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August 15th, 2012, 02:42 PM
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So this morning my mom calls me (she lives like 15 hours away in Ohio) and just lays into me how much she hates the name we have come up with (Benjamin). Tells me she just HATES it, how much he is going to hate it, all the Ben's she has ever known have been "pricks," (I mean, really??? who says that about their grandson???), how she doesnt understand how the two of us couldnt have come up with a better name.... blah blah BLAH.

Im so ticked off at her I could just spit. I had a baby shower later today so that made me feel better... But still. This woman is just about to drive me crazy.

And for those who might say that's why you keep it a secret..... Well, trust me, she would have let me know how much she hated she name when he was born, although I wouldnt want to deal with that and all the PP hormones all at once because I might punch her!!!!
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August 15th, 2012, 02:45 PM
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Oh... I am so sorry.... Seriously.. Maybe he will be the Benjamin to turn it all around for her

Even if that is how she felt she should have kept it to herself... I'm sorry you had to go throught that
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August 15th, 2012, 02:47 PM
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Sorry she has to realize ur baby u name him! Overly opinionated people suck!
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August 15th, 2012, 02:56 PM
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Oh no, I am sorry you had to go through that. My grandma did the same thing to me when I was pregnant with DS. I just told her "while I respect your opinion, he is my son and I will name him what I want. You already got to name your children, now it's my turn to name mine"
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August 15th, 2012, 03:02 PM
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That stinks. I know everyone doesn't love the name we picked, but meh. It just sucks that it's your mom acting like that. It's amazing to me how much people think we want to hear what they think about our decisions.
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August 15th, 2012, 03:13 PM
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I don't believe in keeping the name a secret (i'd rather know whatever crazy thing people are going to say before I make my final decision) but it sounds like she has gone off the deep end. Don't let it bum you out - Benjamin is a lovely name.
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August 15th, 2012, 03:13 PM
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I am sorry to hear that she reacted that way. Totally not cool. It sucks that she is acting that way but in the end it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks at all. Personally I like Benjamin is a great name though!
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August 15th, 2012, 03:19 PM
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I think it's a classic name! My parents don't like our current fav (Oliver) either.
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August 15th, 2012, 03:24 PM
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That sucks that she doesnt like the name.
I personally think its a great name!
And know very few "pricks" that are named Ben, more often then not they are noraml, nice dudes.
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August 15th, 2012, 05:15 PM
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I'm sorry that she was so rotten about voicing her opinion. It's YOUR baby not hers. A lot of people didn't like our name choices but we're happy with them and that's all that counts. Besides, now all the nay sayers can't imagine our kids having any other names so it all worked out in the end
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August 15th, 2012, 05:42 PM
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I hate when people act like that. My mom doesn't like the middle name for our daughter because it doesn't flow to her. But who cares what she likes. I don't like my name but she didn't give me a choice...it's your child and I like Ben and know lots of great kids an adults with the name. Hopefully she will warm up to it and not get to crazy with her opinions
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August 15th, 2012, 06:24 PM
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Oh no, I am sorry you had to go through that. My grandma did the same thing to me when I was pregnant with DS. I just told her "while I respect your opinion, he is my son and I will name him what I want. You already got to name your children, now it's my turn to name mine"
I totally agree with the part in quotes! My mom didn't like Isla's name when I was pregnant with her and I pretty much told her the exact same thing.
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August 15th, 2012, 08:05 PM
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I'm sorry. That is really mean to say that.

If we were having a boy Benjamin is a name I really like if it makes you feel any better.
Hope she comes around to accepting the name because its her grandson.
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August 16th, 2012, 06:46 AM
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No way! I can't believe she said those things to you. Wow, I'm sorry. Benjamin is such a classic, timeless name, though, so I don't get it. I could see maybe if it was something really out there, but still, it's your and DH's decision, not hers. So if you love it, use it, and don't let her get to you!
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August 16th, 2012, 07:05 AM
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Wow. What a really and totally crap thing to do to your daughter!

Personally, my preggo hormones may not have stopped me from saying, "Well, we were going to name him____(insert your mother's name here)____, but then the only people that I know with that name are complete beyotches, so..."

But seriously Hilary, how DID you respond to her?
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August 16th, 2012, 02:21 PM
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How did I respond? I dont really remember I was so upset... But I said something like how Im sorry you feel that way but it's our baby and we have already decided on the name... She said something about people calling him Benny Hill? She said its some raunchy comedian? Well I told her I had never even heard of him and I doubt anyone we hang out with does either (we're church folk LOL) and neither will his friends, so I really dont care! At some point I had just had enough and hung up on her. I havent talked with her since and I really dont want to talk to her anytime soon! She hasnt even come down to see the girls in over a year so its not like she'll have to see him all the time, thank goodness.
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August 16th, 2012, 02:36 PM
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Yeah, Benny Hill is an OLD time comedian. More like my grandparents age (80+)...but now I think you've just picked out the perfect nickname for your little one. Bet your mum would love that, Hil!
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August 16th, 2012, 02:39 PM
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LOL! Yes. I think Ill start calling him Benny when Im talking around her just to tick her off, hahaha... Just kidding, but really. Why do I care about some old comedian? LOL Trust me, I know ALLLL about being teased because of a name!
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August 16th, 2012, 05:31 PM
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How did I respond? I dont really remember I was so upset... But I said something like how Im sorry you feel that way but it's our baby and we have already decided on the name... She said something about people calling him Benny Hill? She said its some raunchy comedian? Well I told her I had never even heard of him and I doubt anyone we hang out with does either (we're church folk LOL) and neither will his friends, so I really dont care! At some point I had just had enough and hung up on her. I havent talked with her since and I really dont want to talk to her anytime soon! She hasnt even come down to see the girls in over a year so its not like she'll have to see him all the time, thank goodness.
Wow that is too funny! I think Benny Hill is pretty hilarious... and yeah, he was raunchy back when he was popular, but he's pretty tame by today's standards. That's possibly the weirdest reason for not liking a name I've ever heard!
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August 16th, 2012, 07:52 PM
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LOL Your mom so just aged herself! Benny Hill was just a skirt chasing comedian from waaayyyy back. And so what if she thinks that...like you said, she doesn't even see her grandkids! All of the Bens and Benjamins I've ever known have been intelligent, sweet, handsome, writer types...not that it matters one bit either way. Thank God you got your manners somewhere else! Sorry you went through that.
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