would get it anyway and just teach the baby early on about showers so they're not too freaked out about it. Just my 2 cents.
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May 7th, 2012, 11:34 AM
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My daughter was in the baby tub the first few months, then a blow up tub in our regular tub another few months. When she was standing DH started showering with her, and still does, so most of the time she doesn't use the bathtub. That's not something I would have thought of before she was born, but it just works best for us right now. If DH doesn't bathe her, sometimes I shower with her or give her a bath, but that is the one thing that has been his "job" since she was born, so it's not too often I have to do it.

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May 7th, 2012, 12:31 PM
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My nine month old is still in a baby tub lol I wouldn't call it a deal breaker, especially with the pool.
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May 7th, 2012, 02:12 PM
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How long would u be living there? We are looking for a new apartment too. Ive been on the phone all day with places. We will be living there for only a year. Since the baby wont be here until Nov/Dec then it would just be for awhile. No problem. If its for a long term place, deal breaker.

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May 7th, 2012, 02:15 PM
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If your looking for a prem living situation I would want a house/apt with a tub.... it is so much easier than a shower. In the shower I almost dropped my DD cause she slipped thank God I held onto her for dear life. DD also hated the shower, until recently.

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May 7th, 2012, 03:04 PM
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no because 1) you can get a blow up tub and just put it in the shower to bathe the baby in, 2) I actually preferred to wash Mallory when she was 6-12mos old in the shower with me and then I'd call Mike to come get her and I'd finish bathing. She hated the tub, would try to stand up, slip and fall and cry. 3) when she was little 0-6 mos, I just washed her in the kitchen sink.
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May 7th, 2012, 03:05 PM
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My kids are bath kids...but honestly, that may be because I conditioned them that way...lol! I wouldn't think of it as a deal breaker, as long as it doesn't bother you. I would just start showering with your little one super early, so there is no fear. They are like greased piglets though when wet!
A small blow up pool is an alternative...that just may get old quick with set up and clean up. But there is no reason why a child can't shower from the get go...especially if they know no alternative NYC is tough, sometimes you have to compromise to get a great space. Happy apartment hunting!

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May 7th, 2012, 03:52 PM
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Thanks everyone for the advice! We are thinking it will be for 2-3 years (basically until we figure out if we are going to buy something in the city or the 'burbs). Excellent ideas about the inflatable pools/baths and large "tubs."

We've seen so many places that I'm starting to get tired of looking. Either they are super nice buildings in crappy neighborhoods or OK spaces in nice neighborhoods. UGH! If I really like this place tomorrow, then I'm just going to have to make this no tub thing work. There's always a tradeoff

Why can't we just have, like, a billion dollars so I could buy Jeter's place???
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May 8th, 2012, 05:37 AM
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I'm going against all. I lived for the first 2 years without a tub. It wasn't great but you can manage. I bought this tub and it works great. Heck my baby (3 today) still fits and uses it when camping since it uses so little water. I just bathed them in the kitchen. I don't find putting the baby tubs in the tub easier than the kitchen since it's too much bending. I like the counter for drying afterwards.


I will not bother with the tub until they hit about 2-2.5 now. When I had my 3rd, one of the mom's (from another board) lost her son in a tub. She turned her head for 2 minutes and he drowned (in a baby seat). I never forgot and refuse to use the big one again until they were older. We also have a pool so during the summer the baby is in there.
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May 8th, 2012, 05:49 AM
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2 bathrooms seems like enough of a plus to outweigh the no tub thing. I know plenty of NYC moms that use the sink for a long while or just take a shower with the baby from early on.
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May 8th, 2012, 07:30 PM
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When i had my son all i had was a stand up shower and i used the baby bath for a while. If you plan on staying there 2-3 years then your other option would be buying a kiddie pool or something if you cant renovate the washroom.
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