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August 14th, 2012, 04:06 PM
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i'm not sure what i want to do yet, i'm gonna try to breastfeed her when shes born , but i'm not sure i can stick with it. maybe i'm being a little immature about it, but i think it will feel weird, and the thought gets me uncomfortable. for moms who experience i could use your advice please!

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August 14th, 2012, 04:14 PM
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with both my boys i tried getting them to breastfeed, but my milk just never came in and it didnt work for their demand, Hunter lasted 2 weeks because i had to switch. my milk just never came in

with Van he was tongue tied and the ped KNEW he was in the hospital but never said anything to me, he was so severely tongue tied he couldnt latch on the boob, so by the time he was 3 days old, and it was corrected, he wanted nothing to do with the boob.. so i went to pumping and milk just never would come in.. i sat on the pump for 2 1/2 hours and would only get ONE ounce from BOTH sides, not EACH, but all together only 1 ounce.. obviously that wasnt going to work.

but i do really want to breastfeed, especially because both my boys had to be on goat milk and we are talking $400 a month on that crap with the recipe that you have to make with it.. and i dont want, or can afford to do it again.. but i wont starve my baby either, so heres to praying it works LOL

i personally dont think it matters if you give breast milk from the boob or from a bottle.. either way is still good for baby, theres millions of babies born prematurely where mothers only option was to pump and that is just fine too.. and if breastfeeding/pumping doesnt work at all.. dont beat yourself up for me. thats literally the best advise i could give about it, because when you make yourself feel like a failure, you get sooo frustrated with not being able to do it, which also stresses the baby out as well.. so thats no good for either
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August 14th, 2012, 04:15 PM
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Without a doubt, breastfeeding has been one of my favorite motherhood experiences to date.

My daughter just weaned at 2.5 years old, and it was bittersweet.

It's such a special bond, and it satisfies all of their simple needs in one. Food, comfort and physical closeness. It's free and you MAKE it for YOUR baby. It's the best food for your child.
The "weirdness" that you're feeling will probably pass. Let's face it, it's the most basic, instinctively natural thing you can do as a mom.

If something goes wrong, and mom must be on a medication or something, and can't BF, then formula it is. You have to feed your baby somehow, and either way, you'll have a happy baby.

Izzy was in the NICU for the first 5 days, and I pumped my butt off to make her as much milk as I could (which isn't a lot at the very beginning). She had no issue transitioning from bottle to breast.
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August 14th, 2012, 04:28 PM
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As much as I thought breastfeeding as a whole was a huge pain in my bootie, I did enjoy the actual process, cuddling with my baby and feeding her. We just had so many problems along the way with me not letting down right and having twisted and clogged ducts, mastitis, you name it. I found pumping easier in the end. I'm still going to start off on the breast again this time though. I do remember thinking it would be weird several years before actually having Akadia, but it didn't feel that way when I was actually doing it.

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August 14th, 2012, 04:34 PM
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I will do both. I will breastfeed but will have to pump for her when I go back to work. I'll breastfeed when I'm at home though. I have breastfed all of them for at least a couple months. I have breastfed most of them for a year or more.
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August 14th, 2012, 04:48 PM
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I can understand not knowing how it's going to feel! That's totally normal . I know when I was pregnant the first time I was so concerned it was going to be weird, or awkward, and uncomfortable. Well, come to think of it I was worried that parenting in general would feel that way . But instincts kick in and it just feels normal. It is uncomfortable in a new-thing kinda way for a few days while you are both learning the process, but, at least for us, once we had everything figured out and down it was most definitely worth it.

The first couple days were painful for me, between figuring out proper latch and my milk coming in, and the stress of it not happening sooner and him losing some weight. But with the support from others, 4 days later at the end of the 4th day when my milk finally came in I can still remember we had run somewhere to grab something and I went to nurse him next to his carseat because he was hungry and didn't want to wait to go somewhere else, and after about 5 minutes I look down and he is the complete picture of content, pulls away and has his first little milk mustache and everything made sense for me at that moment.. and sticking through it and keeping on and all that effort was well worth it at that point, and I think he thought so too, !

I tell everyone to at least give it a shot. Surround yourself with people who are knowledgeable and encourage breastfeeding, give it a little bit of time and try to make it work, and see how you feel then. I see a lot of people give it up on the first few days, b/c milk isn't coming or it hurts too bad, or it's uncomfortable.. and then they never get to experience the positive aspects of breastfeeding because they didn't give it a shot, or give it enough time.. but it's sooo worth it!

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August 14th, 2012, 04:58 PM
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I breastfed Liam for 8 months. I had major supply issues. I just wasn't producing enough. I still gave him everything I produced but I had to supplement with formula. I really hated that. My natural family planning practitioner said that my problem was that I worked and that's why I didn't produce enough. Not true! That comment really pissed me off. My mom stayed at home with both my older brother and me and she never produced enough milk for us.

My problem, I think, was that I just didn't pump enough. I was working full time back then and I'd only pump 10 minutes twice a day and when I was home I wouldn't pump, just bf. I tried fenugfreek and that didn't work either. So, my goal this time is to pump after every feeding. Hopefully, I'll produce enough this time. I don't want to ever supplement with formula ever again.

