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June 14th, 2012, 07:11 AM
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My husband has been back at work for two weeks now, and I've been home alone with Sofia (4 weeks today) and Jack (3.5 years old). Jack has been on my very last nerve doing everything he isn't supposed to do and being very defiant. I finally caved and hired one of my husbands co-workers daughters to come help baby-sit today. I feel kind of weak I guess you could say for paying someone to come over and help out when I'm here, but for the sanity of my whole family, it is a pleasant break. Sofia is less stressed today because I think she can sense my calmness, Jack is very entertained by his sitter Emma (she's 13) and it's just been a much needed break for me.

My husband is leaving with the military on July 5th for 24 days. We sat down last night and made a "help" schedule for me which is making me feel a bit better. My son will be going to daycare during the weeks that he's gone (mon-friday) and in the evenings from about 4:30-9pm, we have hired a home helper to come over and help with either Sofia or Jack so I can be sure to give them each quality time while their dad is away, and also so I can get some housework done or they can help me with housework. I still have pretty bad anxiety about him leaving for so long, but knowing that I'm going to have some help has made me feel a little better.

Oh yes, and my MIL will be taking my son to Iowa for 6 days while my husband is gone and it will be my first time away from my son for more than 2 days!

Okay, that's my vent for now...be prepared for more i'm sure as my husbands military training nears...
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June 14th, 2012, 07:15 AM
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I don't think that's weak or "caving" at all! In fact, I think it's an excellent idea that I may steal and I don't even have an older child.

The help schedule sounds like it's ...well, helpful! I can't imagine how stressful it must be for you to be facing those 24 days. One day at a time!

Hugs for you and your family!
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June 14th, 2012, 07:18 AM
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I think that's a great idea. If we could afford to do that we would too. My husband is military and will be gone for two weeks this summer as well. Sounds like you should be just fine with all that help. I'm sure you'll son will enjoy his time with your MIL.
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June 14th, 2012, 09:00 AM
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I don't blame you. On the weekends when DH is at work and Jackson is not in daycare, I have both kids I sometimes think I'm going to go crazy.
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June 14th, 2012, 09:39 AM
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It's not caving- it's surviving the best way you know! My DH has been out of town for the past month and I've been getting through things with some other mommy friends. They watch Allison, my 2 year old, at an activity for a while so I can spend time with JR, usually ending with a feeding so he will fall asleep! Then, they will watch JR while I get to play with Allison and give her some undivided attention.

Trust me, the first few days are the hardest. The older kid notices dad is gone and has to find their new normal. After a few days, you get a new pattern to your days (even if it's just figuring out how to take a shower, get dressed, and get out of the house!)
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June 14th, 2012, 10:47 AM
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I don't blame you. On the weekends when DH is at work and Jackson is not in daycare, I have both kids I sometimes think I'm going to go crazy.

How frequently does your son go to daycare right now?
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June 14th, 2012, 11:26 AM
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I'm glad you're getting a little bit of a break! It is hard... I'm really nervous about how I'm going to handle two once DH is back to work. And he's going away for 4 weeks in the fall. Yikes.
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