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My neighbor, who I get along with pretty well (but don't really know much about apart from the fact that she is friendly and likes my dog) runs a home daycare.
Today I saw her for the first time in a few months (the weather has been awful so we were outside less often).
She was with one of the children she watches, a little girl who looks about 18-19 months old. The little girl started crying and getting really scared of my (leashed, calm, small) dog, though he was VERY far away from her. She's little, no big deal, I pick him up so he's not so scary. The nanny then said "don't worry Héloïse, he's on a leash". I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to announce that I'm pregnant and having a girl. She was really happy for me and congratulatory... but then made me decide I will NEVER ask her to do daycare for me.
She went on and on and on about how that little Héloïse has too much personality, is stubborn, tantrums, and that ALL girls with that name are like that, and to reconsider using the name at all.
a) she is TOTALLY out of line talking about some other woman's child like that, especially IN HEARING OF THE CHILD! Children can understand more than people think sometimes
b) if she REALLY thinks that names influence personality that much, I'm not sure I want someone so stupid watching my kid! The girl is probably just difficult because of the terrible 2s or nearly the terrible 2s.
c) Self-fulfilling prophecy! If someone assumes a child is going to be a brat, the child might actually end up acting out because of that. IDK
She then went on to tell me about the other kids she watches sometimes, including a little boy named Arthur (who was home sick today). 2 minutes later she gets back onto her tirade warning me against using the name I love and says that all the Héloïses and all the Arthurs she knows are bratty. Umm... Arthur is a common name but Héloïse? Isn't. I highly doubt she knows more than 2 of them. She really likes badmouthing the poor toddlers she watches to random people -- I'm just the neighbor. She doesn't know anything about me except that I love my dog and that I'm pregnant. So out of line!
She didn't make me feel badly about the name -- hers is the FIRST and ONLY negative thing I've ever heard about that name, and I've been reading forums in English AND in French for days now. But WOW. I feel bad for those kids and the parents who probably have no idea she is like that.