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August 1st, 2012, 06:57 AM
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Which do you think you are more like, attachment parenting or traditional parenting??
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August 1st, 2012, 07:34 AM
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I am kind of in the middle.

We currently co-sleep, but not by choice. I don't baby wear. I don't believe in crying it out when it comes to babies, but older children I only tolerate real crying and not "I want that" crying. I don't spank, but I do discipline.

I have no idea what box I would fit into.
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August 1st, 2012, 07:35 AM
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As a baby, Amelia is being raised in a blend of attachment and traditional but mostly attachment. Brandon and Kat were raised the same as babies and then it's slowly morphed into traditional as they have gotten older.

I baby wear, but it is just easier with Amelia, she likes to be held and we aren't using an infant carrier for her. We don't put up with whining crying either but real crying we do. We have spanked because there was a time when nothing got through to my son, but that didn't work either, so we didn't do it more then a few times. Brandon gets put in the corner, even in public (I did it at Convention and even in his classroom (2nd grade), he learned quickly to not talk back when he is in school).
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August 1st, 2012, 12:17 PM
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I think I do both.
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August 1st, 2012, 11:18 PM
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I think I'm somewhere in the middle as well. We co-sleep but thats just because it easier nursing them that way and I don't plan on having them in my bed until they are 5. And I do baby wear, my boys are good sleepers and eaters but they just love to be held like all day. And I think I will let them cry it out sometimes when they are older but I dont know these are my first babies
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August 2nd, 2012, 05:22 AM
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I'm somewhere in the middle. I do not co sleep but I babywear. I don't do CIO as a baby and I don't spank. I only stay at home for the first year so both my kids will have been in daycare.
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August 2nd, 2012, 06:23 AM
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I'm a lot more on the attachment side than traditional, but I don't cloth diaper.
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August 2nd, 2012, 09:33 AM
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I agree with Amy. I'm more attachment but not 100%.
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August 3rd, 2012, 08:46 AM
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I'm more traditional, but not 100% either. We don't cosleep or babywear, but I do breastfeed. Although I don't wear her in a sling or anything, I do hold her a lot and I take her everywhere with me when I'm not at work. I'm only part-time so that is a lot of the time that she is in my arms.

I will let Clara cry a little bit when I put her down at bedtime or naptime provided I know all her needs are met (fed, diapered, burped, etc.). I also listen to the cry before deciding whether to allow it to continue - you can tell by the intensity of the cry whether he/she is just fussing cause they are tired or they are truly distressed/need you in some way. I never ignore a distressed cry, but Clara will often fuss herself to sleep when she is tired - happens whether I'm holding her or not, so I might as well put her down in her own bed so that when she falls asleep she is already in the right spot. I also don't usually allow her to fuss very long either. If she hasn't fallen asleep within 5-10 minutes of fussing I'll go in there and rock her a bit til she is asleep before trying to put her down again. Most times though she stops fussing within that 5-10 minutes.
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August 4th, 2012, 04:12 PM
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I am definitely an AP parent all the way! Now I do work, but when I'm home he is in my arms or I'm interacting with him, I never let him cry, we cosleep and nap together on weekends, I baby wear, and breastfeed etc.
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August 4th, 2012, 04:29 PM
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Sometimes we let her cry because she just doesn't want to be held anymore (after a day of being held, I'm with her on that, tired of being attached and need some space) but it's only for a few minutes and she is either out, or we get her.
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