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I just checked out the photos of the hospital I would be having the baby in if I continue with my current doctor and well maybe it is the hormones but it looked like a scene from a horror movie. All cold and "medical". Is that how they all look? It is a good hospital and the biggest in the city but it made me want to cry to think of having the baby there. It says I can't have overnight guests and may be in semi private room. That isn't what I want.
There is a smaller hospital just outisde the city so 15 mins further away that looks so much nicer. Downside they are not fully equipped if something goes really wrong and then I would be almost an hour from the main hospital. They seem more focused on natural birth and having hubby stay overnight too. So would be perfect if all goes well but if not then it could be bad.
DHs don't count as overnight guests, especially in the L&D ward, so I am sure your DH can stay at the hospital. You can always call and ask to speak to someone from L$D and get the specifics. They just don't want a bunch of other people staying. Most hospitals I have been to have looked the same, but I have had great experiences!
DHs can stay in the room with you. Could you go take a tour of L&D before you make your decision? They usually try to make labor floors as "cozy" as possible nowadays, as much as they can with all of the medical stuff that they must have in the rooms.
I guess it just boils down to what you prefer and value for your labor experience
I agree about the tour. And I'm sure your DH can stay overnight. I've never heard of a hospital that wouldn't allow that. Online photos can be deceiving. My hospital doesn't look all that great online, but it is actually pretty cozy with hardwood floors and everything in the maternity ward.
The hospital where I will be at does not allow any overnight guests (but DH is not included in that- they actually have a semi-bed for DH to sleep). The semi-private room seems a little rough though.... that is a negative for me. I would ask to get a tour too... sometimes they dont update those pictures and things can be sooo different from what is online!
The hospital I deliver at offers tours, either scheduled, or at the end of any birthing classes, for free. I would just call and ask for a tour. Most of the time the pictures don't do it justice. But if it isn't very cozy, there is no limit on the things you can take to make it more cozy. You can bring anything you want, music, pillows or blankets, anything So you can always make it more cozy if it's seems too medical for you.
I reread the info and it is definitely no overnight visitors even your support people and private rooms are available but maybe full. I found some reviews online of the big hospital and all seem good.
I would prefer the smaller hospital but if something goes wrong I don't want to risk being an hour at least away from the medical help I would need. Especially if it turns out to be on a Canadian winter roads from hell day. It says some days the small hospital isn't even equipped for c-sectons. If all went well it sounds perfect but if not I would be screwed.
Wow, I'm surprised they have a L&D focus and aren't equity for c-sections! I think that would make me choose the big hospital. Personally, I'm hoping for a birth with as few medical interventions as possible, but I know sometimes things can go wrong & if they do, time is really not on your side. You could ask your OB what their opinion is. Maybe they have some insider knowledge.
The clincher for me would be the semi-private room. I had to share a room with a lady when I had Akadia and it was probably one of the worst experiences of my life. My hospital doesn't normally double up like that, but they were booked solid. If it happens again this time, I'm going to refuse to stay the second night.