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August 14th, 2012, 04:58 PM
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In a perfect world I would breastfeed. I tried in the past but my milk would never let down. No matter what lactation consultants tried with me it was unsuccessful. They eventually would tell me that I needed to formula feed because they were out of ideas! I will try with this one but I am prepared to relive the past.

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August 14th, 2012, 06:09 PM
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Four words: Breastfeeding Class and Boppy Pillow!

I tried bf'ing my first and it HURT so bad I quit. With my 3rd I took a breastfeeding class and learned priceless info! I also learned that I was doing everything wrong the first time around.

And my boppy pillow was my lifesaver <3
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August 14th, 2012, 07:15 PM
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Scared to Breastfeed Article

You'll hear and read advice from both sides of the breast/bottle conversation. If you honestly want to try it, make sure you are informed by taking a class from your hospital, attending a La Leche League meeting, or working with an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultants). The more you know, the easier it will go.

With that being written, there are some health issues that could prevent successful breastfeeding. A good IBCLC can help you exhaust all options before giving up.
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August 14th, 2012, 07:50 PM
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It may seem weird, but once you actually do nurse baby it doesn't seem weird anymore. At least that was my experience, it was natural and a wonderful experience for me and my daughters. We had to work out a few kinks along the way, and there is no doubt the first week was hard and miserable and painful at times. But, once we made it over that first hill it was smooth sailing and a wonderful experience.
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August 14th, 2012, 08:02 PM
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I plan to exclusively breast feed the twins. I breasted both my girls until they were about 14 mos old, so I've never had to buy formula. I am researching all I can to be prepared to do it with two babies and luckily know a few twin moms who were successful in doing so sink have them as my support. One thing I would mention, is it takes commitment like you wouldn't believe. If you aren't 100% committed, then there is a lot of room for failure. I didn't keep any bottles or formula I the house bc I didn't want to be tempted, and trust me, you WILL be tempted!! I didn't respond to a pump well at all either, so I just ended up nursing them from the tap so I wouldn't have to worry about getting enough with the pump. I ditto the going to a class and having all the necessary supplies ready to go (lanisoh, hoppy, breast pads, etc) good luck!!
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August 14th, 2012, 08:17 PM
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I will start out BFing, but have to admit I am dreading parts of it. I hope I can remember the reasons I choose to do it while in the moment though because it is not something I enjoy (or at least the good moments are few and far between for me). I'm hoping to make it to at least 9 months like I did with Eli, maybe even a year.

If you truly want to BF, you definitely need to be committed to making it work and have a support system! The first 3 months were the hardest for me and I really believe if you can stay strong through those first 3 months it's smooth sailing from there!

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August 14th, 2012, 08:46 PM
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I will be exclusively breastfeeding. I BF Kaitlin for 13 months and she never had a drop of formula. Believe me, there were days I thought I should just go get some, but I powered through and took it one day at a time. I was so determined to not let her have formula because I only wanted her to have breastmilk. As much as it hurt in the beginning and was so exhausting, it is totally worth it and I will be doing the same thing this time around. I know if there is a will there is a way. If you don't make formula an option, then you will be more likely to BF longer!
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August 14th, 2012, 08:52 PM
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I plan to breastfeed, but will pump sometimes after the first two weeks because I know family and friends will want to feed him.

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August 14th, 2012, 11:09 PM
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I exclusively pumped with my daughter as she couldn't latch due to jaw issues.

I exclusively breastfed my son until 18 months

This bub will be breastfed too.
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August 14th, 2012, 11:16 PM
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It's really important to me that I breastfeed, however, if for some reason I can't I'm not going to beat myself up over it. I'm definitely going to try my best though.

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August 15th, 2012, 02:25 AM
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I plan to breastfeed and my goal is to make it to at least a year. I dont work so to me it seems really dumb not to. I have been having dreams about breastfeeding so I am looking forward to it.

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August 15th, 2012, 03:19 AM
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I'll be exclusively pumping. This is my first, and I have zero desire to breastfeed. I want my lil man to have the benefits of breast milk, and I really hope I'm able to produce enough! If I have to supplement, then I have to supplement. It is what it is.
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August 15th, 2012, 05:23 AM
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Originally Posted by rachkel View Post
I'll be exclusively pumping. This is my first, and I have zero desire to breastfeed. I want my lil man to have the benefits of breast milk, and I really hope I'm able to produce enough! If I have to supplement, then I have to supplement. It is what it is.
Just as a heads up, when I first started pumping, I was lucky to get an ounce from either side. The more I pumped though, the more I built up my supply. I was probably pumping every 2-3 hours right at the start. It took a good month or two but eventually, I was getting much more and after about 6 months, I was getting so much, it's almost embarrassing to admit to (I felt like a dairy cow). Just know that it might look like it's not working much at the beginning, but if you stick with it, you can build that supply up. It just takes time and you might have to supplement in the meantime and those middle of the night pumps are REALLY important at the beginning. If you wait too long between pumps, you will not build up your supply. Once it's built up, you can back off on the number of pumps. I eventually got down to 4 pumps a day with none at night and it didn't affect my supply. Also drink lots of water, mother's milk tea and Fenugreek and Blessed Thistle really help too.
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